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Tuesday, August 08, 2017

I AM NOT THE SAME PERSON!

I mentioned in one of my previous post that some of my values have changed due to experience and environment. I will try my best to explain it, so there won't be any mis- understanding as it happened when I made my inner confession public. This might be a long read because I will simply go with the flow of my thoughts, without editing .... so bear with me.

I worked before I got married and the team spirit was imbibed in me. If you like to go solo, you will be seen as 'your-own-too-much-kind of person' or 'I-too-do-person', and you might not be liked for that! So, imagine my surprise, when I saw the reverse is the case here! It is; I, me and myself, even in a team! I couldn't understand the 'self-centeredness-mentality in work places, everyone was simply covering their ass and doing ONLY their jobs assigned to them! I had to learn the hard way that there is no 'we' in a team! I later knew the reason behind this concept ... some people will want to take advantage of you! Like monkey dey work, baboon dey chop! Some just want the paycheck without pulling their own weight around! And they see an enabler as bad as the enablee! (is there a word like that? ahahha, but you get the gist sha?)


Some times, I have to be fighting a battle inside me ... Do it! Don't do it! Do it! Don't do it! Few times I give in and do it because, what is in you, is in you! Sometimes I will 'strong' my mind wella like stone and look the other way ... why? Simply because nobody gives a s***,  as long as the work got done! Oga at the top just wants to see the end result, Shikenah! It is when there are drawbacks or cracks, they now take a look to see where the problem is coming from, before it would be addressed, or else you will be working like 'jackie', and be collecting the same pay, afterall, dem no send you message! Infact, when they know you are good at what you do, they will add jara sef! When a co-worker advised me in my former place of work, I thought she was joking, until I experienced it, then me too, borrow small sense and re-adjust.



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Lemme share these instances with you. In my former place of work, when we received packages from the mail, anything that cannot enter the trash can beside us, we took it to the back, into the big garbage bin. So, I came in one night, and saw empty big boxes by the hallway, after 2 days, nobody threw it away ... maybe the person travelled to the moon, I eventually picked it up, only to come the next night, and there were another big boxes! SERIOUSLY???!!! This person must be a joke! Back from the moon abi? Maybe she had a hired help, I didn't know about? I just jejely waka pass and throughout that night, I took another way, just to avoid seeing it and be tempted to remove it! My other co-workers no send! Let me digress here ... many bloggers and readers thinks I like wahala ... but I have said it here before, I don't like trouble, to avoid  any form of confrontation, I can take another route or walk away, but when I am left with no choice, then I bare my fangs! The boxes were there until I went for my days off, when I came back, they were gone and the person did not put more! What happened? I dunno! Maybe her hired help quit?



My new place of work is smaller, so we are told to clean after ourselves, before the next shift comes in, unlike my former place where we had housekeepers. You will think, what is the biggie right? Well, it will surprise you that some don't know or like to 'wipe their own butt!'  Many times, I had to empty other people's trash before I start my own duties, it got to a point I left a note on the board for them to take out their trash ... FOR WHERE! Instead, it was ripped off and thrown away! I see! I said to myself! 'No problemo!' So, they knew what they were doing ba? They next nights, I kukuma, shift their trash to one corner, found alternative, and emptied mine! After some days, I think someone noticed it, and they now clean after themselves! One should learn not to take crap, because you want to be the bigger or better person ... it does not help in all situations. Simply choose wisely. The day a co-worker bluntly said it was not her job, when a manager asked her to do something another co-worker 'neglected' to do, I said YES! You wan mess with akata? My oyibo manager go do the thing  jejely! Since then, the manager became strict with that shift! 



I have also learnt to squarely face my lane! As long as it is not my a** on the line, it is not my problem! This much my co-team worker told me when I pointed out an observation to him regarding one of his duties, that it will cause problem later. I apologized to him, while saying OUCH! OUCH! OUCH! inside of me. It was none of my damn f*****g business, right? But you see, my manager and I ended up doing it the next day, when the problem happened! And he was off!  This made me strong-minded not to help him with any of his duties like I was doing before. This co- worker is the weak link in our wheel of operation, not because he does not know what to do ... he simply didn't want to do it or couldn't be bothered! His lackadaisical attitude drove us crazy that we just had to accept him for who he is ... if na dudu, he for don get the boot! Another lesson learnt .... you have to live with people's flaws as they also tolerate you!


Smoking! HUMPH! By force by fire, I have become a secondary smoker which is worst than the primary smoker! I don't like it and will never like it!  The smell is choking and nauseating! NO! I don't hate those that smoke oo. It happens during our break; I wait for them to finish first before having mine or I have mine first before theirs, but I will miss the 'juicy wine from the office grape-vine'. Yep! Many unofficial information are discussed between the smokers, because oga  sef join! 


Which reminds me of the novel I read several years ago, about an employee who had to join the smokers club because she was always left behind promotions. She later found out that, when they smoked, both ogas at the top and subordinates became friends and important unofficial info was leaked out at that vulnerable moment! She was puffing fake cigarettes, and became friendly with her boss, later she got promoted, her boss found out about her 'act!' So, what I'm saying? Sometimes, you've got to do, what you've got to do to survive, stay afloat or be at the top and when the consequences comes, SUCK it up! 



I have nice neighbours who are smokers and Christians too! Truthfully speaking, I have not seen it in the bible where it is a sin as I was taught in Nigerian churches. It is simply unhealthy. Many smokers are kind, helpful than some of our so-called christian brethren! Smoking is seen or accepted like, when you get hungry, eat! Or when you get thirsty, drink! It is nothing to them here, that is why I was not surprised to hear that some doctors and priests smoke! The problem is the addiction and upgrading to something higher which is dangerous. SO! I told them,the smell bothered me, and they were gracious enough to sit several feet away from me when smoking, and I bury my nose inside my blouse ... I look funny doing that ... but that is the price I have to pay to be in good rapport with my team, afterall, no man is an Island.



WELL! Daz all for today ... I have bored you enough for now .... maybe some other time! 

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5 comments:

  1. lol@ nitty

    guess the cultures are different.

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    1. Yes oo, Dolly.
      SOOOO different!

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