Wednesday, July 13, 2016

CHANGE!

MY PEOPLE! We are now trying oo. Nollywood is going places! I couldn't believe the 2 movies I just watched in Netflix is from my father's land! I gave it 5 stars! I doff my 'gele' for the actresses and producers for making me proud! A standing ovation for ROAD TO YESTERDAY and FIFTY! Yep! I am shouting out the titles because I believe in giving dues when it is deserved.
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I am a passive fan of Nollywood movies, I mostly watched movies produced by Tunde Kelani, Tunde Ogidan and Kunle Afolayan. These 2 movies I just watched were well edited, dialogues tight and the producers captured the beautiful places in Nigeria .... swe-et! {In Panda's voice}. I also like the movies; Mr and Mrs, Irapada, Figurine, ties that bind and few I cannot remember their titles right now. Nse Etim, Dakore, Akindele, Genevieve, Mercy and Omotola are my fav actresses. Epic movies are my all time fav! Anything that has history or traditional background in it, I watch, hence Asian films are on my fav list....hmm...using fav too much qui? #grins#
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Change is the only constant thing that is dynamic in life and Nollywood is changing for good and I look forward to watching more on Netflix on my days off. Talking of change, I have changed my perspective about some issues in life because of my  experiences and environment. Hence, not advisable to say never to anything.

I still believe in Nigeria for a positive change, which starts from within us as individuals! And it is a gradual process just as Nollywood has done starting from the days of living in bondage to road of yesterday and in the next 50 years Nollywood will be a household name like their international counterparts.

Gracias!

p.s; I can't believe i have been awake since 1.00am...almost 9am now....watching new episodes of Jane the virgin as I update .... funny....and relaxing. Rogelio is my fav character in the show...that guy is something else...as in?!!! AHAHAHA

p.s.s; I chose a small blue laptop few weeks back instead of the big black type I always had, very easy to carry around and I now wear red lipstick to work  .... hubby was surprised because I seldom wear make-up....that is CHANGE! #wink# Adios!


Sunday, July 03, 2016

BABY SHOWER WITH 9JA FLAVOUR!

.....so! My dear readers, as I was saying last week, before I digressed to another post, our 9ja people know how to add flavour to any culture they adopt. Baby shower was imported from abroad by our celebrities, which is gradually becoming a norm in certain circles ....no, the average 9ja woman is yet to practice this adopted culture, because she wants to see omo-mo{baby} first before celebrating. But diasporas are not bothered ..... since they are in 'Rome', they want to behave like the 'Romans'... telling the sex of the baby ...which in 9ja is a 'top' secret the mother guides until her EDD. Abi you want make 'them' change am for her belly? Yes o, we are superstitious. And some scan results don't come out right....stories abound!

.....so! I jokingly asked if the party was a baby shower or naming ceremony? Because of the orishirishi; Jollof rice ati fried rice, assorted meat, asun, cake, chin-chin etc. 'Yes, baby shower with 9ja flavour' my hubby replied while laughing, infact that was how I got the title for this post. The few baby showers I have seen here is simple with light refreshments and over within 2 hours, that,with $100-$200, one can have a nice baby shower without going overboard; soda,cake, chips, cookies, candies and small chops. Daz all!

.....as we all know, baby showers here are usually organised by friends or family or colleagues, to help the mother-to-be with baby items and the celebrant don't need to go buying that special dress to wear that day, as I have seen some of our 9ja women do, anything nice in the wardrobe will do, and the celebrant do not spend a dime in the preparation but some of our 9ja women are the ones that spend for it! 

.....em, the question on some if not many Nigerians mind is; Do one still bring baby gift on the naming ceremony day after giving one during the baby shower? I have no answer! Simply use your discretion. What I do is that, whatever amount I have decided to spend, I split it into two and buy the gifts, give one during the baby shower, the other during the naming ceremony. Q.E.D! What I see here is that, after the woman puts to bed, she does baby christening months later inviting people and have a party. 

Nevertheless, not all diasporas have baby showers, some prefer to have only the naming ceremony. Personally, I always like to wait to know the sex of my baby after delivery....so, baby shower is not my thing...after I born pickin, come and celebrate with me. Ese o. (Thank you.)

HAPPY 4TH OF JULY AMERICA! YE-HAWWW! 

Wednesday, June 22, 2016

TRYING TO KEEP HEADS ABOVE WATERS!

I know I had a post planned for this week, but something else came up that needs to be addressed urgently. Listen! Diasporas have complained several times that dollars don't grow on trees, and the streets of America are not paved with gold, but these obviously gets ignored by some people who thinks that, they are the only ones that have expenses or problems or we are lying.

 A  man lost his job in Nigeria, his in-law helped him to process his relocation.They vacated a room for him while the kids slept in the parlour. For the 14 months he stayed with them, while working, he did not contribute a nickel to bills or groceries which was causing a grudge in the heart of the in-law. What broke the camel's back was when the in-law kids missed their school bus, they walked back home, and thought 'uncle' would drive them to school, he used the second car while their parents shared the other one, but he didn't because he said, he was nobody's help! This caused a quarrel between him and his in-laws and he moved out. Of course, he would have his own side of the story, but the bottom line is that, he was insensitive to the situation and has this Nigerian entitlement mentality, which is so annoying!

SEE! Diasporas have their own problems to shoulder on regardless if they earn 6 figures or not! The more you earn, the higher your tax and bills,The financial request is not just from one person but many, Imagine sending $100-$200 to 3-5 people from your paycheck....wetin go remain? Funny enough, my co-worker who is of a different race was complaining the same thing! I was like, 'so not only my Africa people? Imagine, lending money to a family friend when in 9ja, before he paid sef, na wahala, he eventually paid only half, and the balance was history! Only for him to call few days ago to say hi, next thing he was talking about a business venture...again as he did back home, then pinged today saying we should not forget him....AS IN SERIOUSLY DUDE? An extended relative has been calling me for the past few days, knowing his precedents since he grew up with us, I ignored! I don't want to start what I cannot finish! HABA! I picked calls of another relative whenever he called, so he called late one day, after I just rocked my baby to sleep, I told him to please call back, that I wanted to sleep. I pinged him when I woke up, he ignored me, that was how he became cold! ARE YOU F****** KIDDING ME BROS? So to avoid history repeating itself, I rather keep to my lane.

Let me tell you guys something, many diasporas don't have savings! Just as people back home live from hand to mouth, so are many diasporas living from paycheck to paycheck. It takes a very prudent person to save a little by depriving oneself of certain things, and I personally find it annoying that if my parents and siblings don't disturb me at all, but are rather concerned about my well being, why will I give my hard earned dollar to distant relatives and friends who were managing their lives before I relocated huh? At the end of the day, some have better assets than us! At the end of the day, it is 'you are not good' when they cannot get what they want from you again! A casual friend of ours, have all his siblings overseas, so nobody asks anyone for anything, rather the demands were from his relatives, when he got tired he blocked them! It is the tax return that many use for projects back home. A diaspora said, his cousin made an off comment that he wished he was the one abroad, he would have done better for the entire family. He then asked him, if he expected him to leave his bills and send him his entire paycheck before he knew he was helping?

As this might sound so harsh, it is simply reacting to pressure! You just have to hear some diasporas rant and people back home will feel sorry and ashamed of themselves! No offense intended, I am just saying it as it is! And some diasporas are not helping issues by living a fake and credit life to impress families and friends at home. Houses here are beautiful, streets and roads well paved, swimming pools and recreational centers are everywhere, so posing in front of any to take pictures does not mean they have money rolling into their bank accounts. Growing big in size does not mean diasporas  have so much to eat that it is outpouring through their kitchen window and door, it is simply because most of the foods are fattening...organic food is more expensive than inorganic. Burger, pizza, chips and soda are cheaper than home-cooked meals. Infact, it is the poor that eat chicken mostly here, so forget all that display of food on social platform. And diasporas look 'frosh' because of the climate. Clothes are bought at great sales! I got a black pant/trouser for $1:00! And I am rocking it well...even some kids clothes for $3:00! When I put these clothes on, some will think it cost much! We do all these so as to be able pay all bills. We are just trying to keep our heads above waters, and some insensitive people are trying to drag us under...which ain't gonna happen to me!

Good morning to y'all...it's past 7am...going back to sleep...my off day. YAY!

Monday, June 13, 2016

EATING DOG FOOD?

Good morning my blog readers, it's being 10 days since my last update and I am sorry. Not that I don't have things to talk about, I am either distracted or tired. I tried using my phone when on break, but the auto-correct is very annoying! Laptop remains the best to me. With the kids on summer holiday, my baby will not be climbing all over me now, so I will have time to update immediately my muse visits me.......hopefully.  

E---eHEN! You know there are some people who are ready to buy anything that has crossed the  7 seas to 9ja chei?  Infact, I know of 2 persons like that fa! I only watched in amusement, as long as it makes them sleep well at night, which one concern me! I remembered, I tried to advise one of them, her response was enough for me to mind my damn business! It serves me right o jare!  SO! She had a handle-free tooth brush she used to brush her baby's teeth which was brought from overseas, she would  insert her finger into it and brushed the teeth.


I was just strolling through different aisles as I shopped...last year, when my eyes fell on a handle-free tooth brush, as I moved away, I realized I was in the pet section....WAIT A MINUTE! I moon-walked back and took a closer look...nope, I did not take any picture because I had my 'pangolo' phone with me that time! OH MY GOODNESS! I whispered within me, 'I hope it is not what I think it is o!'On further inspection, I noticed it was different yet similar!These were bigger. I let out a sigh of relief! The thought that went through my head that few seconds ehen? Nah dog toothbrush dem send for pickin?  


This morning, I went shopping immediately I closed....holiday is here...so plenty snacks must dey for house oo...when again, as I was browsing different sections to feed my eyes and save in my head items that are on sales, I came across clothes for dogs in the pet aisle. I paused and looked at it well, because I have seen similar clothes in infants! YEP! I took pictures this time, thanks to the 'better' phone I now have. 



 Apart from the middle dress that has a label, which of the remaining 4 dress(es) is for a dog or baby?


The reason I am writing this post is because; You know, we don't have that habit of reading label on items we buy back home, we also have dubious people who are after quick profit, and some visitors to overseas make shopping mistakes, like I did, that  I bought tomatoes sauce instead of paste and salt without iodine. Some people might have bought items not meant for human use! The orishirishi things made for pets alone ehen?...#whistles#....is same for human beings! Is it candy? Abi cookies? Abi toys? Or diaper? Only, the labels and pictures on the items distinguishes them. But if the label attached to the item falls off nko?  Anyways, it is no news that much money is spent on pets than on humans by some people...so just be careful of what you buy or take, because you hear it has crossed the sea. Please, I am not trying to pour san-sand in anybody's garri, just enlightening, since we all learn everyday. Thank you.

Next time, I will talk about Baby shower with 9ja flavour in yankee.

Friday, June 03, 2016

CALLING THE AMBULANCE!

When watching American movies back home, I thought that calling an ambulance was free. HUMPH! I was totally wrong o! I came to know how it works after hurricane Sandy. I saw fire trucks, ambulance and police  all blaring their sirens down our street, stopped in front of our apartment, as I was wondering what was going on, I saw my neighbour's husband rolled out on the stretcher. A Nigerian friend who was in our apartment, said, 'the bill they will give this man later will be very high o.' 'Is it not free?' I asked. She gave me, are-you-serious-kind of look and laughed!  She then explained to me.

Why I am writing about this, is because last week, I met a Nigerian, while talking, she said, her in-law fell into labour, and told her to call an ambulance, because her husband was not around, she refused, rather she drove to the hospital in pains. After delivery, she asked, why? She replied that, if she had called an ambulance, fire truck and police will follow, and they will pay. She thought it was free also!

You see, there are some things we were  mis-informed about back home because of the movies we watched and the lies or exaggeration by some diasporas. I have told you guys before in this blog that medical ain't cheap! People will be paying huge medical debts for years to come! Insurance do not pay for some tests and treatments.

There is a joke about a woman who was having a stroke, her son wanted to call an ambulance, she used her last strength to tell him not to, or else she will be mad with him. The son drove her to the emergency ward. Imagine, she was in dire need of medical attention, yet, she was thinking about the bill! A Nigerian lady was involved in an accident, ambulance, police, and fire truck arrived at the scene. She declined the help of the ambulance, because she was not hurt, just badly shaken from the ordeal. Her husband later took her to the hospital for routine check up. A Nigerian guy was hit by another car, he came out unscathed, but the ambulance took him to the hospital. After examination he was discharged, he said he spent about an hour there. When the bill arrived, the guy could not believe his eyes! He called them immediately, and complained he didn't have the money. He was referred to a charity organization which paid most of it after assessing his income and he paid the balance installmentally. He said, if he had known, he would have declined the offer of the ambulance.

The ambulances are privately owned. I know 2 Nigerians doing the business. So, you have to pay for it out of your pocket for calling them! Nevertheless, there are some cases you MUST call an ambulance, regardless of the bill or not! Like my neighbour above who suffered a heart attack! 

HAPPY NEW MONTH every one.

Thursday, May 26, 2016

PLEASE, I DON'T HAVE A HEADING, O JARE!

I have been off for 2 days, going to work this night and while resting after taking my Tylenol as usual and preparing my clothes for tonight, I realized I have not regaled your guys with gist from my place of work. You know, where 2 or 3 humans are gathered, there will always be politics, controversy and drama.Some might wonder, why I am always talking about my work, since I managed to get a job? Well, for the simple reason that I don't want the over-sabi working women that used to cuss me out,  not to forget, and to let them know being a SAHM is not laziness or docility! My male cousin was asking me 3 days ago in our group chat why women are their worst enemy? This was because, his wife is always yabbed by women since, he told her not to work. I told him how a fellow woman called housewives maggots waiting for their husbands to buy pad for them. He was so shocked! Hey, to the anonymous that wrote that, my hubby still buys my pad and panties! You can go anonymous to cuss SAHM again...you go tire! If your hubby is not buying it for you, he is doing it for his side chics, be forming miss independent, while he is spending his money on his mistress while you foot most bills at home. The 'unexpected' you guys always talk about, I wonder if it cannot happen to you also....abi people don't lose their jobs and businesses collapses everyday? Are you GOD huh? Or do you know the wife's family background ehen? Always drinking panadol for other people's headache! And to you housewives that will not live within your means and be beggy, beggy everywhere, stop disgracing yourself! You know what your husband can afford, manage with it and siddon in your house! If it is garri or aje tutu {iced fish} you can afford to eat, do so quietly in your house! If you cannot afford diaper, use cloth nappy! If you cannot afford designer wears, abeg, made proudly  in Aba is there! You know you did not marry a 'Dangote or Danjuma', yet you want to frustrate the poor man with your demands! Respect yaselves! OK! Ranting over! Jeez! It has taken half of the post already, and this was not my original post,  and I did not paragraph it sef! I just wanted to get it off my sleeve....

NOW! Back to the original gist at hand.  My first week at work, I greeted everyone I saw immediately I came in. On the second day, a male co-worker who welcomed me warmly on the first day, suddenly grew cold, I thought it was bipolar thing. I noticed a particular lady always shy to reply, and avoiding my greetings by forming busy immediately she sees me come in, or avoid eyes contact. When I was gisting a fellow Nigerian what was up, she told me, I should stop, because they think I am 'interested' in them! EX-SQUEEZEEE ME? {In mindy's voice} She laughed and said, welcome to the working environment. Then I must be interested in the others that reply my greetings warmly and even call out to me if I don't see them. Well, I stopped greeting those 2,and few others that gave me the blank stares, like; 'I beg you to greet me?' WAHALA DEY! Everything in this world now have sexual undertone! There is a lesbian couple in my place of work. Initially, I thought, they were sisters because they ate and went home together. I watched them with curiosity, until I saw the 'man' in the relationship looking at her with soft eyes and always protective. Her dressing and walk gave her away too.

Lemme stop here for today, I will continue to yarn you guys small small. I have to sleep now, I have 6 hours to go. Thanks for reading always. 

Thursday, May 19, 2016

EMOTIONAL CHEATING.

Why do people think, until you sleep with someone that is when you have cheated? The flirting, sexting, spendings and hanging out, is what? As long as your thoughts are about someone else than your spouse, it is cheating!

I was chatting with a relative back home on the phone and of course we talked about Lekan, and she told me about a neighbour (I know him well!) who was suspected of having an affair with a divorcee with 6 children! His wife raised alarm about 2 weeks ago when she traced him down, after not sleeping at home one night. The man of course denied it! She munched their chats as proof, {snooping is good abeg!} His defensive was that, he was yet to sleep with her, so, technically, he has not cheated! My relative said, the sweet words from the munched chats showed people that are in love! Her ex husband was a divorced man before she married him, (so, e don dey for her body be that!) and nope, DV is not the crime here, rather the man got fed up with her and left the house and later remarried. 

SERIOUSLY?  Emotional cheating is even the worst in my own opinion. It has to do with the heart! It is from the abundance of a man's heart that he speaketh! The cheating men sometimes claim having sex outside marriage is just a physical thing without any shred of emotion attached! I always disagree with that school of tort because, unless that is her 'job' you don't need to woo her , since her motto is 'money for hand, back for ground', shikenah! But if it is not her 'line of profession' you have to 'toast' her to accept,so sharing endearments is cheating! The heart is more fragile than the body. It hurts more than the body. If a wife dare tries what some men do and is discovered, the husband will call the whole village on her head and won't mind if she is stoned to death in the town square! 

Cheating is cheating abeg! Be it with your heart (emotional) or body(physical)! Many times, it starts with the heart and ends with the body!
Happy weekend to y'all!

Tuesday, May 10, 2016

THE 'YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND PART' YOU DON'T KNOW!

The Nigeria media has been agouged with Lekan, the Lagos boy news! I have read so many comments from different sites since the story broke out. I wanted to pen down my thoughts at my  P.O.V corner,(at the left side of my blog) but I have so much to write that it was turning into a post and using my phone was out of it, hence, I decided to wait for my off day to use the laptop...OH! You guys seriously thought, I was not gonna use hubby's laptop huh? He will only say; 'You this, omo-Edo! I will reply, 'wetin? I no try? I did not use it for a week ke! We will start to tease ourselves, , but one thing for sure, I won't get another laptop until we conclude what we have budgeted for this year, just as he did for my phone.....OH! I forgot about updating you guys about that, he got it on my birthday, I picked a Samsung galaxy Note 5. Alright! Back to the topic at hand.

All have been said on domestic violence, and why some Nigerian wives still refused to leave their abusive marriages. YES! We have read, it is because of shame, society, sex, no where to go, and finances. Yet! Nobody is ready talk about it in the real details, because, they believe people will not understand. So, I am going to try to explain it and avoid a long post while doing so....hopefully.
My empathy goes to the children who have to stay with their mother's corpse until they were rescued. This is to show you how hard a man's mind can be! Some husbands threaten their wives not to go with their children, thus, the thought of leaving their children behind is  very scary! Have we not read,how some fathers beat their children, and they later died? Some end up being maltreated by their father's new wife! Some might not bother about the children's education, especially when they fail their WAEC OR JAMB at first attempt! Some fathers sexually abuse their daughters! Some children become malnourished? It is not everything, wives say outside so as not to be used as a yard stick by other women to measure their own marriage! My parent's neighbour used hot iron to burn his son's leg when his new wife reported something he did! My mum was livid and told the wife that she could have prevented it!

Do we think it is all parents that live in their personal houses or have investments or pensions (are they even paid sef?) to fall back on? They depend on the stipends and food stuff their daughters send to them monthly. Regardless she is working or not! When she thinks of leaving and consider the responsibilities that awaits her, she will rather endure the abuses, as long as the man does his duties at home, while she uses part of her salary to take care of her aged parents. Some housewives get large housekeeping allowances from their husbands which they will split and send it to their parents. If she leaves, how will her parents manage? I know of a woman who did that, and used it to train her younger ones to university. Her husband complained taya! 


Do we think women from abusive marriages don't want companions again? The truth be told, some can suppress that urge while some cannot! Some have low body esteem, that the thought of another man seeing them in their birthday suit is dreadful! And  it is mostly married men who are likely their friend's or neighbour's husband that will want to sleep with them, because they know them and their financial capability! This is why society, church, friends and parents tell them to stay! In the Estate I lived in Nigeria, a man was sleeping with his cousin's ex-wife! He wanted to send his wife away sef, but family intervened, he reluctantly left her!



Do we think these wives have good relationship with their siblings and parents? Apart from some being orphans, some cannot go anywhere near their relatives! Why? Maybe they were against the marriage in the first place! or She ignored them when the going was good! Or they never had a bond as a family to start with! Hence, she will rather suffer it in silence. And some, maybe in their lineage, the women never stayed in their marriages and they want to break that jinx by persevering. The same woman I mentioned above married her husband against her family's consent. One night, she ran to them with blood on her face, they asked her where does she wants to go with 6 children and did they not warned her? The man even planned to kill her to marry his cousin's wife! She found a dagger under their matrimonial bed! Abeg! Story full ground!


Do we think some of the women from abusive marriages don't have flaws of their own huh? Some are trouble with a capital T! And there is a limit to human kindness. How long can a sibling or friend or relative harbour her? After few months, friction will rear it's head, either from the host or the guest! I know of a relative who went to stay with her younger brother with his wife when she left her husband. This relative will give the burnt and black part of bread to his brother's children to eat while give her own children the inner and softer part. Because her brother was living in a room and parlour while she was married to a rich man, so her children deserved the best! Bread she did not buy with her money o! Of course, one of the children complained to their mum! What of my neighbour's elder sister whose husband drove out, that almost scattered  his own marriage within one year of living with them? She moved her things out one hot afternoon, without telling her brother, who said, he now understood why she was sent packing by her husband!


Lemme stop here, so as not to make it long. To conclude my thought on this Lekan the Lagos boy matter, if his 'team' is claiming it was a crime of passion, regardless his incoherent lies, then, the Government would have been building more  prisons, cemeteries and orphanages ,  if ALL Nigerian wives killed their husbands for infidelity! MEN CANNOT TAKE A QUARTER OF THE NONSENSE THEY DISH OUT TO THEIR WIVES! 'I know I am not a saint!' - Lekan. I HEAR!

 Let her soul rest in peace and GOD in HIS infinite mercy be with the innocent children and comfort her widowed mother and only sibling. Amin.

Sunday, May 01, 2016

THE COFFEE MAKER!

What a title right? What is nitty gonna talk about a coffee maker, huh? Well, why don't you read along and find out sweetie? #smiles# Oh! By the way, have you read my thoughts on the trendy gist in the media of recent? If not, check by the left side column of my blog and you will see where I penned down my opinion. Since, I am always behind to talk about the reigning news, I decided to be writing it out as it happens,without putting up a new post. If you are using your mobile, you have to scroll down and click on the web version to see it. Gracias! Oh! Another thing, I am using my phone to post, please pardon any error you see, and on my break. Oh! There is more, I damaged my dear Mr Lappy, and hubby told me not to touch his, because if he counts the number of laptops he has bought for me, e reach to open shop! Ahahaha. Not my fault, truthfully speaking, I just saw it on the floor! #throwaway face go one corner# Kai! It takes time to use  phone ooo. No shakibg! At all! At all! Nah im bad! #shines teeth#

Alright! I was talking about.....wait o! Is today not workers' day in 9ja? HEY! MY PIPO, I HAIL UNAH OOO! HAPPY WORKERS! DAY! GOD almighty will continue to strengthen y'all and put yanful, yanful money for unah  pocket. Make unah say a resounding AMIN!  EHEN! E-hen, as I was talking, there is a coffee maker in the break room. Management wants everybody to dey sharp for work, so they supply us with plenty coffee, creamer and sugar to make us chirpy and alert like an owl at night! #grinning# And e dey work well! Me that don't drink coffee before, now, I don join the association of coffee drinkers by force by fire! The before and after effect is as clear and different like 7up! 

So! The old coffee maker broke down! Management got this new digital one thst many of us could not operate at first because, you have to set the temperature and time right to keep it hot. And the coffee pours out like that of water dispenser.  Unlike the former one, which has 2 hot plates and pots on it, that it is always hot, unless switched off. From one filter, we can get 2 pots of coffee! And it is very fast to prepare, unlike the new type, that takes longer! Hence, we were not drinking much like before, how did I know? Because the trash bin was virtually empty, unlike before that there will be an overflow if the housekeeper didn't remove the trash on time! Management observed this and changed it after 4 days of buying it! # Maybe employees were grouchy or cranky or sleepy at their jobs!# ahaha. They now bought another one similar to the old model. But this has only one pot! Fair enough! Drinking galore resumed, but still not like before, because nobody wants to waste precious minutes from their break making a pot of coffee that others will line up for before the pot fulls! Now, I drink only a cup a day, instead of the 3 I drank ofen.

OOPS! Break over! Later my guys.  
Ok! I am back home. Lemme, complete this post before I breakfast and bath.

As, I processed this observation in my head, I realized these coffee makers can be subsituted for humans! Men that  abandon or leave or divorce their first wives always give the same excuses! She is old! She is not tush! She does not befit my new status! She is old-fashioned! She is not sexy! She does not satisfy me sexually! Blah, blah,blah and the list goes on and on!  They now marry the sexy, classy, sassy, and beautiful, woman of their dreams, abi choice, only to find out, she is not all, that she seems! That, the old stainless, rugged coffee maker was the real deal, unlike the plastic  pretty type! 

Until the 'other woman' wanting to dispose the lady of the Manor realizes that there is nothing special about her p****,  unless she squirts pure liquefied gold  or diamonds, she is living in eldorado! Listen! What is between your legs is not different from what is found in plastic life-size sex dolls! (which is in high demand now, because men that buys them says they sure of their faithfulness, medical status, and no emotional drama! ) Also, until men realized that the strength of one woman is the weakness of another, they will continue chasing shadows!

Marriage takes sacrifices, compromises and hard work to keep it going! Oh! You think i will mention love abi? I hear! Let us define Love: Love does not hurt. It is not boastful! It is forgiving. It is patient. It is kind. It is not selfish. It is not proud. It does not get easily angry. It is not jealous. And it does not keep record of wrongs! (1 cor.13.:4-7). Can we say there is love in marriages or lust?

HAPPY NEW MONTH! YE-HAW!!


Thursday, April 21, 2016

I AM STILL WHAT I AM!

'Remove the home-maker from your profile, now that you are working' someone told me recently. It made me remember an anonymous comment in my old blog, where I was advised to remove 'house-wife' from my blog name, since I got a job then. I don't know if you guys remember? Guess not? Well, you know what they say about we Capricorns huh? We don't forget so easily, especially shades, sarcasm and insults! ahahaaa...whoever came up with that joke, is not serious jor! But we do forgive, always, before you say sorry...not forget. OK, DOKEY! That is enough of that! So, as I was saying,  I said thank-you, but refused to adhered to the suggestion, because, I am still a home-maker, regardless of my 5 nights of work. My home comes first  because, family is everything!


Well, that is not what I really want to talk about today. It just came into my mind as I opened my laptop by 5.50am this morning, to update. It is about the Church! Hmmm, I can hear the hesitation as they read, because I know anything that's got to do with Christianity, some quietly walk away, but if we all continue to play the ostrich and do-not-touch-my-annointed-attitude, I DON'T THINK, WE WILL ALL BE ENJOYING THE FREEDOM OF WORSHIP IN DIFFERENT DENOMINATIONS TODAY! History told us how King James rebelled against the Catholic church and we have the church of England,  and everybody  have access to the bible, hence, the King James version of the bible is still one of the best sellers today and seen as authentic than the other versions. Then, the protestants (Anglican), Methodists, Baptists, and Pentecostals came forth...and more still coming!

I am a Pentecostal while my mum is an Anglican. That is how we now identify ourselves in the body of Christ. No longer we are Christians when it comes down to the nitty-gritty, like marriage. Hence, church has now become a franchise, like an organization! Because, Nigerians are known to identify themselves with certain brands or cliches,  so people who wants to open a church, will affiliate themselves with a popular church, to use their name and be paying monthly, as it is done in any other business! 

YES! It was a complete SHOCK to me, when a pastor of a church having the same name with the most popular church in Nigeria, said he could no longer continue paying the heavy dues imposed on him by the 'mother-church', so he is changing the name of his church! And all along, I thought, it was a branch of the mother's-church! People in the know-how were surprised at my reaction, because they thought it was an open-secret! I DID NOT KNOW OOO!

Why is he not able to pay? (He has to remit in dollars, not Naira! I have said it here before that Christianity in obodo oyibo is different from that in 9ja!) Because people will first sort out all their bills before being a cheerful giver or sowing seeds in faith or giving their first fruits to the church! Tithe? To each his own. One thing for sure is that, you cannot deceive them that it is for prosperity, quoting the famous Malachi verse! They know the church needs money to pay bills, like the pastor in the former church I attended, he clearly said it takes money to keep the church warm during winter and cool during summer, and where will the money come from, if not from the tithes and offering? This is simple logic reasoning, and not the brimstone and hell-fire preached in Nigeria churches to force people to give and enrich the church...oh! Did I ever tell you guys that my elder brother is a pastor? Likewise my first cousin? ahahaa.

Have a blessed weekend. About taking the kids to school, let hubby sleep today.

Tuesday, April 12, 2016

SLEEPY-ME!...YAWNS.

'Go and sleep!' That was  what hubby told me as he drove away this morning with our baby at the back of the car to his office's day care. Did I sleep? FOR WHERE! I really wanted to, but as I picked a toy from the floor,  my tiredness disappeared and I tidied the house, took my bath, lied down, ... sleep disappeared FIAM! ! 11.09am, tossing around, so, I opened my lappy.


You see, hubby asked a female co-worker how she doess.rrrr (those were the  letter-keys I pressed when I fell asleep!..ahahha).  My guys, I can't believe I fell asleep while typing OO ....  eventually woke up past 7, when hubby came back from work with our baby. I didn't even know when my kids let themselves in with their key sef! I only heard their voices in my sleep when they came into my bedroom to greet me. I was fagged out! So glad it's my 2 days off, I will go back to sleep when the eba and vegetable I just ate settles down. Nope! I didn't cook. My daughter made the eba while hubby bought different soups from African store ... I am becoming lazy at cooking. #covers face#

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As I was saying before I slept o jare, hubby was trying to find a solution to our day care issue, (so I can stop night work, he does not like it, but has to accept it..for now) and asked a colleague how she does it? That was when she told him she uses the company's day care on one of the floor's to help reduce the cost. The company is aware of the challenges parents face, and affiliated with a day care to help their employees. It is $60/day, the company pays $40, while the balance $20 is deducted from the employee's pay. WOW! Just wonderful! I was excited, but there is a catch..an employee can only use the opportunity for 20x in a year and 4 weeks in summer. No problemo! Half bread is better than none, at all, at all, nah im bad. Hubby takes him there twice a week. If an employee decides to be using the facility after the number of days expires, s/he has to pay the $60/day, which will be $300/week, and $1,200/month = House rent!


My pipo! Night work has it's side effects. You know me, I say it as it is. I am not a wonder-woman with extra-ordinary power. Some things suffer at home when women work! I have been at both sides and I tell you that, it ain't the same! I don't do some things again..like my blog..I don't update often..imagine just 2 posts in March? I don't blog -walk as before! My house is not as tidy as it used to be! Our love-making-life is dwindling! The  special bonding with my kids is reducing. For a woman to balance her career and family, there MUST be a good support system, from either her parents, relatives, maids or neighbours, until all her kids are old enough to take care of themselves and be left alone. Was it not few weeks back my relative got home by 12A.M because of traffic palava? Her maid was so worried, while her kids were asleep. And by 5.00a.m, she was out of her home again so she can be at V.I by 8!

Alright, daz all. Don't wanna talk too much. Thanks.

Friday, April 01, 2016

I AM A FOOL...NOT!

I will read about many pranks being played out by individuals on people until past noon today. Many will be called fools...albeit jokingly, but some pranks can go wrong, because not everybody have the same sense of humour and some people might be in a foul mood. It reminds me of  a story I read in a newspaper years ago, about a wife who refused to prepare breakfast for her husband that returned from his night shift. He eventually prepared it and went to have his bath. She ate it! He did not find it funny and expressed his feelings with several punches on her, it was neighbours that saved her! So people, be careful about how you make others look foolish all in the name of having fun! 


The scripture says we should not call anyone a fool, for we will be in danger of the fire of hell. (Matthew 5:22). Is there anyone on this earth who has not called anybody a fool, out of anger or joke? I have if you have not. SIGH! And today is APRIL FOOL'S DAY! Many souls are in danger already! LORD have mercy! The little things we take for granted. Can anyone explain this verse better for understanding? 

Sometimes, an individual can act like a fool for the sake of peace, which is by choice, but it is often taken advantage of by the I-am-smart-kind-of-people! I once said here how a guy called his friend a fool for helping him to and fro, from work, because, such is not done in yankee unless there is a financial agreement between both parties or alternated between both parties to save gas and relieve stress.

 I made a honest mistake of informing a relative about fb birthday notification error. She did not reply, instead, I was no longer in her contact! Abi, make I no pour san-sand inside her garri! Okay o! No problemo! Like uche, I  faced my front. Only for her to add me back last week, and as they say, the best defense is attack, she accused me of forgetting her. Like seriously?  She that unfriended me since 2014? I played along, because I know say, frog no dey jump out for daylight for nothing! And was I disappointed? N-A-Y! Since 2 days ago until this moment, she is asking me to push her something because she dey roast! HA! Because she don see mugu of the year BA? Or because I don't have problems of my own abi? Me, that cannot afford daycare for my son from my pay? Me that sleeps only 2 nights on my matrimonial bed? Then, I should send you my hard-earned $$$ after disrespecting me? This is the  best April fool's prank to me! I am a fool...NOT!

Daz all! Happy new month to y'all! YE-HAWW!
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