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Sunday, January 29, 2017


'STOP BEHAVING LIKE A MARKET WOMAN!' These words are usually used by Nigerians to cuss out people. I have not heard any Nigerian cuss out, with;'STOP BEHAVING LIKE A MARKET MAN! Why? It is because,men-traders are called business men! These words are used derogatorily because traders are loud, calling out to customers to patronize them, they quarrel with their neighbours if they tried to lure a customer away from them, and when offended they curse out using expletive words! And I wonder how this is different from what I read and see everyday in social media, amongst politicians, neighbours, friends and work places huh?

The Nigerian market woman is not respected ! But, many are mothers to graduates, millionaires, billionaires. celebrities,that  people wish to meet or marry! And some successful children are ashamed to mention their mothers sell/sold in the market! I see such children as ungrateful! Many have built successful business from scratch and are employers of labour! Many families today, are living off the legacy left behind by their mothers! An elderly woman in her 70's has a company that distributes goods, with graduates as accountant and sales reps! She said, she started selling under the bridge by 7up-Ijora (people living in Lagos will know there).

Nigeria markets are very busy and noisy because people from all walks of life visit there and you expect it to be without drama? WHOSAI! Even in boardrooms, quarrels do arise! Some clients or boss will download your life's history for you, if they are disappointed with your service or lost money in a business transaction! HUMPH! A friend said she visited her husband and he was in a meeting with his business partners, so she waited for him. She was surprised to see them shouting at each other, having a big quarrel, that she became worried, thinking the partnership was over! After a while, they came to an agreement and business continued as usual! How is that different from what we see daily in the market place? OH! Is it  because the market woman is not dressed spiffy and in a fancy building? I hear! With the flowing gutters, muddy ground, garbage strewn here and there, flies and rickety vehicles pumping out black smoke?  

Yes o! Even that tomatoes seller is someone's mother whose child can be a president tomorrow! INFACT! In this time of recession, the market woman is 'bae' now! She determines the price she wants to sell her goods, and you will buy by force by fire! You will be the one begging her to reduce price sef! She is the reason some homes can boast of a meal a day, because she sells on credit to them! She is a therapist to many women who feel comfortable unburdening themselves to a stranger who might not see them again for a while. They are more enlightened about the realities of life because they deal with all kinds of people and learn a thing or two from them.

The Nigerian market woman is a hardworking individual who against all odds strive to ensure her family don't go hungry and her children either learn a skill or get a university education to pave their own path in life. Hence, they should be accorded all respect because it is not easy all! 

My favourite market woman was the lady who sold soup ingredients. While grinding my ogbono/egusi or slicing vegetable, we would gist, together with other women waiting for their items. So tell, who is/was your favourite market woman and what do you talk about while waiting for your items? Infact, It was from a market woman I knew that 'the rich also cry!' (who remembered this old soap opera in the early 90's?😄)  Gracias! 

Monday, January 23, 2017


Hey! It's not too late to say HAPPY 2017! Right?  Who made new resolutions? I am not good at making and keeping any! I Simply make certain changes and try to be consistent. I took a long look in the mirror and decided that I will be a person of fewer words, but when I kept quiet people asked me if I was ok? Even my hubby gets worried when I don't reply back with a thousand words per seconds! AHAHA!

I observed that people talk more on topics that bothers them the most. For instance, Bollywood movies stress more on love-marriage because arranged marriage is part of their culture. Nolly-wood portrays our fetish side because voodoo is one of Nigeria problems! Holly-wood emphasis on family-bonding, because it is lacking here! While, I write more about entitlement mentality and our traditions, because it pisses me off!

I worked on Christmas, boxing day, new year eve, new year,and my birthday. I have to find a hidden spot to say my new year prayer whilst my husband and kids did theirs at home (first time in our family). Most times, work comes first, and the family bears the brunt. Remember, I told you guys how I asked for a night off to prepare my kids for their new day at school and my request was declined twice? I insisted, and, it was approved reluctantly! I was surprised, because I believed family came first!  A co-worker had to resign 3 weeks ago, when she could not cope leaving her children alone at night with her sibling. Her husband works in a different city. Before she started having kids, she did 3 jobs, now, she cannot cope with 1 because her family comes first!

I requested for 5 days off (it was quickly approved oo, so I can go with my wahala ... ahahha) to have quality time with my family ... only to fall sick! It was yesterday, I felt much better and went to church for the first time this year. It was refreshing; 30mins for worship, 1 hour for sermon, and back home by 12 pm! No paparazzi or whats-not! Being AS, I seldom fall sick, but when I do, you will see it in my eyes. Hence, whenever I complain of being sick, hubby knows, it is serious! He sees me as a super-woman! I have told him several times, I AIN'T ONE! Why will he believe when my previous and current wellness results says other wise huh? 

It amuses me when I see the surprise on people's face when my blood work results comes in. I am like; seriously? Because, I am plus size, then I will not be healthy? We are a product of our environment and lifestyle. We should all stop judging a book by it's cover! That was why I was surprised that this particular post got the highest traffic, for the fact that only one person commented! It's not always as it seems. This applies to every aspect of our lives.

my 2016 wellness result

I want to hear from you guys, will you choose work over family?
Thank you and have a blessed week ahead.