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Friday, December 19, 2014


Schools are vacating today! Ye-haw!

Ha! Welcome, blissful sleep until January 5th 2015!

Yes o!

It's 2:01 a.m, and here I am blogging, while my son dances to music from Tv.

When my older kids vacate today, they will be playing with him, since, they can sleep whenever they like on holidays, while I sleep on the settee, until he falls asleep.

Holiday comes with constant shouting from me ... since,they cannot play outside, they have to find an outlet for their boundless energy... the boys will wrestle and
bounce on the beds, and kick ball to each other... While the gals will play hide and seek, or tag. The little one will not be left out o, he will be running along with them, shouting with excitement. I will re-arrange the furniture to create more space.

Then we would play games like monopoly, scrabble ... do some drawings and colouring ... Nope! We don't do lesson during these short holidays, only summer.
By 2pm, they will use their tablets for a while .... I will have peace ... later, we would watch a movie together... back to their tablets ... then tv ... until we fall asleep.

We would be celebrating my 4th child's birthday on Sunday, he will be 7, then 2 days after Christmas my baby will be ONE YEAR OLD! ... yawning so bad.

Kai! No sign of sleep on his face o! I pray his routine changes when he becomes 1.

#Proof! This is the most in-coherent random post ever!

Pardon me my friends, I am writing through sleepy eyes ... wish y'all a merry Christmas and happy holidays...yawns.

Monday, December 15, 2014


My pipo, this mata I want to talk dey pain me for body 2 much! I dey missour hair dressers, no be small! Dem say, until you lose something, you no go no the value.
Make unah appreciate all of dem o! They are talented and affordable! I tell you! So - so braids and weav-ons  for here because it's time and cost effective! I want simple ordinary weaving every week, alternate am with thread to give the hair balance and texture! But WHOSAI! I know for 9ja, nah orishi-rishi  hair styles pesin go dey see. Why didn't I learn to plait hair sef? Mschew! 

I dey vex o jare!

Friday, December 12, 2014


 A friend told us she sent her mother back to their country for treatment yesterday. Her mum stays with her, helping to look after her child, but has no medical insurance.
Paying from her pocket will increase her credit debt or leave a big dent in her savings. She decided to spend part of the money she will be billed here to purchase a ticket for her to travel and get treated at one of the best hospitals in her country. HUMPH! My people, this is to tell you that, medical ain't cheap in yankee O! 

When in Nigeria, the impression I got from diasporas was that medical was free, and cheap. I believed because, Nigerians often travel abroad to seek for medical attention and nobody ever talked about the challenges they encountered. On my arrival, I learnt that it was not so in yankee!  I was surprised to find out that some drugs cannot  be bought over the counter like anti-biotics and blood/iron capsules, without doctor's prescription. Hence, people rob pharmacies! But medications for common ailments like cold, flu, headache, stomach upset, allergies, and cough can be seen on the shelves. The first month of my arrival, I heard, how a man walked into a 24/hour pharmacy one early morning, and shot down the people there, and stole some drugs! Recently, a man robbed a store of $1:00, so he will be arrested, and be entitled to medical insurance in the prison and be treated for his ailments!
The doctors abroad, are well experienced and equipped to carry out their jobs professionally! But this comes at a price! Medical insurance helps to ease the burden, but sometimes, it does not cover all procedures! The patient might end up paying part of the medical cost! That is why, you must understand the type of medical insurance you are buying, and verify from them before embarking on any major procedure, or else, you might end up paying from your pocket! And if you refuse to pay, your name will be taking to debt collectors! Immigrants and citizens without medical insurance pays with cash or cards.

The reasons some don't have medical insurance are; They don't have papers, or it will reduce their income drastically when deductions are made monthly, and since insurance is renewed yearly, if they have no need to visit the doctor for a whole year, it's sweet bye-bye to the money! And if you resign from the job that deductions are made monthly from, kiss your money farewell! Hence, some decide to pay as when needed. You can still go to ER, in case of emergency, even without insurance, you simply tell them the mode of payment; Debit, credit, or cash. A guy used his insurance to get himself treated, just a day after resigning from his job, the insurance company wrote to him that they were not liable! He was surprised! He paid it from his pocket. Another lady, got approval from her insurance to go ahead with a major treatment. Months later, they wrote to her, saying, she will pay part of it. It became a court case. They won, so she is expected to pay thousands of dollars installmently for many years!

Medicard is the government insurance for children from 0-17years, senior citizens from 60 years old, pregnant women and prisoners. Thus, obamacare is a welcome relief to many, because the onus now falls on employers also to provide medical insurance for their employees and one's income will determine how much to pay monthly for medical insurance, no longer a flat rate set by different insurance firms. So my people, that is how it rolls in yankee o! Hence, I doff my 'gele' for Nigerians who come here often to seek for medical help. Excluding our politrikians sha!

Happy weekend to everyone and compliments of the season in advance. 

Friday, December 05, 2014

DEAREST DAUGHTER {a short sequel}


My Dearest Daughter,
                                    I read your e-mail with excitement! I am glad you have found someone of interest in your life.  I know you are an adult but remember all that I wrote to you on your 18th birthday huh? Please, before, you commit yourself totally into this relationship, I want you to find out some important fact about your new found love, because, who knows, the relationship might lead to the altar, so be prepared.

                                 What tribe is he from? I am asking because, of culture. You see, every tribe do have a peculiar custom, which you might not like, but must adhere to, if married to a man from there! This can cause friction in the relationship, if you don't obey. I know, we have evolved from the archaic age to civilization, but seeds had been sown over the years, and the trees are still producing fruits! If you doubt me, why do we still hear discriminatory words about all tribes? Afterall, our fore-fathers who started all these have long left this realm, but the practices still continued, even after the coming of religion! Which is to tell you that, culture is used as a controlling and correcting tool! Do you know that in a tribe, a husband can give his wife out to keep a special guest company in his home? Or Agama lizard prepared for a new mother to eat? What of Female Genital Mutilation that is still practiced in some tribes, regardless of the awareness  of the dangers it involves? So, send me the name of his tribe, and I will ask people from similar tribe to tell me the good and bad cultural practices, you can ask for opinion from any online forum of your choice.

                                     What faith does he practice? Our society believes a woman has no religion, but to follow whichever her husband practices. Think deep and discuss  in details with him to know his stand. Ask yourself, are you ready to comprise to his own faith? The decision is solely yours to make, because salvation is personal. But I will truly appreciate it, if you continue in the faith I brought you up with, because, each faith comes with it's own beliefs and challenges. If he is of the same faith with you, then where does he worship? I ask, because, I have seen situation, where a wife don't want to worship in the same place with her husband, until she was forced!

                                       Does he earn a steady monthly income? I am not asking how much he earns or how rich?, rather is it regular? I am not talking about having many 'irons' in the fire, but his 'irons' are already hot and cast! Money matters in a relationship! Don't be deceived by what you read and watch! When there is a steady income into the home, you both can spend within your budget! Remember, how I taught you to be prudent and always save for the rainy days. I will not encourage you to be a SAHM, nor be the breadwinner! Don't go showing you can do it all, because he might relax on his responsibilities! Simply use your discretion to know where to draw the line! Now, don't go all wifey on him, by doing all his chores at home! Whenever you visit, assist if you find him doing his chores, cook sometimes when you are hungry or not going out for dinner, but don't ever take it as your responsibility to look after him, until he puts a ring on your finger! Men see it as a desperate act! Never! Never! You move in with him, until he does the right thing!

                                     The most important question, I want to ask is; What's his genotype? You know, you are AS, so your future spouse must be AA! This should be the first question that should always come to your mind when on the first date! I believe in prevention is better than cure! You are educated and enlightened to know the implications of marrying someone in future with similar genotype. Again, don't be carried away with technology, testimonies of people or faith talk, because, I do not believe in tempting the LORD our GOD! Will you see fire and willingly go and put your hands inside simply because you know, you can be cured? You own your future children the obligation of keeping them healthy! Afterall, they did not ask to be born! Are you not happy living a healthy life? Why then will you think of subjecting your own flesh and blood to years of endless pains because of your love, which might not stand the pressure and financial burden when the crisis starts! Remember when you had fever; You cried and prayed for quick recovery? Imagine, putting a child through that all the days of his or her life!
                                  My dearest daughter, these are the questions, I want you to ponder on, and arrive at the answers before you commit yourself fully into this new relationship, because it is always difficult to break off later when you find out, there are irreconcilable differences! Like I said before in your 18th birthday letter, love ain't enough to keep a relationship going, neither sex! But, a lot of factors as I mentioned above. Take care my dear, I will always be praying for you.
Loving hugs.

                                                                                        Yours Momma.


Monday, December 01, 2014


Music is blaring through my walls as I write this. My neighbour upstairs is in a celebration mood. Apart from the music, the children can make noise ehn! Running up and down the stairs and in their apartment. I dey hear am no be small! I kept quiet because I also have children, but one morning, one of them stomped so hard on the floor that the ceiling fan wobbled, and the lights flickered. I had to confront my neighbor for the first time! Because I will be held liable for any damage in the apartment!  Infact, I have to pause as I was updating this post to confront them, when the lights in my sitting room flickered due to the ruckus they were making up there. I have the option of either reporting to the management or calling the police, but I chose dialogue, and their parents apologized ... all is calm now ... hopefully it will remain so o!

garbage site

I went  to throw away the garbage one morning and saw one of the maintenance guy cleaning the environment, and he was grumbling that he cleaned the garbage site the previous day, only for him to come the next day,and saw the same bags on the floor! Nah everywhere this problem dey fa?... remember my water and waste post in my old blog? I understood him; I mean, how many seconds will it take to throw it through the chute? There was a time, the management told residents that, children who were not tall enough to throw the garbage should not be sent. I have this theory that, some goes out very early and come back very late, so they just open their car door, and fling it out. And I have seen scavengers ... I have forgotten the name we call them in 9ja oo ... not kolele ... searching for metals to pick from inside the garbage bin into their trucks. Remember, I said in my relocation post that people do throw out a lot of household items, especially when moving out.

Violation sticker, $2,000 fine!

What about outright disobeying of the law huh? One day, a maintenance guy knocked on my door to ask if I was the one that placed a barbecue grill outside the apartment? I said no. The guy, then placed another violation sticker on the entrance door. Last week, I came out and saw two barbecue grills in front! One of them used it on weekend, close to the entrance! The wind was blowing the sparks around! Shior!  Both grills are still there as I am typing o! There are public grills for residents to use ... humans are the same all over o jare! Nah only environment different jor!

My neighbourhood is peaceful. It is only busy in the mornings and evenings when children and parents are off to and back from school and work. The afternoons are quiettt...shhh. Whenever I check the mail I might be the only one walking. But during summer, activities are more at the pool side. I find it amusing whenever I hear a knock on my door and when they see my face, they ask 'Do you know any Spanish speaking family here? I simply point opposite and upstairs. They are preachers and salespeople. Talking of salespeople, nah everywhere hustling spirit dey oo. The women have hand-knitted baby shawls and chair covers for sale. While the men are selling CDS and locally made stain remover ... like the type sold inside buses back home. I no buy o!

There are many dogs in my neighbourhood. HUMPH! There was one that looked like wolf o!  All white! And Tall! They've moved out, if not I will have showed you guys a pic, but I googled something similar. I didn't near that dog even when on leash! Pit-bulls nko? I really dunno why that kind of animal should be kept as pet! One day, the owner allowed it on the grass to poo, nah so I tanda, for where I dey oo, I refused to move an inch, even when the owner came to hold the leash, I still walked very close to the building, incase of anything, I go dive enter any apartment o! Chihuahuas are all time favourites here! I see few cats looking out of the apartment windows, one was always following me whenever, I came out, nah so I ask am if dem send am come? 'Tell dem say, you no see me at all! at all! Abeg I no fit shout o jare! ahahahaha.

E se o for reading my neighbourhood  tori!
Happy new month to y'all! :D