Friday, August 16, 2019


Remember my previous post on working with Nigerians? I was called to come and intervene in a matter between a Nigerian and her co-workers in another department. I did not support the Nigerian lady because she was not right. 

SOME Nigerians are too stubborn! They want to have their way! This is NOT 9ja! NOBODY CARES WHO YOU ARE! Simply go by the rules! If you cannot, quit! And yes she was let go!

I keep trying to cover up for the other Nigerians in my department but it is really getting to me! Must one be corrected about a particular thing over, and over and over again???yWHY MUST YOU DO IT YOUR OWN WAY??? Many times And when politely corrected, they take offense!

Monday, July 29, 2019


27th & 28th, was our 18th year wedding anniversary for both traditional & church. We talked about what people said about our marriage and us because of our huge differences; Tribe, religion, shape, background and personalities. We talked about each other flaws and on to improve on it.

My name in my dialect means, I WILL NOT FALL FROM PEOPLE'S MOUTH!'(meaning whatever negative things people say about me, will never hurt me and my blessings from GOD).The things that had been said alone about our marriage by both friends and family, would have seen our marriage fall apart! BUT GOD IN HIS INFINITE MERCY SAW US THROUGH THE STORMY WATERS! All GLORY to HIM.

This is a moment of celebration, not venting, because we have come a long way. Marriage is NOT easy. It takes hard work and sacrifices on both ends. Supportive friends and family makes the journey less tedious. And the presence of GOD keeps it peaceful.

Tuesday, July 16, 2019


Hello everyone! It's been few weeks now! I have been wanting to update but have no encouragement to do so because it is quite clear many are not visiting or reading blogs ,.. scratch that ... my blog rather, talkless to comment. I know this, because I do same! 🤣 I rather click on my FB and read the trendy stuff rather than reading blogs. I feel you all o jare!🤣 But I still write, because it is my own way of relaxing.

Okay! What have been happening lately in my life and place of Work? Hmmm...nothing much! But old gossip about my former co worker that was a pain in my a** then, (do you remember her?) she eventually quit! My old colleagues jubiliated when she left! 🤣 To tell you, she was a real pain!

I strongly believe in prayers! Everyday, I see miracles and testimonies in my life. GOD is ever faithful. Indeed, He says, the battle is HIS and vengeance is HIS also. I have learnt to let HIM fight my battles for me. ALL GLORY be unto HIM.

Who wears the shoes knows were it truly hurts... but we still do not understand it, until it happens to us .... but it did not happen to me ... this time ... but to a co-worker who was fond of adding more duties on my team, until she got served herself! I told her, welcome to our team! Now, she understands how we feel!🤣 Since then, we are both good and no more additional workload. Just awesome!😁

Alright! That is all ... for now! Going back to sleep now to prepare for work later.😊

Monday, June 24, 2019


I lived in Nigeria for 38 years before relocating, so there are some things that Nigerians I have met in America say, that makes me give them the side eye! Some lies don't need to be told to feel important! You just DON'T! Empty vessels keep making the loudest noise!

Regardless of who you are or what you are back home, immediately you cross the 7 seas into America, you are like ever other immigrant hustling for the dollar and struggling to pay bills!

I understand the changes can have an impact on some people pysch and I always LISTEN to them when they start talking; If that is their coping mechanism, I go along with them, to help them feel better. BUT! There is a line, they should NOT cross! When they try to make themselves look better than other diasporans! There I draw the line! Abeggy, we are ALL hustling for the $$$!

I do NOT have any Nigerian friend! Yes, I have co-workets. Why? Because, I do not want drama and over-hyping and end up offending them with my bluntness! So I maintain my lane! 

Have a blessed week.

Monday, June 17, 2019


Social platforms have been agog with father's day awareness because it is mostly mother's day that is well celebrated. So this morning my hubby said he was not entering the kitchen in celebration of father's day, just as I did during mother's day. We laughed. And I went down memory lane; 20 years we have been together, 18 years of marriage by July, and  while in Nigeria, hubby did not go to the kitchen to cook, he could not boil ordinary indomie noodles sef! 

Living abroad for 7 years now by HIS GRACE has brought remarkable changes in our lives. For those who have read my previous old posts, I talked about the challenges in our inter-tribal and religious marriage. Those challenges have now been overcome. I thank GOD always for bringing us to America, because environment played a huge factor: No external interferences from families and friends. When we have an issue, we resolve it between ourselves. We are now more closer to each other unlike before when in Nigeria. All GLORY to GOD, because it is not by our own efforts. 

Yes,you are a good father when I wished him happy father's day. He does the school runs, attend school activities, grocery shopping, and cook for us. My cooking game is very low nowadays. My daughters  and hubby are more in charge. 

Happy father's day to every father out there. 

P.s : Started the post yesterday, but fell asleep. So I am posting it this morning @ past 3am. 

Sunday, June 02, 2019


A lot have happened for the past few weeks.
The sour co-worker I told you guys about in previous posts, had been fired! Her attitude really sucks and she stepped on the wrong toes! 

I wish I can talk about my experiences with my clients but I have to respect the privacy policy. But I tell you, some of them feels sooo entitled that it irks me! They make the compassion in me to grow cold! I have to keep telling myself: 'You are here to do a job, don't take it personal! Don't take your job home! YEAH! Easier said than done!🤣

The other team working in a different department is having racial issues! Nope! Not white vs black, but African Americans vs Africans! The Afican Americans  DISLIKE Africans! Which they do not bother to hide. It is so bad that, there had been verbal alteractions which made the HOD to intervene! Yes! I am suprised like you guys!

Daz all for now...happy New month everyone.

Sunday, May 19, 2019


The month of May means so much to me. It was the month we relocated abroad...making it 7 years now, all to the Glory of GOD.

It is the month we celebrate 3 birthdays in my home: Last week was my 1st son's  birthday, today is my hubby's birthday, next week is my 2nd daughter's birthday, yesterday was my 1st daughter's prom and her graduation is next week. What a blessed month! Again, all praises be to JEHOVAH!

It is in May, all issues in my place of work got resolved. Some were fired, including the sour Nigerian co-worker I talked about previously, and some quit. Now, everyone, knows their roles and get their job done! No room for nonsense!

I am indeed grateful to GOD for HIS infinite mercy. Not because I am righteous or loved most, but just by His grace. He has seen us through a lot. It had not been a bed of roses,  even roses have thorns that prickles. Some days I have cried, I have had doubts, I have  asked many questions, I have made errors ... but through it all, HE remained faithful.

Please, you all should join me to celebrate . For the bible says: Rejoice with those that rejoice... shall it be. Shalom.

Monday, May 06, 2019


I am no fan of PDA. To see it displayed inside church during worship in the name of keeping a United front as a couple leaves me amused. 

They had their hands  wrapped around each other, while standing, With her head resting on his chest, swinging and singing together to the beat and song... ..and her hand rubbing his chest with her eyes closed! Yes! They were directly in my line of  vision

I see couples holding hands together, wives resting their heads on their husbands shoulders, husbands caressing their wives arms in a circular motion ... which I had always IGNORED, telling myself it is none of my bee wax! But what I saw last Sunday was just too much abeg! There is a place for every thing!

As much, as I like the refreshed experience of a different church,PDA is not my thing! This is because, I see it as trying hard to validate something! To either prove to yourself or to others that you are loved or you love the person. 

I rather to be shown and showered love when alone together and by kind actions. And not all these PDA! My hubby knows this about me 

 If the world wants to show love through PDA, we should STOP the violence! And the world will be a better place.

Wednesday, May 01, 2019


Today is worker's day in Nigeria. So, let me gist you all about the updates in my place of work. Do you guys remember my first complaint about my coworker who was making things difficult for me that I had to report to management and requested to be moved to another section? 

Well! Management employed another person to work with her. GUESS WHAT? Last month, they had a clash! In fact, the new employee gave her hot! That, she was the one that went to report to management. She went for an interview in another place, unknown to her, one of the interviewers knows someone in our place of work and asked about her. MEHN! The person downloaded this lady story finish for the interviewer. I will update you, if she gets the job or not. 

About my own team that I am the lead; Remember I had issues with the Nigerians there? Eventually things fell in place and everybody now know what is expected of them. We  have made our peace with each other EXCEPT one who is still giving a sour attitude. I simply ignored her because, she go tire! We came here to earn a paycheck and go back to our houses. Do I still trust them or want to work with them in future? NAYY! 

Daz all! Happy workers' day!😁

Saturday, April 06, 2019


Indeed! Who laughs last, laughs best! I am laughing my guys! Eventually everything came to a conclusion when a conference was held with parties involved and found out, my 9ja people were economical with the truth! They spiced up their own version to make them look like the victims. ALAS! I was vindicated! The attitude of one of them, really sucked, which irritated the management and nailed them guilty!

New rules were implemented and more authority given to me, which astonished them! They never expected it! Imagine! Not that they were accused wrongly but angry the management found out. And they want to know who told on them! Like my people say; It is foolhardy to go looking at the back of a tortoise to see if it has an anus, because we all do, and we all shit and all our shit stinks! 

Hopefully, they will sit-up and throw their own weight around too! It is not fair when others are carrying most of the weight and they just stroll along. I do not like conflict or confrontation, I tell you, but some might not believe. Right now, we are all on a clean slate, everybody on their lane and facing front. Which suits me wella!

Okay guys,daz all....hopefully! #grinning#

Monday, April 01, 2019


Remember the previous post about me not liking working with some Nigerians? Read it here, if you have not. This is the update: So I eventually had a talk with them so they can change,because management is now aware and I will be held responsible for any complaints made by clients. Did it go well as planned? HELL NO! Instead they decided to go on the offence and display some attitude that left me completely amused! Even the white co-worker was amused and asked me what was all that about? I explained to her that, it is the Nigerian way of snubbing. She was amazed at my being calm with all their irritating gestures, innuendos, sarcasm and giggles! On my part, I IGNORED THEM! Silence is a wonderful tool! It cuts deeper than you think!

Their grouse? How did the management got to know, if someone did not talk? And I was like; How is that an issue?  Do you do these things or not? Were they lied against? These are the questions they should be asking themselves! NO! They were guilty as told! They were not happy their game was up! What gave them the impetus to act as if they were the victims? They spoke with someone, who decided to speak from both sides of her mouth for reasons best known to her, hence throwing the others under the bus! When I found out what happened, I kept my cool, and decided to see how this drama will unfold ... I will simply sit and watch! As long as they pull their own weight along with others, I am very good, because that is what we get paid for! When it comes to work and money, no sentiments!

This much, I talked about at a party I attended, when discussion was about work. Oh boy! The things I heard that made me laugh! A Nigerian that recruits for a company said, she does not employ Nigerians because, she got tired of the complaints! She hires other Africans. Some Nigerians believe if a Nigerian is the HOD, Manager or supervisor, they've got their back covered and is a license to do whatever they like! Some bring in the same mediocrity from their working ethics back home, not knowing there are both human and artificial eyes always watching them! 

Do I like this trend of thought or what is happening? NO! But, the bitter truth is that, it affects other Nigerians who take their work serious. You see, it is just like the common saying that goes; 'A rotten apple spoils the whole barrel! And if palm oil stains one finger, it will soil the other fingers! This is why, to proof our worth, many Nigerians work twice as hard to earn that same respect as our counterparts because we have been stereotyped! Our skin colour is not happening matters to start with, then combined that with attitude to work ? It is a recipe for not able to get a good job! I will continue to keep you 'all updated. Happy new month everyone!

Monday, March 25, 2019


The post title is shocking right? Since, I am a Nigerian! So I should rather say I don't like working with some Nigerians. A lady once told me that, and I quickly took on the role of Voltron to defend my fellow Nigerians (as if dem send me message!). She simply did not argue with me, but just smiled and said, 'I won't understand.' Now I do! I called her to let her know she was right. (That is the kind of person I am). She laughed, as I told her my experience...which I am about to share with you all.

We are 4 Nigerians working the same shift alternatively. I am the lead. I observed that, they do not differentiate between work and friendship. When I work with non-Nigerians, they do their jobs without sentiments and I had not found any reason to complain about their duty. But come to my own fellow 9jas..D-R-A-M-A! Thrice, I had to put my foot down! YES! We can be paddies, but when it comes to work, W-O-R-K!

YEP! They might see me as the 'bad-guy' now, but I don't care! As long as the job gets done! SHIKENAH! They come in late! Take longer breaks! Grumble when called or reminded or  asked to assist to do something! Like REALLY?? They just want to be left  alone to do whatever they like! How fair is that to others who are doing the same job at the right time huh? 

The other lady experience is more stressful than mine since she is a manager: They want to go home on time, giving one excuse or the other. Arrive late from their first job. Most annoying thing is asking for cash loans! As if they are in Nigeria! I have said it before in this blog that, you work for every dime you make! No 1 second is free!