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Monday, April 17, 2017

HEY! JUST FORGET ABOUT IT!

Hubby was watching a Yoruba movie when I walked into the sitting room. I asked about the storyline. He said, it was about a man in Nigeria who begged his best friend from abroad to marry his wife, because they were poor. 'Hmm, they will fall in love and she will leave her husband in Nigeria'. I said. 'You have watched it before? 'Nope!' I replied, and went back to what I was doing. After he finished watching it, he came to the bedroom, and asked, 'how did I know?' I shrugged and said, that was obvious, and we began to gist about relationships.

I know, I can be too candid for my own good, but the blunt truth is that, when it comes to relationship between men and women, it cannot be predicted! Anything, can happen, especially behind closed doors! See beauty and the beast! (some memes claim it is Stockholm syndrome that happened to beauty 😀) Some people will come to make noise on social platforms or boast to their friends when gisting, but in privacy, they will either kneel down or prostrate on the floor to beg or ask or talk to their spouses. Forget many of the comments and posts you read on social platforms o! Even if, you live in the same house with the couple, do you sleep with them? 

Abroad can be a lonely place for an adult without family or companion, especially during the winter season. A Nigerian man married an American lady who participates in everything we do. She helps with cleaning and serving guests that the men were impressed,and praised her for wanting to be like a Nigerian woman while the Nigerian women are trying hard to be like the American women. She laughed and said, 'they are still young {she is in her late 40's, her kids have graduated from college), by the time they get to my age and phase, they will seek for a companion, because loneliness is not good'. This is why a family friend who is a divorcee ( her first husband tricked her to get his papers) is about to marry a divorced man from Nigeria in few weeks time. We are seeing red flags,but, she is ready to take the risk, (at least for the next 6 years she won't be alone and who knows, he won't leave her), because she is so depressed! The documented Nigerian men in yankee just want to 'chop and clean mouth', and they don't want 'after 2' as a wife! And, she does not want to be used as a 'ladder' again by them! 

I remember a family friend who was being asked out by her boss who will also know! We advised her to resign because she was the 'good girl' who kept herself for a very long time and had only one relationship. Her boss was able to 'box' her into a corner and she fell yakata like a pack of cards! He sent his wife out, and married her! As my country pipo talk, 'cane used to flog the first wife, na for ceiling dem hang am!' He showed his true colours after she dropped one, that she had no choice than to move out!  He divorced her and went back to his first wife! We never saw it coming! That he would even leave his first wife because he caught her young in the church! He was her first and only man! And he was a strong believer in the word, active in the church and held a position in the church! NOPE! He was not jazzed! He simply wanted a male child and our family friend gave birth to a girl!

This is the reason, we don't understand why some people are in a relationship or marriage, with all the drama involved! It could be because of loneliness, sex, money, apart from societal and religious expectations. So my guys, make we start to dey mind our beewax, and stop being 'tappers!'

P.s, Hmm, my pipo say, since, the bird has learnt to fly without perching, the hunter has also learnt to shoot without aiming! Spammers are really doing something to blogs o! I had notification for 23 comments to be moderated, only to login,...spams! I also get spams from other blogs I comment in, that I don't click the follow up comments again. Hence, I removed the comment section in my blog, since it is only 0-3 comments in a post. IF you have anything to say to me, my email is by the right column. Thanks for your understanding. 

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