Wednesday, February 11, 2015


I have been asked not once, not twice, not even thrice, if I don't get bored staying indoors all day? Nope! I replied...not here! But back home, sometimes I  did get bored with my company. Whenever I was in such a mood, I went to the market or hair saloon, by the time I chat for 1-2 hours, I felt better. So why don't I feel bored in yankee? It's a very simple answer; Because there is 24/7 electricity! And Netflix, is my buddy!


Honestly though, here can get lonely and boring for some adult Nigerian immigrants without families or relatives or friends, that, some throw themselves into religious activities, clubbing, studies and work just to keep busy. 'Why is it lonely or boring for immigrants? Some might be asking, right? 

Ok! Apart from the mind-your-business environment, commuting / mobility can also cause it. You see, it's not like in 9ja where there are danfo, okada, marwa keke, and  kabu-kabu that ply all the roads and streets. Here, you must google out the route, number, time of the buses or trains, and the walking distance to your destination when you get off the bus or train. By the time you consider the cost and stress of getting there, you will rather stay indoor. Likewise those with cars, do consider the total miles they will drive and the gas they will burn, and decide to just stay home. Also, some individuals 'week-ends' are on weekdays, and they will rather sleep-in, do the laundry and grocery shopping than socializing. On winter days, people just want to get to their warm homes quickly, because the day turns dark as early as 5pm, so no time for mingling.  Money also contribute to it; The idea of spending the hard-earned dollar on recreational activities is  seen as waste. And, the major reason many Nigerian immigrants keep to themselves is mistrust! Nobody wants trouble! 

Women are more at the receiving end of this loneliness and boring rope. Because, to avoid falling prey to sweet tongued men, some keep to themselves. And some of Nigerian men marry AA. Some travel back to Nigeria to pick a wife after getting their citizenship because they want a 'submissive' wife rather than the independent westernized Nigerian woman! 

How can this be remedied? I sincerely dunno! It all boils down to each individual's lifestyle and personality, because an individual can be in the midst of people and still feel lonely and bored!