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Tuesday, December 26, 2017


This is the 6th Christmas I am celebrating in yankee, and it gets better by each year. I  observed that, it is not so different from the way, we do it back home; People traveled to be with their families, parents and relatives. So I wonder where we Nigerians got the misconception that oyibo people don't have culture or don't like associating with their families? And why some Nigerians are trying so hard to celebrate it in the 'oyibo way' in 9ja? Maybe the wrong perception was gotten from movies or the exaggerated tales from some Diasporas? 

The truth is, there is more fun when festivals are celebrated together with friends and families. At least a day out of 365 days can be enjoyed together, setting differences aside as a race, tribe, denomination, politics e.t.c.

It is this 'joy' that makes people bond .....  and yes, I know December 25th is not Christ actual date of birth (no documented records) and the celebration have been commercialized. But as long as you and I know the reason for the season; 'Joy to the world, the Lord has come!' Let the earth receive her King!' ..... We will celebrate!

Wishing everyone of you a Merry Christmas and  Happy new year in advance.
By HIS infinite mercy and grace, we shall all see  2018. Amen.

Tuesday, December 19, 2017


I was told to watch the hot single boss lady; A short,simple and well edited movie. The first thing that struck me, was the title and poster; It did not go with the theme of the movie: It was about a lady who had to survive with younger sister by ' lying on he back'. The younger sister was ashamed of her older sister who was in the oldest trade ever known to mankind, and denied her existence when it came to the most important thing in her life  .... you can watch the rest in you-tube.

My questions are; Didn't her profession teach her to use protection always? At least this much I saw in the first scene, when her younger sister refused to pick up a used condom on the floor. And do her profession care if the clients are married or not? Is their motto not: Money for hand, and back for ground? SO, WHY DID SHE HAVE UNPROTECTED WITH HIM? And TOLD HIM SHE DOES NOT DO MARRIED MEN? This is because she slept with the manager of the bar so her ungrateful younger sister can get a job, and  at that desperate moment, did she care if the manager was married or not? The writer of the story wants to portray the idea of a 'good girl' in the eyes of the viewers.

Why was the married man seen as the victim? He CHEATED on his wife! How can a CEO of a company don't know how to fight with any missiles in his hands for his own company, that he built from the scratch and with his sweat?  That it has to take a complete stranger to tell him what to do? And by the way, was she sourcing for clients at the beach or relaxing?

Now, lets talk about the ingrate younger sister shortcomings/ insecurities; A young orphaned girl without parental love, who had to watch her elder sister sleep with different men, likely developed fear of being abandoned and lack of trust for men. She is so self-centered by causing her own miscarriage with alcohol! At the end of the day, she still ran for succor in the hands of her elder sister when her marriage was about to hit the rocks.

Wednesday, December 13, 2017


The Santa Christmas parade just passed the street few minutes ago, many houses are decorated and light up for the Christmas celebration .... streets are looking so beautiful, my kids are asking for a Christmas tree this year, I don't know if I should indulge them, just to make them happy because I feel indifferent about it. As usual, we would be spending the Christmas with my brother-in-law since they celebrated the thanksgiving with us, it has become our  'tradition'  , hopefully, my kids will not see it as a norm and cultivate it, because that is how culture came about in the first place ... it is learned and simply an adaptation to one's environment.

Social media is filled with the tithe palava ... hey, you can top reading here if this is a sensitive matter to you, because I had once addressed this in my old blog and I did not get so-good comments on it. I agree with Freeze, the come-backs from the god-of-men are all emotional blackmails, innuendo with curses for unborn generations. SERIOUSLY? Why is the comeback not grounded on scriptures as Freeze presented his? Every human strive to have a source of livelihood, so who are the chosen 'Levites' in this era that do not have a vocation, that will depend on the tithes for survival? And Christ has bought us into the priesthood with HIS blood, so are we not all 'Levites'? Just take a moment to think about this without sentiments.  

GOD no longer dwells in a building, in a ark, because our body is now HIS TEMPLE! So why continuously say bring your tithes to the house of GOD? I do believe in giving that tithe to the orphans, widows, fatherless children, hungry, sick and the needy and YES, I have been blessed for it! The come-backs are baseless ... are all Nigerians Christians? Are non-Christians not successful in their businesses or careers? Again I ask, is  Christianity the true and only religion on earth?  I attend a non-Nigerian church here, and no emphasis is made on tithe, or linked to prosperity ... offering is free-will, rather, they want to bless you if you lack ... that is true definition of Christianity; CHRIST-LIKE, since GOD IS LOVE! 

Sexual harassment accusations is the trendy-thing here ...  some accusations were found to be false, some settled out of court with heavy payment, some still pending.  Few of the comments that caught my interest were: that corporations would gradually stop employing females especially in sensitive positions,and men would be afraid to compliment, flirt or ask women out, hence, many women will be left on the 'shelve'.  With advanced technology, sexual robots would soon take over; a short documentary I watched minutes ago before blogging.

Deny it or not, many women need the love, companion and touch of men! Power given is a responsibility not a gift, so, women should not abuse it! Are men not sexually harassed by women also? With the constant display of nude pictures and seductive dancing in social media? If men put their ego aside and starts to sue women for sexual harassment also, they won't be taken seriously just as the man who accused a female of raping him. I remembered many of the comments, laughing and making jest of him, asking how did his '3rd leg' stood up if  he did not enjoy it? And women continue to ask for equality when they display double standard, in sexual and financial matters? OH PUHLEASEEE!

Monday, November 20, 2017


I hope I don't continue to sound like  a broken record with my apologizes, qui? Okay then, I am sorry for my inconsistency in blogging,I have so much on my plate right now, by the grace of GOD I will come out with a testimony soon to praise GOD for HIS faithfulness. It is always good to give thanks and appreciate everything and anything someone does for you. There is nothing like little or trivial kindness, it takes love and caring for one to be kind, especially in this era we live in, which is all about me, I and myself, and especially in this society I live in, that, the fear of litigation has made many to be too careful with their words and actions. All the same, there is always an exception and people who are ready to take that risk to show kindness and love to both strangers and friends. 

There is festive mood in the air because thanksgiving is just around the corner. By Thursday, thousands of baked turkey will be adorning the dinner tables in America. Sincerely yours will buy pre-cooked turkey on Wednesday, because, moi is too lazy tired  to bake any turkey from scratch! My oga has ordered jollof rice and moin-moin from a caterer for our guests ... nay, my brother-in-law and his family are not guests o jare ... that has been our 'tradition' since we came to yankee, but 2 or 3 friends do come over to join in the celebration. I did detailed cleaning of my home this weekend because I will be busy during the week, and need my beauty sleep, since when I don become sleeping beauty fa?  before Thursday.

I changed my schedule at my place of work, I don't want to work on Sundays anymore because I need more quality time with my family; I have told you guys before how night work affects my family. I usually have Wednesdays and Thursdays off, my kids and husband would not be at home, I would still be sleeping when they came back, no time for communication, it was truly affecting us, money is good but family is best. See, living in America can be very lonely for an immigrant without family or a companion. Especially now that winter is at the door.

SO! My co-workers surprised me with a send-forth party, because, I was transferred to another branch that fits my new schedule last week, I was overwhelmed by their kind words in the thank you card, (even from other managers) and I love the gift, it is symbolic ..... look at the picture up there #pointing#, .... I felt so blessed and loved at that moment, because truly speaking, it feels good to be appreciated. Hence, I will be failing in my job if I don't appreciate those who have been there for me .... to my creator; the ALPHA & OMEGA, my parents, my husband, my children, my friend Patrina, my Church members, my neighbours, my co-workers,  the kind strangers I have met on my journey in this life and to everyone who reads my blog,  I say, a big THANK YOU! GOD bless you all.


P.S I had written several thanksgiving posts, but this particular one still gets more readership .... Can anything good come out of ......

Wednesday, November 01, 2017


Yesterday was  Halloween...I no dey celebrate am! So my porch light was off, no trick or treat for anybody!πŸ˜€ For the fact that I have come to like cats no mean say, I ready to celebrate  halloween ..MBANU! I am still very superstitious o! Anyways, happy Halloween to those who celebrated, after-all, the bible say, rejoice with those who rejoice...abi, no be so, my pipo, make una no vex for me fa! My hands are keeping busy, but today I have few hours to myself. How una deyy? 

Can you believe that my manager I be gist una about,( read am for here,  if you have forgotten,) just used that guy? ME-HNN, The babe na sharp girl shaa! She dumped the guy after she got what she wanted. Out of annoyance, the guy come dey show co-workers her picture when she dey for 'birthday-suit!' He was nearly fired, but he come beg. KAI! I cannot believe small girl like that can have mind to do wetin she do. I raise hand for am! Infact, she was the one that leaked out their affair! You see why I dey raise hand for am?

The other tiny person that pushed her to take that desperate action don vex transfer comot from our side, because the position she wanted was given to her friend. She come serve her friend the same dish of bitchiness she gave my former manager. That one no look her side, out of anger abi frustration she go. I laugh wella! Me-hn .... the babe show us pe-pper! Her friend is a better manager than her! Everyone loves her. 

HAPPY NEW MONTH! A month of thanksgiving in yankee ... this I will prepare for in 3 weeks time 😁 

Friday, October 06, 2017


Ever since I came to know Nse-Etim, I look forward to seeing her ... in movies! NOPE! I am not a movie critic neither has my blog turned to movie review. Today, is on 'THE VISIT'.  A very interesting, thought-provoking movie. It got a 5 rating in Netflix! First time of seeing a Nollywood movie getting a high rating!

The 2 hours movie addressed several issues in marriage amongst couples. Nollywood is going places oo! Who was subtitling the waffi pidgin spoken by Ajiri and Lanre ehn? For example; 'You fall my hand' is 'You f**k my heart?' And that oral s*x scene on the car was exxxagggerated (you see my number of x's and g's?). Yeah, I know Ajiri admitted she has a high libido ... mehn, the manner she said it in pidgin made me laughed; 'e be like say, wetin I carry big pass my body!'

After the revealing of so many secrets between both couples, Chidi asked; 'What happened to the concept of being 'naked' without being ashamed? Good question! That is why his wife Eugenia re-wrote her life story, and was living a fake life,  just as many people in the virtual and real world! The few who don't mind being 'naked' are cussed or snubbed or avoided! Eugenia had a different personality in her Candy blog, and Ajiri with her flightier blog ID. 

The movie addressed the problem of hyping, which Lanre did so much and his bubble was bursted eventually! Some people like 'packaging' themselves for reasons best known to them and easily deceive the naive. Again, whatever works for MR A cannot work for MR B. 

I have a question; Did they use the same apartment for shooting all scenes? I ask because I noticed the same holes on the kitchen floor cabinets, which is usually caused by water leakage or 'uninvited-guests/-non-paying tenants'. (9jas know what I mean .ahahha).  

P.S: Ladies need to think about this fake lashes tinz..the way the camera zoomed on Eugenia face, it made the eyelashes looked...  i no fit talk am.😁

Friday, September 29, 2017


When I read reviews on the Nollywood movie; 30 days in 2014-2015, I was not eager to watch it. So today, while scrolling through Netflix I saw it amongst the newly added ... I got curious and decided to watch it as a means of relaxation. For few like me, that have not watched it, it is a romance comedy. Shot both in Nigeria and America.

It was a star-studded movie. I was impressed, because I know the 3 black American Hollywood actresses would not have gone below their standard to feature in a Nolly wood production. No doubt the producers did not spare costs and did their homework well, because some of the facilities they filmed in, needed written approval and consents from the appropriate authorities and persons, unlike what is the obtainable in Nigeria. The editing was also on point, no prolonged dialogues and exaggerated scenes. The actors kept it real. For this, I give 2 thumbs up. BUT...


Nobody or man-made thing is ever flawless right? I find the humour dry ... I was not captivated nor did I get the rib-racking laugh I was expecting, I paused it to get some things done, then came back, which I don't do when I am spell bound by some movies. The character Akpos, was kind-of-off, the humour did not come out as it was intended to, knowing how body movements and gestures can make you laugh without much words ... Akpos just didn't click with me! Mercy Johnson, didn't disappoint. Personally, I don't like red braids on dark skinned girls, it makes the tone of the skin looks off! And when Ramsey came out of the artiste shop with the framed drawing, it was not wrapped. only for him to get home,I saw him bringing it out of the car wrapped in brown paper. In the first scene, Ramsey wisps of hair on this bald patch should had been smoothed slightly down with gel, the wind had tossed it, that it looked weird. He is a good looking-man.

I have a question..nay, make it 3 πŸ˜€: The Akpos look, was it deliberate for the movie or at that moment, that was what the actor actually looked like? The facial bumps was distracting. I have seen AY pictures and watched his shows in You-tube ...comparing both, his facial appearance in the movie looked rough! Was he trying to depict the average waffi-ghetto-guy? If not, then the make-up was poorly done to cover his flaws and the camera zoomed in too close for comfort. If the immigration lawyer knew Akpos was in for the green card, why still went to the airport? After saying she might go to jail for that?

I will rate the movie 4 out of 5. The producer did a good job, the script was tight and interesting, the editing on point. Someone like Mr Ibru or Bovi would have delivered the Akpos character better, IMO. All the same, a big kudos to all involved, it was a deviate from the norm in Nollywood.

P.S Wishing ALL Nigerians a HAPPY independence day in advance.😁
p.s.s, If you want me to watch a movie and give my honest opinion on it, inbox me.
Thank you all.

Monday, September 25, 2017


I hail una, my pipo! (Greetings) Hmm, make una no vex for me oo!(Don't be angry). This is my first post this month ... nay, the peeping in post no count. My guys, it was not by choice o, as I had to pursue something else, so I can equip myself for tomorrow and get a better pay. It is easy, make I confess positively. I had a little respite, so I opened my laptop,..and here I am.

I have plenty gist in my head to yarn you all (I have so much to say), but how to coordinate it, so it won't be long and boring is my problem ... but I still dey type instead to start yarning the koko abi?  (I am still perambulating instead of going to the main topic). 

Alright! It is about this Nigerian community in yankee oo! I just tire for their wahala fa! Their pop-nosy is on another level ga! Imagine few people like that, saying, why is my hubby  helping out too much with the grocery and cooking? Am I the first woman to be doing 2 things the same time? That some women do x3  sef!

OTURUGBEKE! Trouble dey sleep, yanga go wake am up??? Trust me ke! I sent back a strong worded message to the sabinus (es)! I told them, #1 I am NOT their wife!
#2, My hubby married a woman and NOT a superwoman! Did I tell anyone that I was related to Clark and his cousin, or I came from the planet kryptonite? And #3, they do NOT know our story!

Many that have been reading my blog for ages, will understand what I am talking about! Living in Nigeria and abroad is like 2 parallel lines. The men have no choice than to do the needful for the family, because it is all about survival!!!

I am an introvert and know how to entertain myself, hence, I don't need any parapo (tribe meetings) to validate myself or feel belonged! GOD who made a way for us to come here, will definitely complete HIS works in our lives! Amin oo!

LISTEN! The amount of lies, exaggeration I read in some posts and comments section, will deceive naive young couples and likely cause more problems in their marriage or relationship. Can 2 walk together, unless they agree? Amos 3:3. To each is own abeggy! 

See you later! ADIOS!πŸ˜€

Thursday, September 14, 2017


Long time no see!
I am very much around ... just peeping in as I have a little break.
So many things on my plate right now ... later, we go yarn😁
It's evening now, I want to rest a while before leaving for work.
I will write a long post next time.

Monday, August 21, 2017


I want to believe we all know the 'ways of the eagles' right? If you don't, you can read it here. The mother eagle do show tough love to her eaglets! Same way parents, relatives and friends might do to us, NOT because they are haters, rather it is coming from a place of concern. NOT every criticism is out of bitterness! YES! It will be painful but they are doing it to force you on your feet because the path of life is not filled with roses ... which even have hidden thorns!

 Let me illustrate with my situation; My mother on several occasions, told me to get a job or start a business because life is not as it seems and an elderly neighbour in Nigeria, once said, men cannot be trusted and depended on, and few bloggers have mentioned that it is because of the unexpectedness  ... as much as it pained me that, nobody actually understood my dilemma, (Who would look after my kids?) I had to make an effort; I sold recharge cards, ice-block,  Zobo drink, video CDS and leased out novels ... my ice-block business collapsed because of epileptic electricity,  Zobo did not move at all, gains from recharge cards were too minimal and some people bought on credit, I made good turn out on novels, and CDS. I later got a store manager position that paid 20k monthly, the time and days were flexible which I liked, before I relocated.


 NOW! Compare it to a commenter who referred to SAHMs as maggots, that they should go and find something doing! That all they do is to eat off the man, making him not to progress. As much as this person that spew this bile filled words, wants every woman to be financially independent, she is angry! I sincerely pray for such person future daughter-in-laws, because I hear she has sons mostly. But I do wonder what she and her 'friends' will call mistresses/concubines/side-chicks that depends on their married lovers for rent, school fees, feeding, and clothes? But deride the legal wives at home who are looking after the kids ... abi no be human being dey for the creche you carry your kids to? Or the maid/ nanny that looks after them at home for you? Maybe the 'logs' in her eyes did not let her 'see'?

OKAY! Why am I writing about tough love today? It is because of a recent gist I heard within our 9ja community o. A mother came to visit her sons here. She first stayed with the eldest. Due to her health challenges, she needed all round care. Those who work in the health business will understand what I mean ... wait a minute oo ... have I ever told you guys my kind of job? Hmmm....I think not ... but I had mentioned it in my favourite entertainment blog ... I worked as a care giver ... right now, I am in the retail industry. SO! The Eldest DIL was taking care of her, combined with her every day job, which was not easy. Her kids were grown, so they helped. 

The mother later moved to the younger son's home. The younger DIL's job was demanding, her kids little, combined to giving her MIL an all round care was very tasking! She did her best, but body no be wood! When the MIL saw that she was OYO, she began, doing some things for herself! This took everyone by surprise because they thought she was incapable! The eldest DIL realized that her MIL took advantage of her unlike the no-nonsense attitude in her younger son's home! When she returned back to her eldest son's home, she maintained her lane wella! All the paparazzi stopped! Her eldest DIL felt so much relief and thanked the younger DIL.

The younger DIL did NOT hate her MIL before some of you will jump into conclusion and start calling her names o. She treated her with the same respect as the eldest DIL did, but she simply made her MIL to realize she is NOT a super-woman! That in this country where immigrants are chasing after the $$$, ain't nobody gat time and energy to be an one-to-one- care-giver, unless one is being paid for it, shikenah!! You have to pull your own weight around or make efforts, unless one is obviously incapable ... even with that sef, special gadgets are installed in homes to make job and life easier for all parties involved. If it was back home, there will be many hands to help because of our communal family system. 

When I heard the story, I thought within myself, if both the DILS were SAHMs nko? CHEI! Dem for see W-EN! Dem for see shege! WO! Dem for hear am hot! (It would have been demanding!) She would want 100% attention, afterall, they are not working, but siddon in her sons' house  chopping their money left, right and center, so they must work for it by force by fire ke! AHAHAHA... Abi no be true I dey talk so?

Jokes apart though, pampering does not get some things done, some hard experiences push us to achieve our best! As my people do say, no pain, no gain! And the scriptures says we should count it all joy when trials and temptations come across our ways, because when we overcome them, we will become stronger in faith ... and our creator and father will never give us a burden more than what we can carry. And this popular song by kelly clarkson ..what doesn't kill you, will make you stronger! SO! Don't going hating people when they are hard on you, try to see the direction they are coming from ... it will be painful ... but worth it at the end.

Thursday, August 17, 2017


Dear  Nigerian Husbands,
It has come to our notice that, you are calling us intolerant, when it comes to our in-laws.That if, it were our own parents and siblings, we would welcome them happily.

Hmmm.... it is not as you think ooo, our dear husbands; The crown on our heads, the owner of our heads, the glory of our heads, the one that paid our dowries, the father of our children, the one that makes our heart go, jigidijigidi, like locomotive engine, the one that knows where our 'mumu' button is and press it wella, the one that knows how to make us scream out your name in pleasure! Please hear us out.

How do you want us to feel, after sweating it out in the kitchen and our food was rejected by your siblings or parents, the same food you and our children ate? The same food, you gave your hard-earned money to cook for the family? Is it easy to be thinking of a balanced meal 3x a day, 7 days a week, 30 days a month and 365 days in a year? We are not running a hotel or restaurant that one can pick their meals!

We take care of our children, you,ourselves, as if that is not enough, we will still be expected to look after your siblings and parents who will not help in anyway! We are not snow-white that sang for birds, rabbits, cats, rats and roaches that came and helped her with house chores! Imagine, sweeping, washing dishes, doing the laundry, and cooking for many adults and children! One person for 7 or more people? Do the maths na! 1 divided by 7? Is it not in negative? We are not super-women like Clark's cousin ...  whats her name again ooo ... we can't remember jor, because our head is so jammed up with many things to do! HABA! We are not maids in our homes but your partner!

Our husbands' house is our matrimonial home, our manor, our domain, NOT an extension of your parents or siblings house! OUR rules not theirs! So, it annoys us when your siblings or parents wants to impose their ways on us in OUR territory! HABA! When you are in Rome, behave like the Romans! If they will stay with us, then abide by our rules! 

Do they know your finances? We ask because, we don't understand the constant demands and expectations from us! So, we cannot 'drink water and put cup down again' without them wanting to drink from the same cup? We know you have an obligation to them, but at the expense of your own children and wives? Is it a stranger that will train your own children? YES! Your parents sent you to school or trained you, if they did not, you will be a problem to them not to us! This is the blunt truth! Afterall, their own parents trained them! That is the cycle or wheel of life,and you will have to train your own children! Shikenah!

How is this different from our own siblings and parents when they come abi? 
HAAA! It is different oo! Just like 7up! Our own siblings or parents will not fold their hands, or lift up their legs for us to sweep under their feet, when they see us busy, they will help us with the chores. They will not reject any food we cook and if we are broke, they will assist us in any little way they can and they will obey our rules which might not be different from the rules in our maiden home because the honest bitter truth is that, it is the women that OWNS the home, not the man! You still doubt us? Ask your mothers then!

And before you men point the obvious that someday we too will be in-laws in future, we know and say a resounding AMEN! Any Nigerian in-law and person  who respects him/herself, will adhered to the wise saying in proverbs 25:17 from the wisest king who lived on earth ... 
Seldom set foot in your neighbor's house-- too much of you, and they will hate you.
New Living Translation
Don't visit your neighbors too often, or you will wear out your welcome.
English Standard Version
Let your foot be seldom in your neighbor’s house, lest he have his fill of you and hate you.

Tuesday, August 08, 2017


I mentioned in one of my previous post that some of my values have changed due to experience and environment. I will try my best to explain it, so there won't be any mis- understanding as it happened when I made my inner confession public. This might be a long read because I will simply go with the flow of my thoughts, without editing .... so bear with me.

I worked before I got married and the team spirit was imbibed in me. If you like to go solo, you will be seen as 'your-own-too-much-kind of person' or 'I-too-do-person', and you might not be liked for that! So, imagine my surprise, when I saw the reverse is the case here! It is; I, me and myself, even in a team! I couldn't understand the 'self-centeredness-mentality in work places, everyone was simply covering their ass and doing ONLY their jobs assigned to them! I had to learn the hard way that there is no 'we' in a team! I later knew the reason behind this concept ... some people will want to take advantage of you! Like monkey dey work, baboon dey chop! Some just want the paycheck without pulling their own weight around! And they see an enabler as bad as the enablee! (is there a word like that? ahahha, but you get the gist sha?)

Some times, I have to be fighting a battle inside me ... Do it! Don't do it! Do it! Don't do it! Few times I give in and do it because, what is in you, is in you! Sometimes I will 'strong' my mind wella like stone and look the other way ... why? Simply because nobody gives a s***,  as long as the work got done! Oga at the top just wants to see the end result, Shikenah! It is when there are drawbacks or cracks, they now take a look to see where the problem is coming from, before it would be addressed, or else you will be working like 'jackie', and be collecting the same pay, afterall, dem no send you message! Infact, when they know you are good at what you do, they will add jara sef! When a co-worker advised me in my former place of work, I thought she was joking, until I experienced it, then me too, borrow small sense and re-adjust.


Lemme share these instances with you. In my former place of work, when we received packages from the mail, anything that cannot enter the trash can beside us, we took it to the back, into the big garbage bin. So, I came in one night, and saw empty big boxes by the hallway, after 2 days, nobody threw it away ... maybe the person travelled to the moon, I eventually picked it up, only to come the next night, and there were another big boxes! SERIOUSLY???!!! This person must be a joke! Back from the moon abi? Maybe she had a hired help, I didn't know about? I just jejely waka pass and throughout that night, I took another way, just to avoid seeing it and be tempted to remove it! My other co-workers no send! Let me digress here ... many bloggers and readers thinks I like wahala ... but I have said it here before, I don't like trouble, to avoid  any form of confrontation, I can take another route or walk away, but when I am left with no choice, then I bare my fangs! The boxes were there until I went for my days off, when I came back, they were gone and the person did not put more! What happened? I dunno! Maybe her hired help quit?

My new place of work is smaller, so we are told to clean after ourselves, before the next shift comes in, unlike my former place where we had housekeepers. You will think, what is the biggie right? Well, it will surprise you that some don't know or like to 'wipe their own butt!'  Many times, I had to empty other people's trash before I start my own duties, it got to a point I left a note on the board for them to take out their trash ... FOR WHERE! Instead, it was ripped off and thrown away! I see! I said to myself! 'No problemo!' So, they knew what they were doing ba? They next nights, I kukuma, shift their trash to one corner, found alternative, and emptied mine! After some days, I think someone noticed it, and they now clean after themselves! One should learn not to take crap, because you want to be the bigger or better person ... it does not help in all situations. Simply choose wisely. The day a co-worker bluntly said it was not her job, when a manager asked her to do something another co-worker 'neglected' to do, I said YES! You wan mess with akata? My oyibo manager go do the thing  jejely! Since then, the manager became strict with that shift! 

I have also learnt to squarely face my lane! As long as it is not my a** on the line, it is not my problem! This much my co-team worker told me when I pointed out an observation to him regarding one of his duties, that it will cause problem later. I apologized to him, while saying OUCH! OUCH! OUCH! inside of me. It was none of my damn f*****g business, right? But you see, my manager and I ended up doing it the next day, when the problem happened! And he was off!  This made me strong-minded not to help him with any of his duties like I was doing before. This co- worker is the weak link in our wheel of operation, not because he does not know what to do ... he simply didn't want to do it or couldn't be bothered! His lackadaisical attitude drove us crazy that we just had to accept him for who he is ... if na dudu, he for don get the boot! Another lesson learnt .... you have to live with people's flaws as they also tolerate you!

Smoking! HUMPH! By force by fire, I have become a secondary smoker which is worst than the primary smoker! I don't like it and will never like it!  The smell is choking and nauseating! NO! I don't hate those that smoke oo. It happens during our break; I wait for them to finish first before having mine or I have mine first before theirs, but I will miss the 'juicy wine from the office grape-vine'. Yep! Many unofficial information are discussed between the smokers, because oga  sef join! 

Which reminds me of the novel I read several years ago, about an employee who had to join the smokers club because she was always left behind promotions. She later found out that, when they smoked, both ogas at the top and subordinates became friends and important unofficial info was leaked out at that vulnerable moment! She was puffing fake cigarettes, and became friendly with her boss, later she got promoted, her boss found out about her 'act!' So, what I'm saying? Sometimes, you've got to do, what you've got to do to survive, stay afloat or be at the top and when the consequences comes, SUCK it up! 

I have nice neighbours who are smokers and Christians too! Truthfully speaking, I have not seen it in the bible where it is a sin as I was taught in Nigerian churches. It is simply unhealthy. Many smokers are kind, helpful than some of our so-called christian brethren! Smoking is seen or accepted like, when you get hungry, eat! Or when you get thirsty, drink! It is nothing to them here, that is why I was not surprised to hear that some doctors and priests smoke! The problem is the addiction and upgrading to something higher which is dangerous. SO! I told them,the smell bothered me, and they were gracious enough to sit several feet away from me when smoking, and I bury my nose inside my blouse ... I look funny doing that ... but that is the price I have to pay to be in good rapport with my team, afterall, no man is an Island.

WELL! Daz all for today ... I have bored you enough for now .... maybe some other time! 


Thursday, August 03, 2017


We call residential properties in Nigeria; House. Be it flats, tenement buildings, duplexes, mansions ... all is house! I came to know that there is a difference when we relocated. There is apartment which is same as Flat in Nigeria. There is Town house which Nigerians call semi-detached duplex, and there is single-family unit house / 2-floors house, which is known back home as bungalow or 2- story house. 

I had once talked about the problem of roaches (dem no dey call am cockroaches o!) in the Estate I lived In Nigeria,which was not helped by my neighbour who decided to use the backyard as her storage for unwanted household items. Then in New jersey where I had to complain to the janitor, after few weeks of moving into a semi-detached town-house. Later in Texas, when we moved into a recently built apartment, the management had to carry out fumigation many times because of my complaints, apart from my own effort. Hence, I took time to look wella for a detached town house when we moved again, and for the past 2 years, I HAVE NOT SEEN A SINGLE ROACH! Abeg, make no winchy come turn to roach visit me oo ... ahahhaha. Which reminds me, after writing the last post on this constant problem, an anonymous wrote in my favourite entertainment blog that it is only people that are dirty that have roaches .....I laughed! That means, ALL Nigerians in Nigeria are dirty! I didn't say some because there are open gutters every where, clogged drainages and improper waste disposal which is a haven for roaches! These cretins find a way into our homes and starts breeding! 

Apartments. Source

There are no open gutters here, nor clogged drainages and there are proper disposal of waste, so where did these cretins come from? By the way, why this post? It is because, my co-worker who had been searching for an apartment eventually found one and was excited. I told her to avoid ground floor because of roaches, that a friend (Patrina) once said, it did not get to her apartment that was 2 floors above. 'Oh, they are everywhere! All apartments have them, because there are many people in a big building!' she replied. My other co-worker agreed too, that you just have to live with it. She said, her sister's apartment was really infested regardless of the several measures taken to curb them, until they found out, her up-stair's neighbour was a hoarder! I remember when I was complaining bitterly, a lady in the same estate told me to check around, that someone was probably hoarding or not taking out their trash!
House. Source

The roaches here are not like the type in Nigeria oo! These ones are much smaller, darker in colour and come out enmass. When you see them, it is like ants gathering over a cube of sugar! I kid you not! I made sure there was never dishes in the sink, the trash was taken out every night, and I decluttered, often; WHOSAI! The more they come out! So WHERE WERE THESE CRETINS COMING OUT FROM? I simply didn't know! But I do know that, they have built a colony inside the walls because it is made out of wood. 80% of residential buildings are made of wood or pako as we call it in 9ja! Well padded with the foundation and load-bearing  beams/columns made out of concrete. I asked why, and was told because of cold. If bricks were used, during winter, it will be extremely cold inside, which will cost more to heat up ... no wonder when we visited  Aberdeen, the cold wan wound us inside house, even with the heater on!

The differences between houses and apartments is not the cost of leasing ... infact you will be surprised to know they are on the same range! The difference is maintenance; Janitors clean the surroundings of the apartments building, mown the lawns, and double as handy-men who fix whatever problems in the apartments. While in houses, you do all these yourself, the landlord, only fix structural damage as long as you did not cause it, and if there is a leakage or the stove (not called gas cooker oo), is not functioning well, and you might co- pay depending on the agreement.

Town-houses. source

Houses are good for large families; It is spacious, the kids can play and scream as they want without fear of a neighbour coming to knock on the door to keep it down or report to the office, who will send a warning letter. I remember, how my up-stair's neighbour's kid jumped so hard on their floor that the ceiling fan above me shook violently, that I immediately went upstairs to tell them. What of when a former neighbour was bouncing a ball on their floor, on one spot for an hour in the night, under my bedroom and I was pregnant then .... me-hn..I couldn't sleep ... I was so mad ... the next morning this teenager  smirked at me ... then I knew it was deliberate ... it was during the ' racial-tension-time' in yankee ...  so glad when they moved out ... the management refused to renew their lease.

I will advise any immigrant with more than 2 kids to lease a house or detached town-house, than an apartment. It will give you peace of mind, more privacy and NO ROACHES!

Monday, July 31, 2017


Wahalaaaa! Trouble dey sleep yanga go wake am!

I drank a certain energy drink out of long throat last night at work ..... 12 hours later I am still wide awake!

I have tossed on the bed tire! Eventually opened my laptop to update and do some restless to watch any movie or read a book sef, who send me message?

Awoof dey really purge belly! Osho free things make me drink am oo! 

No wonder my co-workers drink several cans every night! This is worst than coffee to me! At least, I manage sleep, though, caffeine makes me jittery. 

Glad this is my off night....can't wait for oga to come and give me 'therapy' so I might sleep *wink*

Ok, later guys.

Monday, July 24, 2017


Hello everyone!
So much had happened in the virtual world this past weeks!
A wife calling out her husband's side chic!  Who wears the shoe...
A Granddaughter saw her grandmother making love! Double standard!
A wife assassinated her husband! Insanity!
Aigbe went back to Gentry! AHAHAHAHAAAAAAA. 
The lady faking Dv and calling the cops! SERIOUSLY??

The common denominator in all these is WOMAN! WOMAN! WOMAN!
Sometimes, I ask myself, what is our problem???
What do we really want???
Love? Money? S*x? faithfulness? Respect?
Are our men the problem or is it us?
Or is it the curse Eve brought unto us.. our desire will be to please our men always?

You see, it amuses me when we cuss out each other, if not fat vs slim, it will be working wife vs housewife, or natural hair vs relaxed hair,or natural birth vs CS, beautiful vs ugly, or having class vs not having class! And we expect to be taken serious by men? We are NOT better than the men we castigate, yet we fast and pray for husbands! I don't support other women blindly, simply because we have the same anatomy! Women can be very deceitful, hypocritical and evasive to achieve their goal ... many men are paying the price! Hell has no fury as a woman when scorned! We are more outspoken than men, that is why, we think they don't suffer emotionally and physically ... their ego prevents them.

The irony is that women gave birth to men! Just like the potter and it's clay, we mould them to become who and what they are! That is why, I don't agree with the proverbs 31 virtuous woman thing! That queen-mother was setting too high a standard for her future queen-daughter-in-law for her king-son! None for her future son-in-law for her daughter? The scripture says; Wives submit ... Husbands love .... when a wife is submissive, she is turned to a doormat ... when a husband loves , he is turned to mumu because the human nature is corrupt! The middle ground here is RESPECT! 

SO! Back to the question, what do we want as women?
Financial security, to be able to meet the family NEEDS not necessarily luxuries.
Respect, I did not say love, because, it has been confused with lust!
And faithfulness, we don't like sharing!
I did not say s*x because every woman's libido differs. Regardless of that, a woman will choose comfort-ability over sex! There are adult toys to help her out. 
Thanks for reading.

Saturday, July 15, 2017


Hello everyone! Please rest assured, I DO believe in GOD and our Saviour! My previous post was misunderstood. Being a Christian does not mean, one cannot have an open mind and acquire more knowledge. OK! That one is out of the way. Thanks.

Have you ever remembered a past action or decision and you cringed because you realized you were either childish, naive, rash in your decision or just downright stupid?! Why is that? Simply because you have gained experience as you go through the phases of life ... I don't want to say age, because some people go through a lot much earlier than others .... and we learn everyday. This is why, our elders say; What your parents sees while sitting down, you will not see it even if you climb the tallest palm tree! This is not about age ... but experience!

Why, am I or is it I am? Hmmm ... am I, sounds better, but our 9ja 'doctors' of English  says there is nothing like, am I! Okay oo, even the people nah get the language do use am I! Alright! As I was saying o jare ... I can't resist sneaking in pidgin now and then, it makes story sweet wella!  Ehen! Ehen! As I was saying, I gained a new experience yesterday, but for the sake of avoiding a long post which many people don't have the patient to read anymore, when they can use their time and data to do other things, I will write about it some other day.  

I just want you to pick something from this post; Our values and priority do change with the experience as we make our journey in this path of life, so lets have an open mind. Gracias!

Wednesday, July 05, 2017


 I was taught Christianity is the only true  religion on earth and non-believers will perish in hell! I have suppressed my questions and curiosity all these years not to be seen as an unbeliever or worst a backslider!. The truth is that, I am hungry for the knowledge about other religion and the honest-truth about how Christianity in totality! I know it was coined from the name Christ, but we all know that name is very common amongst a certain race now. The first time I came across the name JESUS CHRIST borne by a mere human, I was so surprised and wondered, did his parents not see any other name? And I pondered, whenever I end my prayer 'in Jesus name I pray.' Am I praying through this individual? Or when I say. 'I cover myself with the blood of Jesus Christ'. Am I referring to that particular individual? Well, that is not what, I am going to talk about today.

I love the monks way of living.
I believe in re-incarnation.
I like Astrology.
Which is ALL against the church teachings. I refused to say scriptures because the 3 wise men followed the stars to locate Christ.(Mattew 2:1-12) And John the Baptist was thought to the re-incarnation of Elijah(Mattew 11:13-14, John 1:19-21, Malachi 4:5, Luke 1:13-17, 2 kings1:8)  and the earlier prophets lived a rigid lifestyle, shunning all materialism and mediate often. 

My questions are; Is Christianity the only true religion?
Don't other religions get revelations and see visions?
Don't God manifest Himself to them as He wishes?
Don't our creator perform miracles in other religions?
I ask all these questions because, GOD himself said I will judge your motive behind every actions (proverbs 21:2) and John in revelation said, he saw a multitude of people of diverse race and tongues in the presence of the throne awaiting judgement (Revelation 7:9).  Even the chosen race, do not believe in Christianity! Does that mean, GOD is no longer with them since HE made an everlasting covenant with Abraham? (Genesis 17). Please, don't reply with the power of darkness answer ... that demons give these other religions false revelations, visions and miracles! Because if you do, there are many instances in Christendom where many revelations, visions and miracles were all lies!  

Many Nigerians back home will always wonder why do Christians who left for abroad always change ... some become atheists, some lukewarm, some very liberal,  some non-believers of all the 'paparazzi' in our churches. It is for the simple reason that, living abroad will test your faith often ... when you see and hear things that have been accepted as the norm even within the church all in the name of settling down, you will be weak! Who I am to judge? I have not walked in their shoes nor do I know their story!

As much as I want to believe Christianity is the one and only true religion ... I can't!
That is it! I said it! A monk once said:
God is not a Christian.
God is not a Jew.
God is not a Muslim.
God is not a Buddhist.
God is LOVE!

Love thy neighbour as thyself!(Do unto others as you want them to do to you!)
Worship thy LORD thy GOD with all thine heart and in truth!
These are the 2 greatest commandments Christ said to his disciples when they asked Him. (Mattew 22: 36-40) DO WE, AS CHRISTIANS ADHERED TO THESE? Then how can we say Christianity is the true and only religion recognized by GOD? Can we say the hand is more important than the leg? (1 Corinthians 12:15)  Or the eyes more important than the ears? Or the tongue more important than the teeth? Did GOD not create all the parts to function differently but ONE BODY? 

p.s I will open the comment section for this post, to learn and gain knowledge from you all. Thank you. Happy new month...7th month ... GOD'S perfect number! 

p.s.s, I just got notified that the comment section is not showing ... checked my settings, it is activated, but I don't know why it is not enabled on this post ... no problemo .. you can send me a mail if you wish to ... Appreciate.

Sunday, June 25, 2017


Many times, I have heard these words; 'Don't take it personal!'. 'Keep it professional!' And I have wondered how? When you are working with humans and not robots? Yet, they say be 'passionate and committed to your job'! Again, I ask, 'how can you do that if you don't give  your all? To explain my point clearly, lemme gist you what went down in my place of work.

I started a new job 4 months back and was working with my night manager. Unknown to me she and the day manager had an 'ish' going on and I was caught in the middle ... a tale of 2 elephants fighting and the grass suffering for it! No matter how hard we worked, no good feed back! When we handover our reports in the morning, her written comment to our GM was not encouraging at o! From a scale of 1-10, it was like 2! Yeahh, it was that bad!

Did I like her? NOPE! From day one of she walking through the door on my first night, there was anger all over her and she was so cold ... that the smile froze on my face when I wanted to say hello. She barely gave me a glance ... she no care who dey there! Having gained experience from my former place of work, I too boned her and faced my lane. For a week, I never said a word to her! She was the one that started greeting me ... I replied if I like ... but I made sure I don't ever greet her first! Since, I am the type that wear my heart on my sleeve, no matter how hard I try to hide it, she knew I was pissed off with her!

SO! As I was saying, I didn't know what was going down between both of them, but I was not happy with her feedback because it will reflect on my appraisal! Is my own night manager without her flaws? NAYYY! She get her own for body as every human being including me ... but she is a drama queen with a capital D! She is nice but manipulative! When I knew it had nothing to do with the way I work, but, just sheer vindictiveness on the part of the day manager, I tried hard not to let it get to me and continued to do my best, which the GM noticed and appreciated, but officially, we were not doing good enough! 

Then, the night manager allowed herself to fall into the trap of the day manager! She started dating a co-worker which was against the company's policy! Of course, her foe heard, called GM, who in turn called our oga at the top, with immediate alacrity, she and her lover were transferred to different branches! I only came back from my 2 days off and met a new night manager, who is a friend to the day manager ... and yep, our report became very favourable ... from a scale of 1-10 ... we got 8! How? Are we doing anything different? NOO! It was purely 'bad-belly tinz!' 

And people say, it is nothing personal? We should be professional? Have I come to like the day manager? TAAA! Her personality is vile! This much a GM from another branch complained about! Can you believe my own GM didn't like my night manager and was happy she had left? And, am I glad she had gone? Sincerely yes! Why? Simply because there is no more tension in the office! And I don't have to be at the receiving end!  JEZZZ! Sometimes I was tempted to knock their heads together! 

The blunt truth is that personal emotions cannot be separated from professionalism, because humans are social beings! Yes! I know in the legal and medical field is is strongly advised not to let that happen but s*** happens all the time!

Happy celebrations to all Muslims. Barka de sallah.

Thursday, June 15, 2017


YES! YES! Scurry away as you read the title because it is a sensitive matter and you don't want to be caught sinning, right? I understand,I was in that position before, because of the teachings of the church. But like Paul said,'when we were children, we thought like one ...' As babies in Christendom, we believed and followed everything our 'adults' said and did until we 'grew up' and realized somethings ain't just right!

The bible recorded that Abraham paid his tithe from *the spoils of war* when he met the priest on his way home. The good book explained that tithes were paid once in every 3 years into the temple of GOD, to help the priests who were not given lands, orphans, widows, the fatherless and the poor. 

Thousands of years ago, a DIVINE being made  ALL believers, priests through His sacrifice and our body is now a temple, where the HOLY SPIRIT dwells. Hence, no more 'Levities to help us present our requests before our creator and tithes don't have to be paid inside a building! 'The poor will always be amongst you' Christ said, so they still need help. Giving your tithe to charity, orphanages, widows, fatherless, or anyone you see that is poor, is still fulfilling the scripture of tithing.

And, NO! Student allowance is NOT for tithing!
And, NO! House-keeping allowance is NOT tithing!
And,NO! Monetary gifts is NOT for tithing!
And, NO! Business capital is NOT for tithing!
And, NO! Fraudulent money is NOT for tithing!

Our harvest, which is now our income we earned, since we are  all NO longer farmers, cloth weavers, cattle rearers, wine-makers and fishermen, is which, to be tithed. You don't earn an income or don't make profits from your business, you DO NOT TITHE!

1 Corinthians 13:11 
Hebrew 7:2
Deuteronomy 26:12