A Nigerian relocated to be with his brother. 3 months later he was sending money back home without his brother's knowledge. When his brother found out, he was shocked and angry because he made him looked bad in presence of their parents since he always complained how difficult it is and sends what he can afford. This caused a rift between them, and he told his brother from henceforth he will be paying his share of rent, utility bills and grocery.
A sister moved from 9ja to stay with her sibling. She got a job with a pay a bit higher than minimum wage and she was searching for higher wage. Her sibling discouraged her because she has no children and financial obligations, so her tax return to the government will be high, and she might not be able to pay back and be in debt to IRS! This caused a big ish between the sisters!
A family was accommodated by his elder brother. He does not pay any bill or buy grocery. One day, there was no food at home, he took his family out to eat! This provoked the host and quarrel ensued! He is being asked to move out as I write.
THIS IS WHAT IS HAPPENING HERE AMONGST NIGERIANS! I am spilling all these because, this problem is becoming so rampant and a lady is expecting her sibling over soon. She is being advised by a friend to lay down the rules immediately she set foot in her house to avoid stories like above! And what are the rules?
1}Wash your own dishes after eating!
2}Prepare your own meal or for everybody as the case might be!
2}Don't send anybody on errand, D.I.Y!
3}Do chores in the house without being told!
4}Immediately you start earning income, pay your share of bills!
5}After you have learnt how things are done, move out!
Harsh? Well, this is the plain truth and nothing but the truth to avoid squabbles!
Moreover, 2 families/siblings/relatives/friends cannot LIVE together in the same house in this obodo oyibo, quarrel go shele! If it is not the bill sharing formula, it will be cooking, grocery shopping, or chores, or cleanliness, or baby sitting the children. And it can either be the host or guest who wants to take advantage of the other!