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Friday, December 25, 2015

HO! HO! HO! HAPPY HOLIDAYS!!!

Merry Christmas to everyone!
And wishing you all a happy new year in advance!






I took these pictures as I drove down my street.

 Not cooking this Christmas again, my sister-in-law is hosting us in their new home and we would later attend a Christmas party. 
Thank you guys for always visiting, have an enjoyable holiday. YE-HAA!

Wednesday, December 09, 2015

CHRISTMAS TREES

My mum bought the first plastic Christmas tree  I saw, when I was 9 years old. It was placed  on the floor by the corner of the T.v and stored away after the celebration to be used again and again, with branches missing now and then, until it remained a skeletal frame and it was disposed off when I was 13. Did I miss it? NAY! I didn't attach any sentiment to, I felt indifferent, because it was oyibo culture to have it in their homes, my child's mind told me.


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So, here I am, in the white man's land, and you will think  I will behave like the 'Romans since I am in Rome ba? NAY! I saw different sizes of fir trees for prices ranging from $30-$250. The plastic ones within the same range but comes with colourful lights, and can be used again and again, unlike the fir trees that will be discarded later. There are colourful  potted  plastic Christmas trees for porches it is about $20. I was thinking of getting it, but used a Christmas wreath instead on my door, and put  lights around the little shrub behind my window.

I began to wonder how did this Christmas tree tradition came about, because it does not have anything to do with the birth of Christ, apart from the star they put on top which symbolizes the star of David, or the star the wise men saw or the birth of a new star. As usual, goggle my friend, educated me. In summary, it originated from Germany, where a lumberjack who cut down trees for a living went with his young son to sell his goods. The boy noticed that, the small tree at the bottom of the big tree was not used, and he told his father to bring it home for him, because he liked the fresh smell of the fir tree, his mother decided to put some colours  on it to make it beautiful, and it happened to be during the winter . So, NO! It did not originate from paganism as certain Christian society wants us to believe.

Later in years, a huge market was found in it! It is no news that all celebrations have been commercialized but some have come to believe so much in these beautification objects that they forget the essence of December 25th, which is a day SET ASIDE { see my emphasis} to celebrate the birth of our saviour. But I agree with all the commercials that Christmas is all about loving and sharing, because Christ Himself is Love. Is it too early to wish you guys a merry Christmas?

P.s;Santa claus nko? Some believe in him rather than Christ sef!
P.s.s; So how are you guys preparing for Christmas?
P.s.s.s; Christmas card is not my fort either! Take the money buy biscuit or sweet for me and use your hand write merry Christmas for the wrapper. #shines teeth#

Friday, December 04, 2015

HOUSEWIVES VS CAREER WIVES.

I never planned to write another post until nextweek, but I have observed that I lose the train of thoughts when I want to update or when I save it in my draft, it does not come out as I expected or 'fresh' as I wanted or I  will read a similar topic in another blog, and I  will have no choice  than to delete it. If you have observed, I write as I speak, as if I am talking with you, that is my style of writing which I enjoy, but if I draft it down, it becomes like an article after so much editing, hence, I like to go with the flow.
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It is about SAHM o! Infact, this post is long overdue sef! I will like to title it; Non-working mothers vs working mothers, but that will be too 'soft'. Lemme, leave it the way it is o jare!  Will I ever get tired of talking about this issue? NAY! Why? Because, I am still one, regardless of my  part-time job. Hmm, I no go let una hear word again because I don get one shekele job like that ba? Make unah no vex. That is where I get my tori from nowadays. Afterall, nah where pesin dey work, nah from there he go chop ke! 


A co-worker asked me if I have another job with the present one I am doing. I said, 'No. Another co-worker who was a Nigerian, said, I should not say so, I have another job. 'Which job?' I asked him oo. Abi I get a twin that I don't know of? 'Taking care of your children is a job!' I was amazed at his reply. 'Well, thank you sir! Some if not many don't know that!' 'It is those that have not sat down at home to look after children 24/7 that will say that!' He replied. Let me give you a little background info about my co-worker. He is married to AA for 15 years, has 3 kids, so, his orientation has changed from the typical  average 9ja mentality. This led us to talk more about childcare and family as we worked.


SAHM's have been castigated for too long by the society and virtual world in Nigeria. {I don't know about other countries o} The sacrifices made by us are not appreciated, hence, many SAHM, shy away from identifying with the cliche.  Infact, some people  believe they have nothing tangible to contribute to a discussion or worth listening to because, they have no value, since people's worth are measured by their income! (The bedrock of this present society is materialism.) During arguments, it is 'GO AND GET A JOB FIRST!  OR YOU THAT IS A HOUSEWIFE! Or They give more Kudos  to working mothers. Do you know what it is like to stay with kids 24/7? #experience is the best teacher.# If you are hot-tempered, you will mellow down by force by fire!


Many say, it is because of the unexpected.  GOD forbids! {AMIN O!} But I ask, is it only one-sided? Can't the woman lose her own job also? We are all living and striving by HIS grace and not by our own power. I know the cost of living is soaring high, but prudence is the key word! Stop trying hard to be like the Jones! There is time for everything! No woman remains a housewife forever! {What stays forever on this earth before sef?} When the kids get older, we either get back into the workforce or start a small business. My kids can take care of themselves now and help with my youngest, so I can venture out.


My 2 cents on this controversial issue is that, IF you have a good job before marriage, do not resign. Prepare to invest in a good daycare  center or if you are lucky to have your parents or in-laws close by, build a good family support system. If your job is nothing to write home about or unemployed before marriage, start to think of what you can do from home to give little pocket money. My relative is selling ice-cream from her home. I sold recharge cards and ice-blocks. I rented novels and sold cds{not condoms o, before unah naughty mind go think otherwise,ahahha} I even made zobo drinks in empty ragolis bottle water. I was learning how to sew bed sheets before I relocated. All the monies I got from there no fit pay monthly nepa bill sef, talkless of house rent! But it kept me busy for a while and I had little change to spend on my own. I managed a shop for a close relative for a short period of time  and was given an allowance {not salary o} of #20k a month, before I moved to the land of the brave and liberty. 


So my dear readers, I have been on both sides and I tell you that, I don't regret one bit staying at home with my kids. It has it's pros and cons, highs and lows,  but it is worth all the endurance and insults. I might not have all the trappings of a materialistic lifestyle,  but I am content and thankful to GOD, who is my provider and protector. 

Thank y'all  for taking the time out to read my long post. Have an enjoyable weekend.

Tuesday, December 01, 2015

MIS-COMMUNICATION.

Na wa! So December don reach nah-nah? Hmm, happy new month o!  Christmas is around the bend. I see beautiful Christmas decorations in my neighbourhood which comes alight at night, but fear no let me snap and put in my blog o, because I don't know if it is legal or  get sued! E no dey hard them at all to file complaint! If not, I will have delighted your eyes with aww-pictures. That reminds  of a Judge Judy episode, where she called a plaintiff an idiot for suing her friend whose daughter drove her car and died on the spot when the car flipped over. Yes! Some people just dey kolo, I swear!

Now! To the topic at hand! I want to talk about mis-communication. I found myself in the middle of a brouhaha that was going on in my department o! Being the new kid in the 'block, 'everybody wanted to play 'boss' with me! No problemo! I simply did my best until yesterday, when I eventually met my manager on one-to-one and bared my mind to him. He apologized for all the ish that was going on and told me who I should solely obey, and I can call him on his personal number if I have a complaint. I felt happy. You see, due to lack of communication between my manager and I, a particular employee was using it to her advantage, saying the 'manager left  so and so instruction down! I work only at nights, while the manger comes in after I have left but yesterday was the end of the month, he has to prepare his report, so he worked at night.

Mis-communication has caused rift in families, between friends, and even amongst bloggers! If only important info is passed out, questions  asked and discussion made, so much grudges and anger will be averted! Gaps makes us use assumptions as fillings. Communication does not mean doing amebo  or gossiping o! The key word is 'important info', to enable people to analyze, work with and have a direction or closure. 

Happy new month to y'all!




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