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Sunday, September 07, 2014


I heard of a situation recently, where a couple who came to birth their child here, was asking for help from friends because they were billed above the budgeted cost due to complication that arose. To his surprise, none were able to come to his aid. The amount is same with the minimum monthly wage here. Those that have come here to birth their children or seek medical attention, would tell you that, your pocket must be well lined. If the couple were back home, they would have gotten the money within few days.

I remember a story where a man came here for a seminar, he found
himself short of $100 to complete an application. Nobody could give him the amount before the deadline. He had to call Nigeria, and the money was sent to him. A family went to spend 2 weeks holiday in Nigeria, and gave their hostess $100 as gift instead of buying items. They spent few days with them. The hostess did not appreciate the money because she ran her 2 diesel generators 24/7 and prepared sumptuous meals for the visiting family of 6, and provided other entertainment, all this from her small business because her husband was retired.

 A man complained how his wife nags about the $100 he sends every fortnight when he receives his pay, apart from items he sends to them for their needs.What and where am I going with all these stories? I just want to say that, it is not out of stinginess or wickedness, some people don't want to help, but because they have to settle all their utility bills, credits, insurance FIRSTLY,buy groceries & toiletries at home SECONDLY, and send the obligatory stipend back home THIRDLY. And  then, see what is left, which truthfully speaking might not be enough to help out. A friend thought of giving $100, but wondered if they would appreciate it? Because it is like a tiny drop, that would barely make a ripple, since he knows how some visiting Nigerians think! what is #15k, when they spent millions coming over to visit sef? 

Have a fulfilled week ahead. #Team wash hands always#


  1. $100 might be seen as stipend to some while to some, it's a whole lot.

    Come to think of it, what's the minimum wage in Nigeria sef? We too dey form sometimes jare.

    A lot of people over here wouldn't really appreciate such a gift because money 'flows like water' in some circles and secondly, the cost of living is way too high.

    Take $100 to any Mall here and it's gone before you can blink twice. (On necessities and not on luxury items, mind you)

    Above all, it will take a lot for folks back home to realise that money really doesn't flow like that abroad. From what I've seen, people have access to some of the basic amenities often dreamt about here but also have just enough to make life meaningful.

  2. @Abiola; You NAILED it sistah! I was chatting with my cuz 2 days ago and told him to forget the denge posing he sees in Fb and the rest, that chin-chin no gum some people! What is common here is a luxury back home,so I don't understand all the le efizzy my people dey do for their pages! Someone dash you $100 here? You should be VERY thankful.
    Thank you.

    1. the koko is that what is luxury in Niaja is seen as common thing in yankee, so people assume that someone who can live in a house with 24hours power, use a dish washer and washing machine, use water like no tomorrow etc should be able to give out thousands.

    2. Exactly Sykik! And some diasporans are not helping matters also with their exaggeration. Some of the things I heard before coming turned out to be said out of context. Thanks sistah. How is work? Abeg, no resign o :)

  3. Looolll. But I feel that woman who fed a family of 6 o, and ran 24-7 gen. E no easy at all.

    1. Yes o! I felt for her also. Thanks.

  4. Me I sha know I'd appreciate a 100$ gift !!! Nothing is too small

  5. Ahaha, I know you will especially when you lived here before and know the value. It took me a while to know the worth sef. I still dey take that 9ja eye dey look money especially, I appreciate a $20 gift wella! Once again, I wish you happy married life. Thanks.


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