I went to visit my neighbour who just had a baby and they were curious to know how Nigerians welcome a new baby. Trust me, I didn't disappoint at all! I regaled them with tales from my home land, which I later found out some were myths . The husband then told me, he asked his wife why she always cuts off both ends of the ham before cooking it? She replied that, it was a tradition in their home. When they met her grandmother at a family event, he asked her the reason behind the tradition because it was not practiced in his family and many other families he knew. Guess what the grandmother said?..... 'Oh! My crock pot was a bit small for the big ham my husband always brought home, so I cut off the edges for it to fit into the crock pot'. His wife was surprised! Since then, his wife does not cut it off again. I can use her reply to analyze 2 different scenarios, but let me leave that for another day.
This made me remember a piece of Chimamanda's speech where she said, Men were not created for culture but culture were created by men. Culture or tradition is to help have an organized community. It is like when Jesus told his disciples that men were not created for Sabbath, but Sabbath was created for men! Since culture was created for us, it is subject to change because the world is evolving and change is the only constant thing in life!
See ehen, there are some culture or tradition or norms or practices in our families, marriage, church, tribe and society as a whole which needs to be discarded asap! Some decisions were based on ulterior motives! And, we are quick to jump on the bandwagon without knowing the reason behind the driver's choice of destination! I remember my mum never allowed us to drink the water from a coconut because 'they say' that it will not make a child intelligent. As silly as this sound right now, we always threw it away! One day, we revolted! We drank it and continued drinking it! We concluded that the old men in the village simply loved the sweet water in the coconut, so to prevent the younger ones drinking it when prying the coconut open, they came up with such tradition! AHAHAHHA!
SO! I am wondering what if there were no traditions, how would it have been?