I was not happy 2 weeks ago when I heard about a mutual friend of ours was in the hospital...watching over their baby who was in intensive care. They relocated here barely a year ago, only for their baby to fall seriously sick, while the hospital was running various tests on the child, it was found she has the sickle cell anemia!
They were surprised! Because, before they got married, they did the genotype test in Nigeria. They did the test in 2 different labs to rule out any chances of error. The results were; AS & AA, and AS & AS!They went for a re-confirmation in another lab, and the result was AS & AA! So, they got married. Had a baby. Moved to yankee. And got a shock!
I once wrote about this topic in my old blog and some disagreed with me! Someone made a mockery of 'my righteous anger'( that I should keep it to myself). Some said they are ready to have an expensive baby!
LISTEN TO ME! IF YOU ARE READING THIS POST AND YOU KNOW YOUR GENOTYPE IS 'AS' WITH YOUR LOVER AND YOU STILL INSIST ON GETTING MARRIED BECAUSE OF LOVE, AGE AND FAITH? YOU ARE VERY SELFISH! YES, I SAY IT AGAIN, YOU ARE A SELF-CENTERED HUMAN BEING! DO YOU THINK OF THE PAINS THAT CHILD WILL PASS THROUGH ALL THE DAYS OF HIS OR HER LIFE?
Love? What kind of STUPID love are you talking about? Love that will jump out of the window when the stress becomes too much and it is the men that always walk away! Age? So what if you are getting OLD? Is it not better to be single and happy than to go through all that wahala in marriage?Faith? Is it not the same scripture that said we should not tempt our GOD? It is mothers that are always at the receiving end, because the man can get another woman pregnant to have an AA child, he won't be the one to sit in the hospital all night, crying and praying from the depth of her being for a miracle from GOD!
Hence, my PLEA is more towards women! DON'T BE MOVED BY SWEET WORDS OR MONEY! The sweet words will disappear and be replaced with angry words! The money will be going to hospital bills! Believe me when I say, medical ain't cheap in yankee! You might have heard people say they are still paying their medical bills for more than 3 years. Insurance do not cover all expenses. And this child will be seeing a specialist...which cost more!
And you think, it will not affect their marriage in one way or the other huh? Day care centers will charge more because it will be one to one - care .... afterall nathing is free in freetown and there is no 'abeg-help-me' because of litigation! The couple will be strongly advised not to have any more children, if they decide to, a test will be carried out in the first trimester to know the genotype of the foetus, if SS, it is evacuated! The physical and emotional pain nko? What of the money they will be spending? The woman might end up not working and ask for welfare from the government because her child needs to be well looked after to avoid crisis.
I am AS, hubby is AA. I married at 27, which was considered late in the 90's. I have started having 'the talk' with my kids, I did not mince words with them! Just as I always joke that litigation do not know about sentiments in yankee, it also does not pay bills! I get so pissed off when people write to forums asking if they can still marry same AS and some commenters, will encourage them to go ahead by faith and love, and be ready to have several evacuations. Yet, they condemn abortions?! #A Janus!#
PLEASE, if you are reading this and you are yet to know your genotype, PLEASE do it this month! Do it in government and private labs. Parents should do it for their children now, they can re-confirm when they are adults. I believe genotype should be part of information on dating sites and ASK on the first day of dating before it becomes serious! NO CHILD DESERVES TO GO THROUGH SO MUCH PAIN!