Sunday, April 26, 2015

IT COULD NEVER BE MORE TRUER! ... A DIFFERENT KIND OF PERSPECTIVE. I eagerly ripped open the carton to bring it out. When I got to chapter 2, I paused. WAIT O! This is not what I think is going to happen? HMM  ... ok! I continued reading because what she was saying, could never be more truer..

... 'he sometimes told her senseless lies such as this, because a part of him hoped she would ask a question or challenge him ...' {pg 27}. SERIOUSLY?! WHAT DO MEN REALLY WANT? They have a quiet and submissive wife, they complain! They have a strong opinionated wife, they still complain! COME-ON GUYS! MAKE UP YOUR MINDS!

... 'but nature is unfair to women. An act is done by two people, but if there are any consequences, one carries it alone ... you can love without making love' {pg 87} I like the way she refused playing the ostrich and matriarch about sex. Does that mean, she and I encourages pre-marital sex? Hell no! We both Scratch that! I believe just as telling white lies have become part of human nature, so is pre-marital sex. Instead of parents playing the denial game which results to many unwanted pregnancies, we should explain to them .... 'if you make the choice to be sexually active, then you must make the choice to protect yourself ... never ever let the boy be in charge of your own protection. If he does not want to use it, then he does not care enough about you, and you should not be there.'{pg 118}

...'You know, we live in an ass-licking economy. The biggest problem in this country is not corruption. The problem is that there are many qualified people who are not where they are supposed to be because they won't lick anybody's  ass, or they don't know which ass to lick or they don't even know how to lick an ass.'{Pg 93}  Do I need to say more? You want to know how corruption is done? Then read pages 32 &33.

...'I begged her and she agreed to let you work with her social security card {pg 131} ... 'and spent long minute looking again at the social security card and driver's license  ... All of us look alike to white people ... Just make sure you always remember your new name. I have a friend who forgot and one of her co-workers called her and called her and she was blank. Then they became suspicious and reported her to immigration. {pg 148}.  This is why I advise people not to stay behind illegally. Some might make it sound so smooth, but it is not so! This is why #SSN is guarded jealousy. Some might think, I am being insensitive, please believe me, when  I say I am not. I am simply trying to can read page 179 to know how she got a job.

...'Why was 'nigger' bleeped out? ... I mean 'nigger' is a word that exists. People use it. It is part of America. Thing is, each time you say it, the word hurts African Americans ... I don't think it's always hurtful. I think it depends on the intent and also on who is using it ...That is nonsense ... If my mother hits me with a stick and a stranger hits me with a stick, it's not the same thing.' {pg 168-169} ... If an African American calls you a Mandingo or booty scratcher, he is insulting you for being African.{pg 173} You see my people, I don't like to get involved in this racism-ish of a thing because all parties involved are guilty.  Well,...'Because this is America. You're supposed to pretend that you don't notice certain things' {pg 155}.

...'She stared at the phone and then the at the bills on her table, a tight, suffocating pressure rising inside her chest {pg 175}... I can't have sex with you ... {pg 189} ... Can you come twice a week? ... She looked at her life, in this tiny room with moldy carpet, the hundred-dollar bill on the table ...{pg 190}...Won't you ask me what I did, Aunty? Won't you ask what I did before the man paid me a hundred dollars? {pg 191} I wept for her because bills are not what you toy with in yankee! I have explained it here, but some people back home think  one is either exaggerating or being stingy, when they see the fake-life of some returnees. It pains me when I hear stories  of what some Nigerian ladies go through in the hands of men for money and papers. Yet! The demands from home keep coming in!

I love Chimamanda satirical approach to Christianity practices and beliefs in Nigeria.
Her honesty and objectivity of the going-ons in Yankee and Jand by Nigerian immigrants.
Her practical approach to the issue of sex. 
The frankness  talk about the state of corruption in Nigeria.
The only objection, I think I might find about this particular novel is what I initially thought in the first paragraph ... but I will keep my fingers cross since I am in still in part 3 , chapter 24 ... NOPE! I don't want to jump to the last page ... that will be cheating! #winkS#
Happy stress-free weekdays ahead people :D