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Thursday, November 24, 2016

CAN ANYTHING GOOD COME FROM.....?

I do attend a women's bible fellowship weekly, and we studied the gospel of John. We do read ahead before the day and discuss the words that really spoke to us and ask questions on the verses we don't understand. NOBODY is the teacher, EVERYBODY is a teacher! The words that touched me most last week was 'Can anything good come from Nazareth?' John 1:46. I believe many of us Christians know the story around this verse. But for the non-Christians, it was said about Christ when John the baptist pointed Him out as the messiah and the people were surprised he came from a small poor town, which others looked down upon!  No, I am not going to preach but to share my story.

You see, we humans only believed certain group of people deserves the best of life because of their looks, financial status, jobs, pedigree, and what-ever! Can anything good come out of Nazareth? Can anything good come out of Nazareth? Can anything good come out of Nazareth? I am repeating the words because I want the meaning to sink in and help you understand why it touched me now, for the fact that I have been reading this particular verse for years ... it is my testimony!

I was bullied as a child because of my weight. I grew a thick skin over the years and a hard shell since blogging, because many people believe being big does not give you the right to be loved, talkless of getting married or you don't have anything 'upstairs'! I have read a comment in a blog were someone said, fat girls MUST be nice ALWAYS if they want to have friends! I read many comments on the pre-wedding photo that went viral some months back about the size of a bride. And I was like, if physical appearance alone was the criteria for marriage, many women would still be in their fathers' house and some of the people cussing her out, won't probably have been born, because no man would have wed their own mothers!

SO! I got married, and the tongues were wagging. My hubby is tall, slim, fair, and good looking,, so he could have gotten any lady he wanted, but, he went for a short, fat, dark, plain looking girl! 'What do you see in her?' they asked him. For those who read my old blog, I have shared how we met. Well, let me refresh your memories. We were in the same P.G.D management class. We had a test in accounting, while I was busy reading alone at my desk, he was looking at me wondering why I was not up and about like other females in the class looking for who will teach them. So, he came to my desk, and asked me to please explain few topics to him because he missed few lectures. So I did and he was impressed, especially as he passed well. We decided to form a reading group with another lady. He asked me out, I refused. He was on my case for 8 months, before I gave in. Someone told me to my face that I was lucky my husband married me! I heard a gossip that, no man will marry me because I am big!


 What did he see in me? ; My 'average 1.Q' my sense of humour, my honesty, my loyalty, my endurance, my prudence, my humbleness, my commitment'  my neatness, and my hard-working attitude.  He also saw my quick temper, my stubbornness, my quick to forgive slow to forget attitude, my low ambitious drive, my average cooking skills'. And we have been together for 17 years ... married for 15, and he told me he is blessed to have a wife like me! Hmmm ... can anything good come out of Nazareth?


I was not working! OH! The insults came pouring in from every angle, that few pierced my thick skin and hard shell. that  some nights my pillow was soaked with tears ... I was depressed, which I commented in a blog and made a wonderful friend from there. I had little or no respect from neighbours, families, friends and bloggers! Then 2012, a door was opened for me by a mighty gracious hand. Again, the disbelief from them, because they never believed a 'low class' (according to a commenter because my hubby didn't assist me in doing chores in Nigeria) housewife can get a permanent resident visa!  Hmmm ... can anything good come out of Nazareth?


To  my wonderful friend Patrina.



YES! YES! AND YES! GOOD THINGS CAN COME OUT OF NAZARETH! WHY? BECAUSE THE CREATOR OF THE HEAVENS AND EARTH SAID,' I WILL SHOW MERCY ON WHOM I CHOOSE TO, AND THE RACE IS NOT FOR THE SWIFT OR THE STRONG BUT TO WHOM I POUR MY GRACE UPON!'


Today,  I am working! Hubby helps with chores and shopping and I still weigh 258.4 pounds. {117.2kg) with my plain looks. 

My body, soul and spirit, magnify thy O'LORD!
My heart is filled with praises to You, my CREATOR!
I lift up my hands in gratitude to You, my KING!
I thank thee for ALL You have done in my life, my DEFENDER!
From the depth of my being, I say THANK YOU SO MUCH, PAPA!

HAPPY THANKSGIVING AMERICA!

Wednesday, November 16, 2016

WHAT IF THERE WERE NO TRADITIONS?

I went to visit my neighbour who just had a baby and they were curious to know how Nigerians welcome a new baby. Trust me, I didn't disappoint at all! I regaled them with tales from my home land, which I later found out some were  myths . The husband then told me, he asked his wife why she always cuts off both ends of the ham before cooking it? She replied that, it was a tradition in their home. When they met her grandmother at a family event, he asked her the reason behind the tradition because it was not practiced in his family and many other families he knew. Guess what the grandmother said?..... 'Oh! My crock pot was a bit small for the big ham my husband always brought home, so I cut off the edges for it to fit into the crock pot'. His wife was surprised! Since then, his wife does not cut it off again. I can use her reply to analyze 2 different scenarios, but let me leave that for another day.

This made me remember  a piece of Chimamanda's speech where she said, Men were not created for culture but culture were created by men. Culture or tradition is to help have an organized community. It is like when Jesus told his disciples that men were not created for Sabbath, but Sabbath was created for men! Since culture was created for us, it is subject to change because the world is evolving and change is the only constant thing in life! 

See ehen, there are some culture or tradition or norms or practices in our families, marriage, church, tribe and society as a whole which needs to be discarded asap! Some decisions were based on ulterior motives! And, we are quick to jump on the bandwagon without knowing the reason behind the driver's choice of destination! I remember my mum never allowed us to drink the water from a coconut because 'they say' that it will not make a child intelligent. As silly as this sound right now, we always threw it away! One day, we revolted! We drank it and continued drinking it! We concluded that the old men in the village simply loved the sweet water in the coconut, so to prevent the younger ones drinking it when prying the coconut open, they came up with such tradition! AHAHAHHA!

SO! I am wondering what if there were no traditions, how would it have been?

Tuesday, November 08, 2016

SO LONG A POST!

My dearest children,

The time has come for me to speak candidly about Christianity because you are all becoming teenagers, and I want you all to be aware of what is happening in the Christian world so as not to become preys for wolves in sheep clothings!

First, let me explain a bit about my christian journey; I found Christ at the age of 17. I was naive, took many wrong paths, had doubts and was afraid to ask certain questions not to be seen as faithless. I DON'T WANT YOU KIDS TO MAKE THE SAME MISTAKES AS I DID! So, I will speak on each topic based on my experience and others I have read and heard about. 

CHURCH DENOMINATION; 
There is NO church in heaven! So, do NOT be bothered with church doctrines! The BIBLE is the ONLY doctrine you should believe in! They claim the church doctrines is based on the bible .... I hear! We humans can interpret a verse in the bible to suit our thinking! Everything about church is man-made! And as I have told you countless times, anything about man-made is NOT perfect! MAN is a selfish being! Please, don't be swayed with words like 'my church is better than his'  'my pastor is more powerful than hers' .... all bullocks! CHRIST remains the ALL-POWERFUL! And you my dear children, are also powerful because we are all gods and goddess since we are GOD'S children. 

PRAYERS:
I was in the prayer band in school. I was taught how to pray loud and long! This I began to question, because I don't shout at my own biological father when asking him for something. I later learnt how to pray quietly as if I was having a conversation. Do you kids shout at me when you ask me of something? Of course not! Rather, I shout when I am angry with you all! This you do to power darkness when rebuking them because you have authority over them and you are not joking with them! How long you pray and when you pray all depends on your lifestyle, and relationship with GOD. Please, don't let anyone tell you, you must pray at certain hours for so-long a time, because GOD is omni-present, omni-science and omni-potent. HE DOES NOT WORK WITH HUMAN TIMING!  HE listens to the whisper of our hearts more than the sounds of our voice. 

I remember a church member was talking how he prayed for 2 hours. OH MINE! I felt I was not praying enough because I am done within 30 minutes. So I decided to do like him, because I believed then, the longer I prayed to GOD, my prayers will be answered immediately! So, I timed myself; 30mins for bible reading, 30 minutes for praise, 30 minutes for worship and 30 minutes for prayers. I did it for few days, and got tired of it because it was just a routine, lip and eye service! It was just not me ... it felt empty! My kids, it is not how long you pray that matters, but the sincerity in your worship and prayers! And WHY WILL YOU BE WATCHING THE TIME WHEN HAVING A TALK WITH YOUR FATHER? Before you speak, HE already knows what you want to say, so STOP beating around the bush in order to buy time, simply say what you want to HIM! HE does NOT like words repetition! If your request is motivated for selfish reasons, HE will NOT grant it!

HOLY SPIRIT;
'OPEN YOUR MOUTH AND BEGIN TO PRAY IN TONGUES!' You will hear these words commonly said in Pentecostal churches. I was taught that speaking in tongues is a sign of being a true born again and believer. So, we do everything possible to achieve that, and blast it out during prayers . HUMPH! It was so important to speak in tongues that people came for prayers for it and we told them to open their mouths and speak it in faith whatever words came into their mind. How, I prayed hard for it and when I did speak in tongues, I was on a roller coaster! I believed I was now on a higher ground!

My dears, the prince of darkness, counterfeits everything our king has created! Speaking in tongues is one of them! It is a different language you don't understand but another person could and would interpret it. The disciples spoke in Galilean and they were Nazarenes. Speaking in tongues is to EDIFY YOU! IT IS FOR INDIVIDUALS AND NOT FOR THE CHURCH! And there are many gifts from the Holy Spirit, which includes kindness, goodness, faithfulness, love, joy, gentleness and self-control. Can you say, all Christians have these? So, do not let any spirit-filled-so-called christian come to cajole you to speak in tongues he probably learnt by himself or under the influence of the kundalini spirit!  Pray in whatever language you know, GOD understands all. A confessed agent of darkness said, she was cursing GOD and the congregation whenever they were asked to pray in tongues, hence, she advised pastors to stop encouraging it inside the church. PLEASE, DON'T SAY AMEN TO ANY PRAYER YOU DO NOT UNDERSTAND THE LANGUAGE! 

MIRACLES AND VISIONS AND PROPHECIES:
HA! These are what most pastors use in luring people to their churches. Because of poverty and trials that people go through daily in their lives, they seek for solution desperately. And these wolves in sheep clothings capitalize on the situation! DON'T GO CHASING AFTER MIRACLES, VISIONS AND PROPHECIES! Many are staged-managed! Some use the powers gotten from fallen angels. Some mediums have put on the garment of Christianity since many people don't come to them anymore and there is more money to made from having a church.

Pleaseee, don't run after miracles or visions or prophecies! Nothing comes free from them! They either exploit the person for sex or money! It is a miracle to be alive! GOD speaks to us daily from the bible! No challenges man has not undergone that is new on earth! You can overcome with constant prayers, fasting, reading the bible and living a sinless life. But, there are some battles one cannot fight alone, the person will need help with deliverance, this is where you go searching for a true bible believing church, which is like finding a pin in a haystack! And when you do, still be alert and listen to your inner thoughts, don't accept everything being said because humans are not above errors! BUT REMEMBER, GOD SAID, THE BATTLE IS MINE AND NOT YOURS! So, run and cry unto him when challenges come across your path, and HE is just and faithful to carry you through.

MONEY:
This word has caused a lot of atrocities in the world ... including the church! It has been used as a manipulative tool to control and destroy people! Money answereth everything according to Ecclesiasties,  but the LOVE of money is the root of evil according to Timothy. And we all want money don't we? We have needs to satisfy, don't we? But some love it more than others! Some have extravagant needs more than others! And they will do ANYTHING to get this money, to live the lifestyle they desired for! And the church is one of the avenues to make this money! How? Through Tithes and offerings! 

What I am going to tell you my children is a very sensitive and controversial issue that brings people at logger heads! Why? Because it involves people source of livelihood! Some preachers don't work to earn income, so where do you expect them to get money to feed, cloth, pay bills, and take care of their wife, kids and extended families? Thus, Malachi is their favourite book. They claim to be like the Levities that GOD chose from the 12 tribes of Israel not to work, but do HIS work 24/7, hence, he gave them no lands. My question to these pastors is, WHO CHOSE YOU? War had wiped off most records, that the children of Israel DO NOT know who are the true Levities anymore, hence, EVERYBODY work to earn a living in this era! 

DON'T BE DECIEVED MY CHILDREN! YOU CAN NEVER BRIBE GOD WITH YOUR TITHES OR OFFERINGS! If you decide to pay your tithe and give offerings, know that you are just helping to maintain the church and pastor! NO! GOD is not a money doubler that will make you more richer or prosperous than your neighbour who is not a tither! How I so DISLIKE that word! Whosoever coined that word really know how to play with the human mind to massage their ego ... I am a tither! I am a giver! Some Christians believe trouble only visits those who do not pay tithes! Because Malachi said, GOD will rebuke the devourer for thysake! The brain-washing is on another level! Yet! James said, count it all Joy when trials comes your way, it is to strengthen your faith and endurance! I gave my tithes to needy, paid my offerings in the church, and I AM A TESTIMONY TO THE BLESSINGS OF GOD! Tithes are meant for the widows, fatherless, orphans, hungry and poor! 

Any pastor that asks you to bring your first month salary of the year, to sow a seed of prosperity or what-ever- they come up with, please, pick up your shoes and run very fast out of that place! BY THY FRUITS YE SHALL KNOW THEM! It means the so-called pastor does NOT care how you will pay your bills and feed your family! Can you compare tubers of yams with a monthly income? During harvest time, many crops are harvested gradually, so after the FIRST FRUITS, the plants will produce more. Abi you dey take yam pay rent or children school fees? January for that matter, after the festive period?

PASTORS:
How do you know who is a pastor? Is it because he can quote the scriptures effortlessly? Or graduated from pastoral school? Or very eloquent with words? Or has good looks and charisma to win people over? Or perform miracles? Or sees visions? Or give prophecies? Or simply because he or she called himself so? WHO IS A PASTOR? The answer to this question is YOU AND I, AND EVERY OTHER PERSON THAT BELIEVES IN GOD! Why? Simply because JESUS CHRIST HAS BOUGHT US INTO THE PRIESTHOOD WITH HIS BLOOD, HE SACRIFICED ON THE CROSS OF CALVARY! 

Have a nice day while I eagerly listen to the election results.

Wednesday, November 02, 2016

SURVIVAL JOBS.

My father told me a story when I was about 10 years old of a son who asked his dad what type of job he does and where he worked because he always saw him looking spiffy in a suit. So, one fine morning, on a school holiday, his dad took him along. They walked into a beautiful edifice with everyone looking good, dressed in suits, he felt so proud of his dad. His father told him to wait in the hall way as he opened a small closet, pulled off his suit, wore an overall and boots! He was still wondering why his dad was changing his outfit, when his dad beckoned to him to follow. They entered an elevator that took them down, instead of up! They got out in a dark passage that had a foul smell! His father opened another closet and brought out long brooms and brushes, it was then he realized he was in the sewer and his father sweeps the city's shit!  


The father saw the disbelieve on his face! He was expecting it, and grinned widely! SON! He called out, this is what I do for a living! 'Why do you put on suit , when you are a cleaner, dad?' He asked. 'It is because I do a JOB like everyone else and get PAID for it! And how I want to present my job, depends on me. 'Do the food on the table stink of shit? Or the clothes on our back stinks? Or the pocket money I give you smell? Or the roof over our heads stinks?' 'No', his son replied quietly, still in shock. 'So, son, a JOB is a JOB, as long as you get paid and can foot your bills! 
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4 months ago, I spoke with a former neighbour of mine back home who came to Yankee. When he told me the job he was doing, I asked, 'oga, so you fit do this type of job?' It was because I was very impressed! 'Why not, my sistah?' Na who never see life go dey do yanga, na who no know what it means to work for every kobo dey spend, will refuse a job. As long as you get paid, do it, money is money!' We laughed. This is a man that built a company from scratch and is an employer of labour! He left his company for his wife and children to be running while he came here to prepare for their relocation.


All jobs have professional names, to new immigrants seeking for a job, it is advisable to google out what the job entails before applying and accepting. Some diasporas are surprised when they get there and find it is the same menial jobs that are in Nigeria but well packaged. This is because there is dignity in labour! As long as you pay your tax and bills, what is the biggie? It is we NIGERIANS that start to discriminate or look down or castigate each other! That is why SOME DIASPORAS WILL NOT TELL YOU THEIR JOBS UNLESS THE POPULAR ONES!

A Nigerian guy was overheard telling his mother that he was working in an oil company. True, but as a fuel attendant as we say back home. Why? Because he does not want to be abused later, as I do see in comments and heard as I grew up ... na dead body dem dey bath ... na plate dem they wash ... na shit dem dey pack ... na gutter dem dey clear ... na road dem dey sweep .... na nanny dem dey do! Yet! These set of people will still open their hands to collect dollars oo ... 

I like the way Americans think, they are not ashamed to tell anyone what job they do. The mechanic that repairs our cars, is so good at his job that there is a high demand for him and he will come to your house or anywhere you want, to fix it, and he is affordable. A young huge good looking guy, who takes pride in his job! In Nigeria, mechanics are looked down upon! He is just a common mechanic o, if he makes the mistake of offending anyone!

Survival job just as the words says, means, to survive on a job, it ought to be temporary ... but bills don't wait for anyone, as you improve yourself  educationally and  gathering the American work experience, one will be trying to break into his/her field of study. Some succeed, and some don't! Again, it is no issue! As long as you can meet your needs and not go cap in hands to peoples' homes, you are good! And like I have always said, prudence is the key. Some earn so much, but after their tax and bills, they will have the same cash in their bank account as one earning much less.

Have a nice day everyone.
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