It has come to our notice that, you are calling us intolerant, when it comes to our in-laws.That if, it were our own parents and siblings, we would welcome them happily.
Hmmm.... it is not as you think ooo, our dear husbands; The crown on our heads, the owner of our heads, the glory of our heads, the one that paid our dowries, the father of our children, the one that makes our heart go, jigidijigidi, like locomotive engine, the one that knows where our 'mumu' button is and press it wella, the one that knows how to make us scream out your name in pleasure! Please hear us out.
How do you want us to feel, after sweating it out in the kitchen and our food was rejected by your siblings or parents, the same food you and our children ate? The same food, you gave your hard-earned money to cook for the family? Is it easy to be thinking of a balanced meal 3x a day, 7 days a week, 30 days a month and 365 days in a year? We are not running a hotel or restaurant that one can pick their meals!
We take care of our children, you,ourselves, as if that is not enough, we will still be expected to look after your siblings and parents who will not help in anyway! We are not snow-white that sang for birds, rabbits, cats, rats and roaches that came and helped her with house chores! Imagine, sweeping, washing dishes, doing the laundry, and cooking for many adults and children! One person for 7 or more people? Do the maths na! 1 divided by 7? Is it not in negative? We are not super-women like Clark's cousin ... whats her name again ooo ... we can't remember jor, because our head is so jammed up with many things to do! HABA! We are not maids in our homes but your partner!
Our husbands' house is our matrimonial home, our manor, our domain, NOT an extension of your parents or siblings house! OUR rules not theirs! So, it annoys us when your siblings or parents wants to impose their ways on us in OUR territory! HABA! When you are in Rome, behave like the Romans! If they will stay with us, then abide by our rules!
Do they know your finances? We ask because, we don't understand the constant demands and expectations from us! So, we cannot 'drink water and put cup down again' without them wanting to drink from the same cup? We know you have an obligation to them, but at the expense of your own children and wives? Is it a stranger that will train your own children? YES! Your parents sent you to school or trained you, if they did not, you will be a problem to them not to us! This is the blunt truth! Afterall, their own parents trained them! That is the cycle or wheel of life,and you will have to train your own children! Shikenah!
How is this different from our own siblings and parents when they come abi?
HAAA! It is different oo! Just like 7up! Our own siblings or parents will not fold their hands, or lift up their legs for us to sweep under their feet, when they see us busy, they will help us with the chores. They will not reject any food we cook and if we are broke, they will assist us in any little way they can and they will obey our rules which might not be different from the rules in our maiden home because the honest bitter truth is that, it is the women that OWNS the home, not the man! You still doubt us? Ask your mothers then!
And before you men point the obvious that someday we too will be in-laws in future, we know and say a resounding AMEN! Any Nigerian in-law and person who respects him/herself, will adhered to the wise saying in proverbs 25:17 from the wisest king who lived on earth ...