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Tuesday, February 24, 2015


I never planned to update this week again until 1st of March, but when I visited Jay who lives in Yankee and I heard his gist, I just knew I had to talk about it, because the ish was making my body tremble with laughter and anger! On watching the video, I saw links to more of such videos, and realized I am a complete novice and newbie to all the going-ons around me! Oh! It's nothing new o jare! It's just that, when man bites dog, it becomes news, since it's only dogs that bites men! Let me make it clear that I support nobody involved in this ish! I am simply going to play the devil's advocate once more and say, he that comes to equity, must come with clean hands! And that when some people taste the same pill they force others to swallow, they scream how bitter it is! 


Oh! Yes! You guys must have guessed right; It's all about women Infidelity! Can one ever get tired of talking about this matter? Hell,no! Why? Because there are always new actors and actresses in this old drama saga! In the video, the man complained about how his wife cheated on him with a colleague in her place of work. What caught my attention most was his comment about Nigerian women in yankee imitating the bad side of yankee instead of good. I will like to take your minds back to this objective post I wrote months ago on this issue. The truth is that the Nigeria society stifles women, so when we come to a society that allows us to spread our wings, some will spread it so wide! And this is a threat to our men, who wants to clip these new developed wings! 

When a husband cheats, the wife is told begged to forgive him! But when the wife cheats, we get reactions, like the man in this video! I understand, because she can get pregnant! Nothing is more painful than a man to find out his child ain't his! And women are more emotionally attached to their cheating partners than men who are just physically attracted to their cheating partners. More-over, a woman can expose her husband's business or money secrets to her cheating partner, who can use it against him! No matter how a man rubbish his wife to his mistress, he will not expose her business secrets, because men cheat with their heads and while women cheat their hearts! It has become an epidemic in the Nigerian community in yankee, according to Mr Obudulu. 

SIGH! Listen, my fellow women, let me say the truth,  infidelity is not favourable to us! No matter the reason for doing it! Yes! The men can get away with it, but not us! Because, it's our children that suffers the brunt of it all! Especially our daughters, because they will say, a fruit does not fall far from it's tree! Our sons will find it difficult to trust any females, hence having insecurity issues! When unfaithful wives becomes mother-in-laws in future, they will always be suspicious of their daughters-in-law! Thus, causing strife in the home of their sons! Do you guys remember this old movie; True confession by Liz Benson? My advise, is communication. If all efforts fail, then divorce, than to cheat! Last week, a lady asked us for advise; She slept with her fiance for the first time and found out his private part was as small as her pinky finger! She said, she felt nothing during lovemaking. That she was thinking of calling off the engagement because she will likely cheat on him after marriage. We told her to break it off! Sex is important in marriage! Many quarrels are settled on the bed more than talking, I tell you! #winks# 

P.s; I came across segungele int'l vlog, when viewing Mr Obudulu video, and you guys won't believe this is the first time I am knowing about his vlog O! Mehn! The guy nah real tori teller! The gesticulations and mannerism is a typical characteristics of aporokoism! AHAHAHAHA. I gbadun his gist well! 

Friday, February 20, 2015


Hey! My guys! This is my 100th published post! Yay! To me!
So,What will I talk about? Many topics swimming in my head! Yes! I know! Blogging! What could be more appropriate than this, right? I know some might have few questions to ask me, so I will conduct an interview with myself! #wink# Ok! here we go! 

1} When did you start blogging? and Why did you go into blogging? I started blogging on October 4th, 2009.  My hubby introduced me into blogging, because he knows I like writing, and I wanted to make a little money for myself then, also make friends, and practice/improve on my computer skill. You see, I was a complete novice in everything, I just jumped right into it with my two feet, and I made so many mistakes. But now, blogging is more of a hobby and fun to me. An avenue to unburden my mind. A place I write as much as I want because I get restless if I don't pen my thoughts down. I had so many diaries in the past. When the pages were full, I destroyed it and got another, and another, because I just had to write!

2}Why do you go on and off like NEPA and deleted your old blog?  Hmmm,  believe me when I say, it was not intentional. I do act spontaneously when angry, which is my weakness, but I tell you, this my new blog; Nitty-gritty has come to stay permanently for good! I deleted my old blog;Simply mee, because, I wanted a new beginning when I gave birth. I was known as a controversial blogger then, which I don't want anymore. And I have been far!{laughs}

3}.....but you are no longer New dawn, but Nitty-gritty, why?  Ha! So you noticed! You are very observant o! Em..Em..I had to revert back to Nitty-Gritty because I noticed that Dawn was a popular name. And a particular person was being devious signing her comment off with Dawn and using a line from any of my comments I post in different blogs, to impersonate me. Hence, I had to revert to my registered domain name. 

4}What is the content of your blog? Well, emm... I talk on relationships, family, and give my candid view on news that catch my attention. I also share my experiences in life and lessons I have learnt  with the hope that it will be helpful to one or many people in our daily struggles in life. 

5}Why not allow anonymous comments in your blog, it will increase your comments and traffic? This is because, I want to know my readers on a one to one basis since I like dialogue / interaction. And I want to know my critics.

6}....but some like to protect their privacy or find it tedious to sign in, or don't see it as compulsory, so at least give room for that? I understand. I do appreciate their readership, if they truly want to share or enlighten us with their point of view on any of my post, they should make an effort. 

7}How do you see blogging in the next years to come, will it still be the same? Haa! I don't like futuristic questions o! I don't know what will happen in the next few seconds, so I cannot say how blogging will be in the years to come! Well, to be a sport, I will say, I sincerely do not know, but as long as there is internet and blogspot platform people will still blog. But what I can authoritatively say is that new generational bloggers will come up, and old blogs will rest, because of the age gap, our values will be different, and the younger bloggers will like to be with their own group who understands themselves. And with technology improving everyday, people are finding it difficult to read long post but prefer to watch and listen to 5 minutes talk. So I see Vlog taking over. More-over,  new generation readers want to be entertained and shown appreciation for visiting, so more commercial blogs will spring up rather than personal blogs. Which is good, because the only constant thing itself, is change. 

Wow! What an insight. Thank you for this chat Nitty.
 It was a pleasure and you are welcome. #Smiles and shakes hand with myself#


Wednesday, February 11, 2015


I have been asked not once, not twice, not even thrice, if I don't get bored staying indoors all day? Nope! I replied...not here! But back home, sometimes I  did get bored with my company. Whenever I was in such a mood, I went to the market or hair saloon, by the time I chat for 1-2 hours, I felt better. So why don't I feel bored in yankee? It's a very simple answer; Because there is 24/7 electricity! And Netflix, is my buddy!


Honestly though, here can get lonely and boring for some adult Nigerian immigrants without families or relatives or friends, that, some throw themselves into religious activities, clubbing, studies and work just to keep busy. 'Why is it lonely or boring for immigrants? Some might be asking, right? 

Ok! Apart from the mind-your-business environment, commuting / mobility can also cause it. You see, it's not like in 9ja where there are danfo, okada, marwa keke, and  kabu-kabu that ply all the roads and streets. Here, you must google out the route, number, time of the buses or trains, and the walking distance to your destination when you get off the bus or train. By the time you consider the cost and stress of getting there, you will rather stay indoor. Likewise those with cars, do consider the total miles they will drive and the gas they will burn, and decide to just stay home. Also, some individuals 'week-ends' are on weekdays, and they will rather sleep-in, do the laundry and grocery shopping than socializing. On winter days, people just want to get to their warm homes quickly, because the day turns dark as early as 5pm, so no time for mingling.  Money also contribute to it; The idea of spending the hard-earned dollar on recreational activities is  seen as waste. And, the major reason many Nigerian immigrants keep to themselves is mistrust! Nobody wants trouble! 

Women are more at the receiving end of this loneliness and boring rope. Because, to avoid falling prey to sweet tongued men, some keep to themselves. And some of Nigerian men marry AA. Some travel back to Nigeria to pick a wife after getting their citizenship because they want a 'submissive' wife rather than the independent westernized Nigerian woman! 

How can this be remedied? I sincerely dunno! It all boils down to each individual's lifestyle and personality, because an individual can be in the midst of people and still feel lonely and bored! 

Wednesday, February 04, 2015


Remember, I told you guys here, about the new style of packaged moin-moin that I saw in a wedding party? Well, last weekend at a birthday party I learnt a new tip of using empty caprisun sachet as a pouch for moin-moin for home use. Simply cut the top of the empty sachet, rinse it, and pour your moin-moin mix into it. Before putting the pouches inside the pot, place the usual protective layer inside the bottom of the pot, pour your water, and arrange the pouches standing upright and balanced. Then cover the pot with foil, before placing the cover of the pot on it and cook. So, mothers, don't throw away those caprisun sachets again!

My pipo, wetin dem dey call this item for 9ja? No be cotton bud? Well, I went to an AA Saloon for the first time on my arrival in 2012, and the lady was giving me make-up tips and said I can use Qtips to...I stopped her and asked, what was Qtip? She showed me. The Nigerian lady that took me there said; 'Don't I know Qtip?' That she felt embarrassed when I asked! I told her that, in our papa' s land that both of us relocated from it is called cotton bud! Shikenah! My pipo say, if you ask for directions, you no go lost! I am never ashamed to learn and ask what I don't know! One day, I will talk about the things I dislike so much in Nigerian diasporas in yankee! I tell you! Some are more oyibo than the oyibos sef! I just tire for some of them o jare!

This morning, as I listened to the radio, a woman was arrested for defrauding the government. She runs a care-home and was not truthful with the total number of people her home cares for. She had 'ghost' consumers! Hence, making more money from the government, who pays her for running such a facility. Guess, who the woman be o? A NIGERIAN! Mschew! I just don't know why some people think they can outsmart the system here in yankee huh? Yes! It can take years, but they will surely get them, and they will pay through their nose! Some will do mago, mago with their tax returns, when IRS catch them, they will vomit all the extra money they stole to the last penny! They will not live within their means o! Denging posing and doing effizy here and there! Dem think say, here nah 9ja, where ghost workers plenty for government offices?

Ha! My pipo! My ITK, don put me for another trouble o! Wait! Make I first talk, before unah yab me! HUMPH! Na so, FB send me birthday notification about somebody whom I know reach house o! I look the date and month, it was wrong! Abi, FB, make mistake? Or I no remember this person birthday date again? Nah so, I message the person say; Egbon, but your birthday no be this date and month? As I dey write, I still dey wait for reply since 3 months ago! Infact! E be like say, the person don block me sef, because I no dey get any news feed from am again o! It was later, it dawned on me that, I be wan pour san-sand inside this egbon garri, with my over-sabiness! My hubby laff tire, when I gist am! He told me that I should learn to mind my bee-wax o! Fb and it's wahala sef!

How do you guys place your forks at home? Upright {pix A] or downright {pix B}. Well, I do put mine like Pix A [upright] until I was corrected that it should be downright; Here, people are advised to put forks downright because the protruding tongs can impale/injure anybody who mistakenly slips, and falls on it in one of those freak unexpected domestic accidents in homes.

Well! That is it, my friends! Good-morning to you'all. Lemme see if I can pet my baby to's midnight and the bobo is running around and his eyes still dey shine kakaraka!