Many times, I have heard these words; 'Don't take it personal!'. 'Keep it professional!' And I have wondered how? When you are working with humans and not robots? Yet, they say be 'passionate and committed to your job'! Again, I ask, 'how can you do that if you don't give your all? To explain my point clearly, lemme gist you what went down in my place of work.
I started a new job 4 months back and was working with my night manager. Unknown to me she and the day manager had an 'ish' going on and I was caught in the middle ... a tale of 2 elephants fighting and the grass suffering for it! No matter how hard we worked, no good feed back! When we handover our reports in the morning, her written comment to our GM was not encouraging at o! From a scale of 1-10, it was like 2! Yeahh, it was that bad!
Did I like her? NOPE! From day one of she walking through the door on my first night, there was anger all over her and she was so cold ... that the smile froze on my face when I wanted to say hello. She barely gave me a glance ... she no care who dey there! Having gained experience from my former place of work, I too boned her and faced my lane. For a week, I never said a word to her! She was the one that started greeting me ... I replied if I like ... but I made sure I don't ever greet her first! Since, I am the type that wear my heart on my sleeve, no matter how hard I try to hide it, she knew I was pissed off with her!
SO! As I was saying, I didn't know what was going down between both of them, but I was not happy with her feedback because it will reflect on my appraisal! Is my own night manager without her flaws? NAYYY! She get her own for body as every human being including me ... but she is a drama queen with a capital D! She is nice but manipulative! When I knew it had nothing to do with the way I work, but, just sheer vindictiveness on the part of the day manager, I tried hard not to let it get to me and continued to do my best, which the GM noticed and appreciated, but officially, we were not doing good enough!
Then, the night manager allowed herself to fall into the trap of the day manager! She started dating a co-worker which was against the company's policy! Of course, her foe heard, called GM, who in turn called our oga at the top, with immediate alacrity, she and her lover were transferred to different branches! I only came back from my 2 days off and met a new night manager, who is a friend to the day manager ... and yep, our report became very favourable ... from a scale of 1-10 ... we got 8! How? Are we doing anything different? NOO! It was purely 'bad-belly tinz!'
And people say, it is nothing personal? We should be professional? Have I come to like the day manager? TAAA! Her personality is vile! This much a GM from another branch complained about! Can you believe my own GM didn't like my night manager and was happy she had left? And, am I glad she had gone? Sincerely yes! Why? Simply because there is no more tension in the office! And I don't have to be at the receiving end! JEZZZ! Sometimes I was tempted to knock their heads together!
The blunt truth is that personal emotions cannot be separated from professionalism, because humans are social beings! Yes! I know in the legal and medical field is is strongly advised not to let that happen but s*** happens all the time!
Happy celebrations to all Muslims. Barka de sallah.