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Saturday, July 15, 2017

EXPERIENCE IS THE BEST TEACHER ... OTHERS IS BEST!

Hello everyone! Please rest assured, I DO believe in GOD and our Saviour! My previous post was misunderstood. Being a Christian does not mean, one cannot have an open mind and acquire more knowledge. OK! That one is out of the way. Thanks.

Have you ever remembered a past action or decision and you cringed because you realized you were either childish, naive, rash in your decision or just downright stupid?! Why is that? Simply because you have gained experience as you go through the phases of life ... I don't want to say age, because some people go through a lot much earlier than others .... and we learn everyday. This is why, our elders say; What your parents sees while sitting down, you will not see it even if you climb the tallest palm tree! This is not about age ... but experience!

Why, am I or is it I am? Hmmm ... am I, sounds better, but our 9ja 'doctors' of English  says there is nothing like, am I! Okay oo, even the people nah get the language do use am I! Alright! As I was saying o jare ... I can't resist sneaking in pidgin now and then, it makes story sweet wella!  Ehen! Ehen! As I was saying, I gained a new experience yesterday, but for the sake of avoiding a long post which many people don't have the patient to read anymore, when they can use their time and data to do other things, I will write about it some other day.  

I just want you to pick something from this post; Our values and priority do change with the experience as we make our journey in this path of life, so lets have an open mind. Gracias!


Wednesday, July 05, 2017

MY INNERMOST CONFESSION.

 I was taught Christianity is the only true  religion on earth and non-believers will perish in hell! I have suppressed my questions and curiosity all these years not to be seen as an unbeliever or worst a backslider!. The truth is that, I am hungry for the knowledge about other religion and the honest-truth about how Christianity in totality! I know it was coined from the name Christ, but we all know that name is very common amongst a certain race now. The first time I came across the name JESUS CHRIST borne by a mere human, I was so surprised and wondered, did his parents not see any other name? And I pondered, whenever I end my prayer 'in Jesus name I pray.' Am I praying through this individual? Or when I say. 'I cover myself with the blood of Jesus Christ'. Am I referring to that particular individual? Well, that is not what, I am going to talk about today.

I love the monks way of living.
I believe in re-incarnation.
I like Astrology.
Which is ALL against the church teachings. I refused to say scriptures because the 3 wise men followed the stars to locate Christ.(Mattew 2:1-12) And John the Baptist was thought to the re-incarnation of Elijah(Mattew 11:13-14, John 1:19-21, Malachi 4:5, Luke 1:13-17, 2 kings1:8)  and the earlier prophets lived a rigid lifestyle, shunning all materialism and mediate often. 

My questions are; Is Christianity the only true religion?
Don't other religions get revelations and see visions?
Don't God manifest Himself to them as He wishes?
Don't our creator perform miracles in other religions?
I ask all these questions because, GOD himself said I will judge your motive behind every actions (proverbs 21:2) and John in revelation said, he saw a multitude of people of diverse race and tongues in the presence of the throne awaiting judgement (Revelation 7:9).  Even the chosen race, do not believe in Christianity! Does that mean, GOD is no longer with them since HE made an everlasting covenant with Abraham? (Genesis 17). Please, don't reply with the power of darkness answer ... that demons give these other religions false revelations, visions and miracles! Because if you do, there are many instances in Christendom where many revelations, visions and miracles were all lies!  

Many Nigerians back home will always wonder why do Christians who left for abroad always change ... some become atheists, some lukewarm, some very liberal,  some non-believers of all the 'paparazzi' in our churches. It is for the simple reason that, living abroad will test your faith often ... when you see and hear things that have been accepted as the norm even within the church all in the name of settling down, you will be weak! Who I am to judge? I have not walked in their shoes nor do I know their story!

As much as I want to believe Christianity is the one and only true religion ... I can't!
That is it! I said it! A monk once said:
God is not a Christian.
God is not a Jew.
God is not a Muslim.
God is not a Buddhist.
God is LOVE!

Love thy neighbour as thyself!(Do unto others as you want them to do to you!)
Worship thy LORD thy GOD with all thine heart and in truth!
These are the 2 greatest commandments Christ said to his disciples when they asked Him. (Mattew 22: 36-40) DO WE, AS CHRISTIANS ADHERED TO THESE? Then how can we say Christianity is the true and only religion recognized by GOD? Can we say the hand is more important than the leg? (1 Corinthians 12:15)  Or the eyes more important than the ears? Or the tongue more important than the teeth? Did GOD not create all the parts to function differently but ONE BODY? 

p.s I will open the comment section for this post, to learn and gain knowledge from you all. Thank you. Happy new month...7th month ... GOD'S perfect number! 

p.s.s, I just got notified that the comment section is not showing ... checked my settings, it is activated, but I don't know why it is not enabled on this post ... no problemo .. you can send me a mail if you wish to newdawn9th@gmail.com ... Appreciate.

Sunday, June 25, 2017

DON'T TAKE IT PERSONAL!

Many times, I have heard these words; 'Don't take it personal!'. 'Keep it professional!' And I have wondered how? When you are working with humans and not robots? Yet, they say be 'passionate and committed to your job'! Again, I ask, 'how can you do that if you don't give  your all? To explain my point clearly, lemme gist you what went down in my place of work.

I started a new job 4 months back and was working with my night manager. Unknown to me she and the day manager had an 'ish' going on and I was caught in the middle ... a tale of 2 elephants fighting and the grass suffering for it! No matter how hard we worked, no good feed back! When we handover our reports in the morning, her written comment to our GM was not encouraging at o! From a scale of 1-10, it was like 2! Yeahh, it was that bad!

Did I like her? NOPE! From day one of she walking through the door on my first night, there was anger all over her and she was so cold ... that the smile froze on my face when I wanted to say hello. She barely gave me a glance ... she no care who dey there! Having gained experience from my former place of work, I too boned her and faced my lane. For a week, I never said a word to her! She was the one that started greeting me ... I replied if I like ... but I made sure I don't ever greet her first! Since, I am the type that wear my heart on my sleeve, no matter how hard I try to hide it, she knew I was pissed off with her!

SO! As I was saying, I didn't know what was going down between both of them, but I was not happy with her feedback because it will reflect on my appraisal! Is my own night manager without her flaws? NAYYY! She get her own for body as every human being including me ... but she is a drama queen with a capital D! She is nice but manipulative! When I knew it had nothing to do with the way I work, but, just sheer vindictiveness on the part of the day manager, I tried hard not to let it get to me and continued to do my best, which the GM noticed and appreciated, but officially, we were not doing good enough! 

Then, the night manager allowed herself to fall into the trap of the day manager! She started dating a co-worker which was against the company's policy! Of course, her foe heard, called GM, who in turn called our oga at the top, with immediate alacrity, she and her lover were transferred to different branches! I only came back from my 2 days off and met a new night manager, who is a friend to the day manager ... and yep, our report became very favourable ... from a scale of 1-10 ... we got 8! How? Are we doing anything different? NOO! It was purely 'bad-belly tinz!' 

And people say, it is nothing personal? We should be professional? Have I come to like the day manager? TAAA! Her personality is vile! This much a GM from another branch complained about! Can you believe my own GM didn't like my night manager and was happy she had left? And, am I glad she had gone? Sincerely yes! Why? Simply because there is no more tension in the office! And I don't have to be at the receiving end!  JEZZZ! Sometimes I was tempted to knock their heads together! 

The blunt truth is that personal emotions cannot be separated from professionalism, because humans are social beings! Yes! I know in the legal and medical field is is strongly advised not to let that happen but s*** happens all the time!

Happy celebrations to all Muslims. Barka de sallah.

Thursday, June 15, 2017

TITHING!

YES! YES! Scurry away as you read the title because it is a sensitive matter and you don't want to be caught sinning, right? I understand,I was in that position before, because of the teachings of the church. But like Paul said,'when we were children, we thought like one ...' As babies in Christendom, we believed and followed everything our 'adults' said and did until we 'grew up' and realized somethings ain't just right!

The bible recorded that Abraham paid his tithe from *the spoils of war* when he met the priest on his way home. The good book explained that tithes were paid once in every 3 years into the temple of GOD, to help the priests who were not given lands, orphans, widows, the fatherless and the poor. 

Thousands of years ago, a DIVINE being made  ALL believers, priests through His sacrifice and our body is now a temple, where the HOLY SPIRIT dwells. Hence, no more 'Levities to help us present our requests before our creator and tithes don't have to be paid inside a building! 'The poor will always be amongst you' Christ said, so they still need help. Giving your tithe to charity, orphanages, widows, fatherless, or anyone you see that is poor, is still fulfilling the scripture of tithing.

And, NO! Student allowance is NOT for tithing!
And, NO! House-keeping allowance is NOT tithing!
And,NO! Monetary gifts is NOT for tithing!
And, NO! Business capital is NOT for tithing!
And, NO! Fraudulent money is NOT for tithing!

Our harvest, which is now our income we earned, since we are  all NO longer farmers, cloth weavers, cattle rearers, wine-makers and fishermen, is which, to be tithed. You don't earn an income or don't make profits from your business, you DO NOT TITHE!
Shalom.

1 Corinthians 13:11 
Hebrew 7:2
Deuteronomy 26:12

Tuesday, June 06, 2017

CAN WE EVER GET TIRED OF THIS TOPIC?

HOWDY! Like play, like joke, June is here! Half of the year already! We thank GOD for HIS grace to see it. OKAY! What I want to bare my mind on today, is on the FB post about men cheating and my first cousin who happens to be a pastor agreed that all men cheat! SHIOR! I opened my mouth when I read his comment ... even you pastor? 😁 YEAH! I know it is an overflogged issue but it always gets people attention when infidelity matter is brought up. And from the comments, you will know the women who are yet to be in the institution! E dey sweet for mouth to advise wives, enter first, then come back later to tell us if you adhered to your own words!
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It is always the men that scream blue murder when they are cheated upon because they say women cheat with their hearts in it, while theirs is purely physical! I hear! Why then abandon your family for your mistress? Or Neglect your responsibilities at home to satisfy your concubine needs huh? Men also say cheating women might end up giving them pregnancies that are not theirs, but you men also have love-children outside your matrimonial home! 

All the same, none cheat with themselves! It takes two to tango! The men cheat with women, and women do same with men. SO! Who is really cheating on who, since, It is a merry go round? And again, cheating is as old as as the earth. Yet! We never get tired of talking about it! Why? Apart from the pain of betrayal, history has taught us it can change the course of a whole nation/human race! SIGH!




Friday, May 26, 2017

MAMA na MAMA!

Mother's day was celebrated on May 14th in yankee, and Children's day will be celebrated tomorrow in 9ja. As usual, beautiful words were said about mothers by their children, so who happens to be the evil mothers we read and hear about huh? My reply is in the scripture that said; 'even the evil ones knows how to do good to their own children!'{Matthew 7:11}. Well, that is not what I really want to talk about today. 

My cousin asked something from his father, when it was not given, he got angry and said; 'Why did you give birth to me when you knew you could not take care of me?' His father replied; 'Did you not see I was a poor man before you decided to come?' We all laughed ...  that was years ago. So I thought, if children were able to look down from heaven and see into the family they would be born into ... hmmm ... some might not have children, while many would have in abundance! But they have no choice in the matter. They go where ever our creator sends them to. Remember, we are just caretakers, because children are a blessing and heritage from GOD.{Psalm 127:3} (PLEASE no offense towards women seeking for the fruit of the womb. It is elaborate the point I am driving at. Thank you.)

Nigerians are fond of telling their children, 'I carried you in my belly for 9 months!' I laboured for you! Most times, I go SHHHHHHH! If they didn't come, won't you be the one running from pillar to post searching for them? They did us a great favour by coming into this wicked world sef! So, Nigerian mothers should stop holding their children to ransom jor! They are the ones to be more celebrated for given women the privilege to be called mothers and men,fathers!
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SO! It hurts me really bad to see children harmed by their own parents or step parents or guardians or relatives! It is because of children many wives stay put in their marriages; they want to protect and provide for them. It is our duty as mothers to always put our children first. Hence, I am usually surprised when I hear stories of women who love their husbands more than their children or put their own needs first before their children. 

The honest bitter truth is that, no woman can love another woman's child more than hers! Yes! She can love and care for that child but will not make certain sacrifices for him or her if push comes to shove, as she will do for her own child without a 2nd thought! WHY? For the simple reason that, a child will always go back to his or her biological mother as long as she is alive! That is when, you will hear Nigerians say; 'Mama, na Mama! 

HAPPY CHILDREN'S DAY! 

Monday, May 15, 2017

NIGHT JOBS.

NO! NO! NO! I have not stopped blogging as few might be thinking. I have so much on my plate; I have a guest from Nigeria, being with us for a month now and I am trying to settle into my new job, so my routine completely changed. I seldom visit blogs because, I am stressed out! This much my doctor said after I went for my wellness check up few weeks back. If I have my way, I will work days, but I cannot afford daycare for my 3 year old.

I observed that, the people that mostly work nights are students, grannies who helps out baby sitting their grandchildren during the day, mothers whose kids are young, those who have a 2nd day job, and young adults whose parents works daytime. I also observed that getting overnight employees is not easy, companies are ever ready to employ them, especially when one is ready to work on Sundays and public holidays. 


I have said it before here that overnight jobs do affect families! Bedroom activities reduces drastically. Housekeeping will be less. All hands will be on deck to keep the ship sailing! The 2 days off is not enough! 3 days, is better! This is because, on my first day off, my body has it's mind of it's own, I sleep all day, it needs to re-boot. On my 2nd day off, I drag myself to do chores and cooking, it will be on the 3rd day, my mind and body merges together, to relax, but I have to resume that night! 
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Listen, some might be wondering, what's the biggie? Afterall, many do 2 -3 jobs! And I will ask; What kind of jobs? The days / hours?  Are they males or females? Are they married or single? Do they have children or not? How many kids and how old? And are they on any pain killer medication? It is no news that many are using hard substance, that is why, drug screening is not toyed with before employment! In my former place of work, there was a notice pleading with any employee who was on drugs to see the HR for counselling! Do you blame some of them? When some employers wants you to have the combined powers of Flash and superman!  There is no black and white, but many gray areas. A manager once said, there is a life outside the job! I am an introvert, and seldom socialize, now it is worst! My kids and hubby are the ones that attends family functions, because, I will be sleeping.  I will not advise a young single female or male to do night jobs, it will affect their dating, unless both are working nights and on the same day off, like a co-worker and his wife in my former place of work.

Thanks for reading ... nope, I am not going back to sleep, rather taking my kid to his choir school concert. #YAWNS# See y'all later.

Friday, April 28, 2017

HOLA!

It's being a busy week! I have been on training in a different location, and I have a guest from Nigeria. So! What has been happening on all social platforms? Because of many fake stories/news, we don't know when someone is telling the truth anymore! But things are really happening! For the fact that, it does not happen to us or someone we know, it does not mean, it cannot happen ... so we should have an open mind and pick the core in the story.

Wedding party, the lastest Nollywood movie is now in Netflix, with the Disney movie, Queen of Katwe! What an inspirational true story! I wept at the end of that movie. I am listening to Shola Adeoye, live in FB, as I type, how many of you watch him? My hubby introduced his page to me ... I like his boldness and bluntness! His true stories from people leaves me speechless!  

Things I hear some Nigerian diasporas do, will make you wonder, whyyy? Like a couple whose annual income is over a million dollars, were on welfare! Depriving the needy! They were investigated for 2 years before confronted. Or is it when a host found out his son's SSN got missing after a guest stayed with him for a month? The identity thief used it to start a job in a different state. When the host's son wanted to start his first job as a teenager during summer, which happened to be a branch of the same company the identify thief was working, that was when the theft was uncovered! The company data base, said, he was already working in the company!

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Abi, is it a lady, who lied against her elder sister to their siblings in Nigeria because she didn't want to be sending money to them? When the siblings also relocated to yankee, they had grudge against their elder sister, until, the scales fell from their eyes, and they saw she was innocent, now, they dislike that other sibling! Another lady hosted a friend who relocated, on the agreement that, she will start paying bills after 2 months of getting a job. Time reached, oya, come and pay, story enter! The friend moved in with her new boyfriend instead! We siddon dey look! No be this yankee? When the guy use her wella, even take her money ontop, in the name of borrowing, her eyes go clear! Just to pay about $300 monthly come be problem because she wants to do big-woman for 9ja and save? So the host no get her own brukata abi? 

Ok guys, daz all for now! make I go sleep small. 
Wishing all Nigerians a restful workers' day on May 1st. I did not say happy because the recession is biting really hard! Salaries are not being paid or slashed! 
Happy new month in advance!😁

Monday, April 17, 2017

HEY! JUST FORGET ABOUT IT!

Hubby was watching a Yoruba movie when I walked into the sitting room. I asked about the storyline. He said, it was about a man in Nigeria who begged his best friend from abroad to marry his wife, because they were poor. 'Hmm, they will fall in love and she will leave her husband in Nigeria'. I said. 'You have watched it before? 'Nope!' I replied, and went back to what I was doing. After he finished watching it, he came to the bedroom, and asked, 'how did I know?' I shrugged and said, that was obvious, and we began to gist about relationships.

I know, I can be too candid for my own good, but the blunt truth is that, when it comes to relationship between men and women, it cannot be predicted! Anything, can happen, especially behind closed doors! See beauty and the beast! (some memes claim it is Stockholm syndrome that happened to beauty 😀) Some people will come to make noise on social platforms or boast to their friends when gisting, but in privacy, they will either kneel down or prostrate on the floor to beg or ask or talk to their spouses. Forget many of the comments and posts you read on social platforms o! Even if, you live in the same house with the couple, do you sleep with them? 

Abroad can be a lonely place for an adult without family or companion, especially during the winter season. A Nigerian man married an American lady who participates in everything we do. She helps with cleaning and serving guests that the men were impressed,and praised her for wanting to be like a Nigerian woman while the Nigerian women are trying hard to be like the American women. She laughed and said, 'they are still young {she is in her late 40's, her kids have graduated from college), by the time they get to my age and phase, they will seek for a companion, because loneliness is not good'. This is why a family friend who is a divorcee ( her first husband tricked her to get his papers) is about to marry a divorced man from Nigeria in few weeks time. We are seeing red flags,but, she is ready to take the risk, (at least for the next 6 years she won't be alone and who knows, he won't leave her), because she is so depressed! The documented Nigerian men in yankee just want to 'chop and clean mouth', and they don't want 'after 2' as a wife! And, she does not want to be used as a 'ladder' again by them! 

I remember a family friend who was being asked out by her boss who will also know! We advised her to resign because she was the 'good girl' who kept herself for a very long time and had only one relationship. Her boss was able to 'box' her into a corner and she fell yakata like a pack of cards! He sent his wife out, and married her! As my country pipo talk, 'cane used to flog the first wife, na for ceiling dem hang am!' He showed his true colours after she dropped one, that she had no choice than to move out!  He divorced her and went back to his first wife! We never saw it coming! That he would even leave his first wife because he caught her young in the church! He was her first and only man! And he was a strong believer in the word, active in the church and held a position in the church! NOPE! He was not jazzed! He simply wanted a male child and our family friend gave birth to a girl!

This is the reason, we don't understand why some people are in a relationship or marriage, with all the drama involved! It could be because of loneliness, sex, money, apart from societal and religious expectations. So my guys, make we start to dey mind our beewax, and stop being 'tappers!'

P.s, Hmm, my pipo say, since, the bird has learnt to fly without perching, the hunter has also learnt to shoot without aiming! Spammers are really doing something to blogs o! I had notification for 23 comments to be moderated, only to login,...spams! I also get spams from other blogs I comment in, that I don't click the follow up comments again. Hence, I removed the comment section in my blog, since it is only 0-3 comments in a post. IF you have anything to say to me, my email is by the right column. Thanks for your understanding. 

Sunday, April 09, 2017

ELECTRICITY BILL!

I have talked about the bills we pay in yankee, how it really affects the pocket if not well managed. Some might be thinking, how is it different from what we pay in 9ja? My guys, it is different o! In 9ja, I remember paying about #1,500.00 for electricity, so we did not feel the pinch, it was buying of fuel for generator that we felt the punch!
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In March, as hubby was paying the bills, he called me and said, our electricity bill had increased for the past 3 months by 90% ! EHEN! That is 4 much o! I exclaimed! 'Please, check around the house to see what we are using that is consuming so much'.This was because, when he checked the average electricity bill in the same area, ours was too high! He checked the days we used electricity most, it was weekends. He later asked his friends what they pay, it was lesser than ours! 

I googled the peak periods of electricity usage, the best time to do laundry and how to reduce the cost of electricity in homes. In December, the Christmas light was on outside until January. I don't use the dishwasher, the heater was on 24/7 during winter, I seldom use the oven, I cook stew, soup and do the laundry on weekends. So, what could have triggered off our bill to such amount? I walked into the garage ... could it be the deep freezer I moved from the kitchen to the garage in November, and connected to the main outlet? I remembered in my former apartment, the janitor told me it consumes a lot of electricity and advised me to be switching it off for some hours to save on my electricity bill. 

So, I un-plugged the freezer, moved it back to the kitchen. My daughter then told me the washing machine was using hot water. Then I remembered! In January, the washing machine had a little problem, which I fixed and turned the hot water valve on! So, I turned it off. I changed the days of doing laundry;The boys on Fridays, girls on Sundays, and ours on Mondays. Before, the kids do ALL, on Saturday, from dawn to dusk! I monitored the minutes my kids leave the dryer on ... many times they turn the knob to 80 minutes! I told them to switch off the air vents in the bathrooms after a short while (no windows) than leaving it on for hours, and put off any of the Tv they were not watching at the moment, and switched off fans when it becomes cool. I unplugged laptops, chargers and microwave when not in use. I now prepare my large pot of stew and soup on weekdays. 

YAY! Our effort paid off! This morning, hubby paid much lesser! The 90% difference can buy 2 weeks groceries! This is one of the realities of living in yankee o! By the time we add water, sewage, disposal, internet, mobile devices, rent, insurance, credit cards, and  asundry ... yeah, your guess is as good as mine! Wetin come remain for salary abi? Like I have said before, the higher you earn ... complete it o jare. You see why most people credits are messed up or are in pile of debts? Anyone that tries to play 'ten-ten' or 'pakolo' or 'suwe'  with their bills have their services terminated after a letter of notice ... no 'abeg oga', as we do in 9ja!

Some people with similar house, family size and devices, pay half of what we just paid. This is because during day, nobody is at home until in the evening when they return from school and work. Unlike mine, I work at night, and I am home during the day with my baby, until my other kids return from school and hubby from work. I am using the laptop now and the TV is on. I have used the electric jug, microwave, electric stove (It is not called cooker o, it is called stove here,whether be it  gas, kerosene or electric, all na stove!), and I just finished my laundry which I started yesterday night. You see why diasporas can't accommodate guests for too long unless they contribute towards the housekeeping?

It is all about trying to put one's head above waters. I heard a story about a host, when going to work, he would tell his guest to go sight-seeing around the city because he could not afford leaving him alone in his apartment, so as not to increase his utility bills!  ADIOS!

p.s ;Written April 3rd.

Sunday, April 02, 2017

IF SHE IS YOUR MOTHER NKO?

I believe wives in Nigeria have heard this question many times; 'If it is your mother nko?' I had another topic lined up for today, but after visiting my favourite entertainment blog; and reading one of my fav posts, I just had to voice out, with the hope that it can change our way of thinking! First, this was my comment on that post:  




""Hmm, when the topic of depression was discussed, I read comments, nodding my head in agreement because I believed we are coming to understand about it.

The poster,a first time mother reached out to bvs,and as usual,she is tongue-lashed,forgetting she might be depressed. She wears the shoes,so she knows where it hurts badly. And those who have walked the same path like her,knows also.

3 women! Living in the same house with all their attention on 1 man, who has to divide his attention amongst 3 of them! And we all know,his mother will be first, probably his sister or wife will be the 2nd or 3rd! Tell me, which wife will like to be at the bottom ladder?

Some say if it was her mother? And I ask these people, if she was your sister or daughter nko? If we want to play the sentiment game, we will all be going in circles! She carried him for 9 months and cared for him? Abeg, who suppose do am? Me or you? Abi her own mama no carry am for the same months and suffer labour pain? So make wahala kill am because she marry person son? Did she not go through the same process of childbearing now? Please we should stop all these emotional blackmail. His mother had enjoyed her own husband and matrimonial home, so let this nursing mother enjoy hers too!The way a wife handles issues with her mother or siblings is different with in-laws. I can 'cough' in front of my mama, she will see nothing in it. If I do same in front of my in-laws,meanings will be read into it!

Why not put both in the same room than separate rooms? While the wife and baby stays in one room. Haba! She is sleeping in the parlour, with her baby when she needs all the comfort and rest she can get! It's not fair!Abeg!Make we dey try talk true small small!

Poster, it has happened. No point crying over spilled milk. EKpele. Doh! It is time to carry your cross. Stand up! Tie your wrapper tight. Leave pickin with mama, go search for job, since, she will stay for 5 years,and your child won't start school until 4-5 years. Don't bother to talk to your husband, he will tell his sister, and they will gang up against you.Simply be gloomy around him, stay in your room most times. Stroll out with your baby to the park or go window shopping. The trick is, find any excuse to be getting out of the house leaving baby with your mil. Before you know 5 years don come and your sil fit don marry. Oya, go market, buy the cloth that is called 'patience' and wear it. Best of luck.""


Monday, March 27, 2017

PUSSY CAT, PUSSY CAT, WHERE ARE YOU?

Hello everyone! I have now put comment approval because of the number of spams flooding my posts ... one of the old posts had 150 spam comments! I got tired of deleting. Thanks for your understanding. 

I opened my window one early morning last week and I saw a black cat sitting on the fence ... I smiled and said 'HEL-LOO! As I walked away, I was grinning widely 😀 and thinking, 'is it me, Nitty, that just greeted a cat, without putting on my 'Armour', brandishing my 'Sword' and invoking fire and brimstone on it, especially a black one? Wetin yankee don do to me ooo? CHAI! If it were in 9ja, that cat is as good as gone! It would have been pelted with stone or stick or water! 

I don't like cats. In Nigeria, many believe, including me, that it is a medium for evil. Movies, confessions and testimonies of people, made me more wary of them! SO! I was surprised one day, as I walked towards my car, I saw a black cat beside it! EHEN! 'WHO SENT YOU?' TELL THEM SAY, YOU NO SEE ME O! I shouted at it! I was praying as I was driving. SO! To my surprise, many weeks later, I was at the backyard playing with my boys, when this same black cat came over and went directly to one of my sons who was sitting on the grass, and he was cuddling and rubbing it's body, and the cat was loving it. 'STOP IT!' GET UP!' I screamed! But I no gree near the cat sha!






'It's okay mummy, it's Elijah's cat', my son replied. As if on a cue, this cat came to my feet and rubbed itself against me ... ME-HN ... if you see the way, I stood still eh-en. 'Pet it mummy', my son said, laughing when he saw my reaction. Pet wetin? WHOSAI! I moved away, this cat still followed me as if it was on a mission oo. Is it by force? SHOOIR, I no want! FOR WHERE? It came to lie down by my feet, where I sat on the children's slide. 'Touch it mummy, touch it'. My son cajoled me ... reluctantly with shaking hands I touched its fur, oh my goodnessss, it was so softttt, it came closer, I stroked it few times and was giggling with excitement 😄... it came out unexpectedly o. Hmm, trust kids now ... next thing I heard; 'Mum, can I have a cat as a pet?' 'NO WAY!' I exclaimed! E neva reach that level abeg!



Few weeks later, Elijah, came under the pouring rain to tell us it had given birth to a litter of kittens. HA! Na so, my boys go greet the new mama o, when the rain came to a drizzle. I was wondering, if I should buy gift sef? 😃 One of the kittens is white in colour, it comes out to play anytime it sees my kids coming in or going out. Last week, It heard my voice from the window,and it came towards me, I was talking to it through the window, I knew it wanted to be petted, but I couldn't, instead, I took a picture of it. Yesterday, my brother-in-law and his family came to visit, when all the kids were playing at the backyard, the white cat came out to join them. The same thoughts I had earlier about cats in Nigeria, that was what they were discussing, saying, this cat was lucky it was not in 9ja ... so my guys, that was how, I got over my phobia for cats o!

I wonder if some of you have cat-phobia as I did?
Have a fulfilled week ahead.