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Monday, August 22, 2016

THE PLAIN TRUTH, AND NOTHING BUT THE TRUTH!

A Nigerian relocated to be with his brother. 3 months later he was sending money back home without his brother's knowledge. When his brother found out, he was shocked and angry because he made him looked bad in presence of their parents since he always complained how difficult it is and sends what he can afford. This caused a rift between them, and  he told his brother from henceforth he will be paying his share of  rent, utility bills and grocery.

A sister moved from 9ja to stay with her sibling. She got a job with a pay a bit higher than minimum wage and she was searching for higher wage. Her sibling discouraged her because she has no children and financial obligations, so her tax return to the government will be high, and she might not be able to pay back and be in debt to IRS! This caused a big ish between the sisters!

A family was accommodated by his elder brother. He does not pay any bill or  buy grocery. One day, there was no food at home, he took his family out to eat! This provoked the host and quarrel ensued!  He is being asked to move out as I write.

THIS IS WHAT IS HAPPENING HERE AMONGST NIGERIANS! I am spilling all these because, this problem is becoming so rampant and a lady is expecting her sibling over soon. She is being advised by a friend to lay down the rules immediately she set foot in her house to avoid stories like above! And what are the rules?

1}Wash your own dishes after eating!
2}Prepare your own meal or for everybody as the case might be!
2}Don't send anybody on errand,  D.I.Y!
3}Do chores in the house without being told! 
4}Immediately you start earning income, pay your share of bills!
5}After you have learnt how things are done, move out!

Harsh? Well, this is the plain truth and nothing but the truth to avoid squabbles!

Moreover, 2  families/siblings/relatives/friends cannot LIVE together in the same house in this obodo oyibo,  quarrel go shele! If it is not the bill sharing formula, it will be cooking,  grocery shopping, or chores, or cleanliness, or baby sitting the children. And it can either be the host or guest who wants to take advantage of the other!

Adios!


Wednesday, August 17, 2016

MIDNIGHT THOUGHTS

I didn't know when hubby came back from work sef! I just woke up past midnight, went out of my room to check our kids, hubby was sleeping on the couch in the parlour, went into the kitchen because I was hungry ... too tired to prepare anything, went back to my room, hubby woke up to sleep on the bed, he does not like to disturb me whenever he sees me sleeping on my day off, I tried to sleep back ... NO WAY!! Hungry dey wire me! I don't want to eat bread or cereal or chips ... I want solid food. I wonder what hubby ate sef? I will ask him when he wakes up. Everybody in my home, has learned to take care of themselves in the kitchen. I simply cook the stew and soup.

I was just lying down pondering if this can ever happen in 9ja? Whether I am working or not, will my husband come home from work after beating the traffic to take care of himself in the kitchen? Or I will allow such freedom in my kitchen with the harsh economy and relatives living with us? WHOSAI!!! My guys, ENVIRONMENT IS EVERYTHING!  You see my people, whenever I tell you all not to swallow hook and bait of what some married women say, many disagree with me. What works in a certain environment might not work in another! OUR ENVIRONMENT SHAPES US! A Nigerian man came visiting few weeks ago, he saw his host doing most of the grocery shopping, preparing his own meal, doing laundry, and babysitting, that he said, he can never live in America! I understood where he was coming from, because that is not the norm back home, but by the time he comes here to settle down, he will begin to adjust by force by fire without him knowing sef! Nobody go tell am how far!

I am more happier and content in my marriage unlike when I was in Nigeria! NO INTERFERENCE of any sort! It is just my husband and I! Last month was our 15th year anniversary. We still argue on issues, but get it resolved quickly. Regardless of this, it still does not give me the right to condemn or judge Nigerian wives living in Nigeria when they take certain decisions in their marriage. When I read comments in blogs especially from diasporas, I am like PUHLEASEE! If you find yourself in that same situation living in Nigeria, you might be surprised at your own decision!

 OK! I am so hungry ... lemme go and make tea then ... I have lost few pounds by force by fire not because I am dieting or trying to lose weight, simply because sometimes I eat once a day... I only ate rice when I came back from work yesterday morning, before I slept off ... woke up, watched a movie and slept back ... let me go and check my weight sef... am back! 260.2 LBS! ...That is about 118kg right. HMM! 



Wednesday, August 03, 2016

I AM IN LOVE!

The feeling of new found love is exhilarating! You can never get enough of that person, always wanting to be in his/her presence......that is how I am now with Steve Crown's ......................................................................... worship song, You are great! This song has been on replay mode in my phone and Laptop for 7 days now! Please don't judge me for loving someone else apart from my husband ..... he knows and understands, I told you he is very liberal minded. WHOSAI! Not when it comes to infidelity oo. I have a selection of my all time favourite worship songs that I play but this particular worship song captured my entire being and soul! I can't explain.


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Our love story is like what you read and watch on tv and books .... a chance meeting and the cupid shot the love arrow into my heart, and I am crazily in love with the worship. I was listening to my new playlist as I worked, and the song came up, I was like; WHATTT??!! I didn't  download that! I allowed it to run it's course since I was busy. Surprisingly, I enjoyed it. On my break, I checked it out and it was by an UNKNOWN ARTISTE! I asked Mr Google using the lyrics, and I found him!  I sent it to my friend, because I like sharing wonderful things like this. TAA! Not when it comes to my husband sha, I am verrryy selfish about that! She too liked it very much and said she will send it to her loved ones also. You see how the love is spreading huh? OH! I also made it my ringtone, see why I say I am crazily and wonderfully in love ehen? Why won't I be? A very beautiful song, video, from a beautiful voice and good looking man! I couldn't resist saying that! #wink# I love that white suit! So did my friend! ahaha.


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It has top my all time favourite love song Olo mi by Tosin Martins. I can dance to  this song anytime and anyday! It happens to be my ringtone for my husband. Well, like romance writers do say, you can love two people the same time .... you can be IN love with one and you can love the other! I seriously don't understand it! All I know is that I love both songs! Each plays a different role to me! One emotionally the other spiritually, and I am satisfied.

HAPPY NEW MONTH EVERYONE!

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