I was just lying down pondering if this can ever happen in 9ja? Whether I am working or not, will my husband come home from work after beating the traffic to take care of himself in the kitchen? Or I will allow such freedom in my kitchen with the harsh economy and relatives living with us? WHOSAI!!! My guys, ENVIRONMENT IS EVERYTHING! You see my people, whenever I tell you all not to swallow hook and bait of what some married women say, many disagree with me. What works in a certain environment might not work in another! OUR ENVIRONMENT SHAPES US! A Nigerian man came visiting few weeks ago, he saw his host doing most of the grocery shopping, preparing his own meal, doing laundry, and babysitting, that he said, he can never live in America! I understood where he was coming from, because that is not the norm back home, but by the time he comes here to settle down, he will begin to adjust by force by fire without him knowing sef! Nobody go tell am how far!
I am more happier and content in my marriage unlike when I was in Nigeria! NO INTERFERENCE of any sort! It is just my husband and I! Last month was our 15th year anniversary. We still argue on issues, but get it resolved quickly. Regardless of this, it still does not give me the right to condemn or judge Nigerian wives living in Nigeria when they take certain decisions in their marriage. When I read comments in blogs especially from diasporas, I am like PUHLEASEE! If you find yourself in that same situation living in Nigeria, you might be surprised at your own decision!
OK! I am so hungry ... lemme go and make tea then ... I have lost few pounds by force by fire not because I am dieting or trying to lose weight, simply because sometimes I eat once a day... I only ate rice when I came back from work yesterday morning, before I slept off ... woke up, watched a movie and slept back ... let me go and check my weight sef... am back! 260.2 LBS! ...That is about 118kg right. HMM!