Monday, August 22, 2016

THE PLAIN TRUTH, AND NOTHING BUT THE TRUTH!

A Nigerian relocated to be with his brother. 3 months later he was sending money back home without his brother's knowledge. When his brother found out, he was shocked and angry because he made him looked bad in presence of their parents since he always complained how difficult it is and sends what he can afford. This caused a rift between them, and  he told his brother from henceforth he will be paying his share of  rent, utility bills and grocery.

A sister moved from 9ja to stay with her sibling. She got a job with a pay a bit higher than minimum wage and she was searching for higher wage. Her sibling discouraged her because she has no children and financial obligations, so her tax return to the government will be high, and she might not be able to pay back and be in debt to IRS! This caused a big ish between the sisters!

A family was accommodated by his elder brother. He does not pay any bill or  buy grocery. One day, there was no food at home, he took his family out to eat! This provoked the host and quarrel ensued!  He is being asked to move out as I write.

THIS IS WHAT IS HAPPENING HERE AMONGST NIGERIANS! I am spilling all these because, this problem is becoming so rampant and a lady is expecting her sibling over soon. She is being advised by a friend to lay down the rules immediately she set foot in her house to avoid stories like above! And what are the rules?

1}Wash your own dishes after eating!
2}Prepare your own meal or for everybody as the case might be!
2}Don't send anybody on errand,  D.I.Y!
3}Do chores in the house without being told! 
4}Immediately you start earning income, pay your share of bills!
5}After you have learnt how things are done, move out!

Harsh? Well, this is the plain truth and nothing but the truth to avoid squabbles!

Moreover, 2  families/siblings/relatives/friends cannot LIVE together in the same house in this obodo oyibo,  quarrel go shele! If it is not the bill sharing formula, it will be cooking,  grocery shopping, or chores, or cleanliness, or baby sitting the children. And it can either be the host or guest who wants to take advantage of the other!

Adios!


Wednesday, August 17, 2016

MIDNIGHT THOUGHTS

I didn't know when hubby came back from work sef! I just woke up past midnight, went out of my room to check our kids, hubby was sleeping on the couch in the parlour, went into the kitchen because I was hungry ... too tired to prepare anything, went back to my room, hubby woke up to sleep on the bed, he does not like to disturb me whenever he sees me sleeping on my day off, I tried to sleep back ... NO WAY!! Hungry dey wire me! I don't want to eat bread or cereal or chips ... I want solid food. I wonder what hubby ate sef? I will ask him when he wakes up. Everybody in my home, has learned to take care of themselves in the kitchen. I simply cook the stew and soup.

I was just lying down pondering if this can ever happen in 9ja? Whether I am working or not, will my husband come home from work after beating the traffic to take care of himself in the kitchen? Or I will allow such freedom in my kitchen with the harsh economy and relatives living with us? WHOSAI!!! My guys, ENVIRONMENT IS EVERYTHING!  You see my people, whenever I tell you all not to swallow hook and bait of what some married women say, many disagree with me. What works in a certain environment might not work in another! OUR ENVIRONMENT SHAPES US! A Nigerian man came visiting few weeks ago, he saw his host doing most of the grocery shopping, preparing his own meal, doing laundry, and babysitting, that he said, he can never live in America! I understood where he was coming from, because that is not the norm back home, but by the time he comes here to settle down, he will begin to adjust by force by fire without him knowing sef! Nobody go tell am how far!

I am more happier and content in my marriage unlike when I was in Nigeria! NO INTERFERENCE of any sort! It is just my husband and I! Last month was our 15th year anniversary. We still argue on issues, but get it resolved quickly. Regardless of this, it still does not give me the right to condemn or judge Nigerian wives living in Nigeria when they take certain decisions in their marriage. When I read comments in blogs especially from diasporas, I am like PUHLEASEE! If you find yourself in that same situation living in Nigeria, you might be surprised at your own decision!

 OK! I am so hungry ... lemme go and make tea then ... I have lost few pounds by force by fire not because I am dieting or trying to lose weight, simply because sometimes I eat once a day... I only ate rice when I came back from work yesterday morning, before I slept off ... woke up, watched a movie and slept back ... let me go and check my weight sef... am back! 260.2 LBS! ...That is about 118kg right. HMM! 

Last month.

Tuesday, August 09, 2016

SIBLING RIVALRY.

I am part of a family chat group, our grandfather is the connection. The main objective is to bridge the gap of communication between us. It has been fun for the past few months, until yesterday, out of the blues, someone raised the issue of money. SHIOR! He wants us to contribute money,  so as to have a grand-end of the year party, help those in school, help the ones still struggling and help any of us to travel abroad. I politely disagreed with the suggestion because money matter always cause wahala. ...and of course, they came for me! Did I argue? No O! I just kukuma waka comot from the place, I don't want trouble! My eldest cousin apologized on their behalf, I came back, and when I got the support from others who also did not agree, the ring leader of the suggestion left the group! 




You see, some stayed with us while growing up, so I know their entitlement mentality which  caused certain ish in the past! After so many years with us becoming parents, I thought, they would have outgrown it! WHOSAI! I was mistaken! WHY SPOIL A GOOD PLATFORM WITH MONEY TALK ABEG? WHO IS NOT STRUGGLING TO SURVIVE IN THIS WORLD HUH? WHAT MAKES THEM THINK ONE IS DOING BETTER THAN THE OTHER EHEN? If you want to give, GIVEEE! Don't force others to do so abeggy! WHO NO GET MONEY PROBLEM? Even the rich are crying in this present economy in Nigeria! Diasporas are living from paychecks to paychecks! Last week, a visitor from Nigeria got into financial constraints here, he was so surprised that nobody could lend him $500! He has money in his account back home, because of the exchange rate palava. He was able to get $250 after much searching. WAS EVERYBODY NOT SURVIVING BEFORE THE PLATFORM WAS CREATED? Will I leave my own immediate family members to go and help extended relatives who will turn around tomorrow to say YOU ARE NOT GOOD?!


Money and spouse choices are the 2 main things that causes sibling rivalry in families that can span for generations! And we wonder why the white man keep to himself and will say I have not seen my sibling for a long time? Simply because the society does not encourage enabling and sees everyone independent of each other! WHAT OBLIGATION DO I OWN THEM BECAUSE THEY ARE MY RELATIVES? What ever help I will render is a PRIVILEGE! And NOT A RIGHT! 

Wednesday, August 03, 2016

I AM IN LOVE!

The feeling of new found love is exhilarating! You can never get enough of that person, always wanting to be in his/her presence......that is how I am now with Steve Crown's ......................................................................... worship song, You are great! This song has been on replay mode in my phone and Laptop for 7 days now! Please don't judge me for loving someone else apart from my husband ..... he knows and understands, I told you he is very liberal minded. WHOSAI! Not when it comes to infidelity oo. I have a selection of my all time favourite worship songs that I play but this particular worship song captured my entire being and soul! I can't explain.


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Our love story is like what you read and watch on tv and books .... a chance meeting and the cupid shot the love arrow into my heart, and I am crazily in love with the worship. I was listening to my new playlist as I worked, and the song came up, I was like; WHATTT??!! I didn't  download that! I allowed it to run it's course since I was busy. Surprisingly, I enjoyed it. On my break, I checked it out and it was by an UNKNOWN ARTISTE! I asked Mr Google using the lyrics, and I found him!  I sent it to my friend, because I like sharing wonderful things like this. TAA! Not when it comes to my husband sha, I am verrryy selfish about that! She too liked it very much and said she will send it to her loved ones also. You see how the love is spreading huh? OH! I also made it my ringtone, see why I say I am crazily and wonderfully in love ehen? Why won't I be? A very beautiful song, video, from a beautiful voice and good looking man! I couldn't resist saying that! #wink# I love that white suit! So did my friend! ahaha.


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It has top my all time favourite love song Olo mi by Tosin Martins. I can dance to  this song anytime and anyday! It happens to be my ringtone for my husband. Well, like romance writers do say, you can love two people the same time .... you can be IN love with one and you can love the other! I seriously don't understand it! All I know is that I love both songs! Each plays a different role to me! One emotionally the other spiritually, and I am satisfied.

HAPPY NEW MONTH EVERYONE!

Sunday, July 24, 2016

RANT!

Hello my guys, I am sorry for the late update....I really want to be posting every week, but my body no be wood oo (kai! remove that naughty thought from ya heads!) I now sleep off immediately i get home because I have stopped taking coffee and tylenol, I don't want my body to get used to it....when I wake by 12pm, I eat, bath do some chores and back to sleep by 4pm. Today, I said, I must update! I am watching shoki and laughing as I type, we are talented abeg! 

HA! So much has been happening in my place of work o! Abeg, theory is different from practical ....as always! I tried to do all I learnt during my orientation and computer training, but I realized today, that OYO (on your own) was my case! ahaha! A colleague had advised me before to pretend I don't know when issues arise and another said  more duties will be added to my schedule since I work too hard. Of course, I didn't listen because ITK is my middle name and it has been shoved up my a** this week! It hurts, I won't pretend, but I have gotten over it and re-strategized! I have sent my zeal on vacation and dumping all my training into the trash! It is BS!

I now know why people say men managers are better than women managers! I remember my friend and cousin nearly resigned from their jobs because of their female boss. Believe me, some female managers are really a piece of s***! There is one in my place of work that no good word is said about her! Some employees resigned over the years because of her high-handed patronizing attitude ... you know how an arrogant person tries to be humble but it just comes off! I just look at her like a power drunk b****! This type of person like people to be following her like mumu, anyone that divert from that path gets a vindictive reprisal from her. Coworkers said they were surprised at her attitude, that, before she got to that position, she was quiet as a mouse, when luck shined on her and was promoted to that position, she bared her fangs! I believe she never dreamt of getting to that position and when she did.....
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Nevertheless, my place of work is good, in all fairness, I have to simply learn to follow what others are doing...be seen and be silent. ...OK, it is past 4pm, my bedtime! ADIOS!

Wednesday, July 13, 2016

CHANGE!

MY PEOPLE! We are now trying oo. Nollywood is going places! I couldn't believe the 2 movies I just watched in Netflix is from my father's land! I gave it 5 stars! I doff my 'gele' for the actresses and producers for making me proud! A standing ovation for ROAD TO YESTERDAY and FIFTY! Yep! I am shouting out the titles because I believe in giving dues when it is deserved.
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I am a passive fan of Nollywood movies, I mostly watched movies produced by Tunde Kelani, Tunde Ogidan and Kunle Afolayan. These 2 movies I just watched were well edited, dialogues tight and the producers captured the beautiful places in Nigeria .... swe-et! {In Panda's voice}. I also like the movies; Mr and Mrs, Irapada, Figurine, ties that bind and few I cannot remember their titles right now. Nse Etim, Dakore, Akindele, Genevieve, Mercy and Omotola are my fav actresses. Epic movies are my all time fav! Anything that has history or traditional background in it, I watch, hence Asian films are on my fav list....hmm...using fav too much qui? #grins#
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Change is the only constant thing that is dynamic in life and Nollywood is changing for good and I look forward to watching more on Netflix on my days off. Talking of change, I have changed my perspective about some issues in life because of my  experiences and environment. Hence, not advisable to say never to anything.

I still believe in Nigeria for a positive change, which starts from within us as individuals! And it is a gradual process just as Nollywood has done starting from the days of living in bondage to road of yesterday and in the next 50 years Nollywood will be a household name like their international counterparts.

Gracias!

p.s; I can't believe i have been awake since 1.00am...almost 9am now....watching new episodes of Jane the virgin as I update .... funny....and relaxing. Rogelio is my fav character in the show...that guy is something else...as in?!!! AHAHAHA

p.s.s; I chose a small blue laptop few weeks back instead of the big black type I always had, very easy to carry around and I now wear red lipstick to work  .... hubby was surprised because I seldom wear make-up....that is CHANGE! #wink# Adios!


Sunday, July 03, 2016

BABY SHOWER WITH 9JA FLAVOUR!

.....so! My dear readers, as I was saying last week, before I digressed to another post, our 9ja people know how to add flavour to any culture they adopt. Baby shower was imported from abroad by our celebrities, which is gradually becoming a norm in certain circles ....no, the average 9ja woman is yet to practice this adopted culture, because she wants to see omo-mo{baby} first before celebrating. But diasporas are not bothered ..... since they are in 'Rome', they want to behave like the 'Romans'... telling the sex of the baby ...which in 9ja is a 'top' secret the mother guides until her EDD. Abi you want make 'them' change am for her belly? Yes o, we are superstitious. And some scan results don't come out right....stories abound!

.....so! I jokingly asked if the party was a baby shower or naming ceremony? Because of the orishirishi; Jollof rice ati fried rice, assorted meat, asun, cake, chin-chin etc. 'Yes, baby shower with 9ja flavour' my hubby replied while laughing, infact that was how I got the title for this post. The few baby showers I have seen here is simple with light refreshments and over within 2 hours, that,with $100-$200, one can have a nice baby shower without going overboard; soda,cake, chips, cookies, candies and small chops. Daz all!

.....as we all know, baby showers here are usually organised by friends or family or colleagues, to help the mother-to-be with baby items and the celebrant don't need to go buying that special dress to wear that day, as I have seen some of our 9ja women do, anything nice in the wardrobe will do, and the celebrant do not spend a dime in the preparation but some of our 9ja women are the ones that spend for it! 

.....em, the question on some if not many Nigerians mind is; Do one still bring baby gift on the naming ceremony day after giving one during the baby shower? I have no answer! Simply use your discretion. What I do is that, whatever amount I have decided to spend, I split it into two and buy the gifts, give one during the baby shower, the other during the naming ceremony. Q.E.D! What I see here is that, after the woman puts to bed, she does baby christening months later inviting people and have a party. 

Nevertheless, not all diasporas have baby showers, some prefer to have only the naming ceremony. Personally, I always like to wait to know the sex of my baby after delivery....so, baby shower is not my thing...after I born pickin, come and celebrate with me. Ese o. (Thank you.)

HAPPY 4TH OF JULY AMERICA! YE-HAWWW! 

Wednesday, June 22, 2016

TRYING TO KEEP HEADS ABOVE WATERS!

I know I had a post planned for this week, but something else came up that needs to be addressed urgently. Listen! Diasporas have complained several times that dollars don't grow on trees, and the streets of America are not paved with gold, but these obviously gets ignored by some people who thinks that, they are the only ones that have expenses or problems or we are lying.

 A  man lost his job in Nigeria, his in-law helped him to process his relocation.They vacated a room for him while the kids slept in the parlour. For the 14 months he stayed with them, while working, he did not contribute a nickel to bills or groceries which was causing a grudge in the heart of the in-law. What broke the camel's back was when the in-law kids missed their school bus, they walked back home, and thought 'uncle' would drive them to school, he used the second car while their parents shared the other one, but he didn't because he said, he was nobody's help! This caused a quarrel between him and his in-laws and he moved out. Of course, he would have his own side of the story, but the bottom line is that, he was insensitive to the situation and has this Nigerian entitlement mentality, which is so annoying!

SEE! Diasporas have their own problems to shoulder on regardless if they earn 6 figures or not! The more you earn, the higher your tax and bills,The financial request is not just from one person but many, Imagine sending $100-$200 to 3-5 people from your paycheck....wetin go remain? Funny enough, my co-worker who is of a different race was complaining the same thing! I was like, 'so not only my Africa people? Imagine, lending money to a family friend when in 9ja, before he paid sef, na wahala, he eventually paid only half, and the balance was history! Only for him to call few days ago to say hi, next thing he was talking about a business venture...again as he did back home, then pinged today saying we should not forget him....AS IN SERIOUSLY DUDE? An extended relative has been calling me for the past few days, knowing his precedents since he grew up with us, I ignored! I don't want to start what I cannot finish! HABA! I picked calls of another relative whenever he called, so he called late one day, after I just rocked my baby to sleep, I told him to please call back, that I wanted to sleep. I pinged him when I woke up, he ignored me, that was how he became cold! ARE YOU F****** KIDDING ME BROS? So to avoid history repeating itself, I rather keep to my lane.

Let me tell you guys something, many diasporas don't have savings! Just as people back home live from hand to mouth, so are many diasporas living from paycheck to paycheck. It takes a very prudent person to save a little by depriving oneself of certain things, and I personally find it annoying that if my parents and siblings don't disturb me at all, but are rather concerned about my well being, why will I give my hard earned dollar to distant relatives and friends who were managing their lives before I relocated huh? At the end of the day, some have better assets than us! At the end of the day, it is 'you are not good' when they cannot get what they want from you again! A casual friend of ours, have all his siblings overseas, so nobody asks anyone for anything, rather the demands were from his relatives, when he got tired he blocked them! It is the tax return that many use for projects back home. A diaspora said, his cousin made an off comment that he wished he was the one abroad, he would have done better for the entire family. He then asked him, if he expected him to leave his bills and send him his entire paycheck before he knew he was helping?

As this might sound so harsh, it is simply reacting to pressure! You just have to hear some diasporas rant and people back home will feel sorry and ashamed of themselves! No offense intended, I am just saying it as it is! And some diasporas are not helping issues by living a fake and credit life to impress families and friends at home. Houses here are beautiful, streets and roads well paved, swimming pools and recreational centers are everywhere, so posing in front of any to take pictures does not mean they have money rolling into their bank accounts. Growing big in size does not mean diasporas  have so much to eat that it is outpouring through their kitchen window and door, it is simply because most of the foods are fattening...organic food is more expensive than inorganic. Burger, pizza, chips and soda are cheaper than home-cooked meals. Infact, it is the poor that eat chicken mostly here, so forget all that display of food on social platform. And diasporas look 'frosh' because of the climate. Clothes are bought at great sales! I got a black pant/trouser for $1:00! And I am rocking it well...even some kids clothes for $3:00! When I put these clothes on, some will think it cost much! We do all these so as to be able pay all bills. We are just trying to keep our heads above waters, and some insensitive people are trying to drag us under...which ain't gonna happen to me!

Good morning to y'all...it's past 7am...going back to sleep...my off day. YAY!

Monday, June 13, 2016

EATING DOG FOOD?

Good morning my blog readers, it's being 10 days since my last update and I am sorry. Not that I don't have things to talk about, I am either distracted or tired. I tried using my phone when on break, but the auto-correct is very annoying! Laptop remains the best to me. With the kids on summer holiday, my baby will not be climbing all over me now, so I will have time to update immediately my muse visits me.......hopefully.  

E---eHEN! You know there are some people who are ready to buy anything that has crossed the  7 seas to 9ja chei?  Infact, I know of 2 persons like that fa! I only watched in amusement, as long as it makes them sleep well at night, which one concern me! I remembered, I tried to advise one of them, her response was enough for me to mind my damn business! It serves me right o jare!  SO! She had a handle-free tooth brush she used to brush her baby's teeth which was brought from overseas, she would  insert her finger into it and brushed the teeth.


I was just strolling through different aisles as I shopped...last year, when my eyes fell on a handle-free tooth brush, as I moved away, I realized I was in the pet section....WAIT A MINUTE! I moon-walked back and took a closer look...nope, I did not take any picture because I had my 'pangolo' phone with me that time! OH MY GOODNESS! I whispered within me, 'I hope it is not what I think it is o!'On further inspection, I noticed it was different yet similar!These were bigger. I let out a sigh of relief! The thought that went through my head that few seconds ehen? Nah dog toothbrush dem send for pickin?  


This morning, I went shopping immediately I closed....holiday is here...so plenty snacks must dey for house oo...when again, as I was browsing different sections to feed my eyes and save in my head items that are on sales, I came across clothes for dogs in the pet aisle. I paused and looked at it well, because I have seen similar clothes in infants! YEP! I took pictures this time, thanks to the 'better' phone I now have. 



 Apart from the middle dress that has a label, which of the remaining 4 dress(es) is for a dog or baby?


The reason I am writing this post is because; You know, we don't have that habit of reading label on items we buy back home, we also have dubious people who are after quick profit, and some visitors to overseas make shopping mistakes, like I did, that  I bought tomatoes sauce instead of paste and salt without iodine. Some people might have bought items not meant for human use! The orishirishi things made for pets alone ehen?...#whistles#....is same for human beings! Is it candy? Abi cookies? Abi toys? Or diaper? Only, the labels and pictures on the items distinguishes them. But if the label attached to the item falls off nko?  Anyways, it is no news that much money is spent on pets than on humans by some people...so just be careful of what you buy or take, because you hear it has crossed the sea. Please, I am not trying to pour san-sand in anybody's garri, just enlightening, since we all learn everyday. Thank you.

Next time, I will talk about Baby shower with 9ja flavour in yankee.

Friday, June 03, 2016

CALLING THE AMBULANCE!

When watching American movies back home, I thought that calling an ambulance was free. HUMPH! I was totally wrong o! I came to know how it works after hurricane Sandy. I saw fire trucks, ambulance and police  all blaring their sirens down our street, stopped in front of our apartment, as I was wondering what was going on, I saw my neighbour's husband rolled out on the stretcher. A Nigerian friend who was in our apartment, said, 'the bill they will give this man later will be very high o.' 'Is it not free?' I asked. She gave me, are-you-serious-kind of look and laughed!  She then explained to me.

Why I am writing about this, is because last week, I met a Nigerian, while talking, she said, her in-law fell into labour, and told her to call an ambulance, because her husband was not around, she refused, rather she drove to the hospital in pains. After delivery, she asked, why? She replied that, if she had called an ambulance, fire truck and police will follow, and they will pay. She thought it was free also!

You see, there are some things we were  mis-informed about back home because of the movies we watched and the lies or exaggeration by some diasporas. I have told you guys before in this blog that medical ain't cheap! People will be paying huge medical debts for years to come! Insurance do not pay for some tests and treatments.

There is a joke about a woman who was having a stroke, her son wanted to call an ambulance, she used her last strength to tell him not to, or else she will be mad with him. The son drove her to the emergency ward. Imagine, she was in dire need of medical attention, yet, she was thinking about the bill! A Nigerian lady was involved in an accident, ambulance, police, and fire truck arrived at the scene. She declined the help of the ambulance, because she was not hurt, just badly shaken from the ordeal. Her husband later took her to the hospital for routine check up. A Nigerian guy was hit by another car, he came out unscathed, but the ambulance took him to the hospital. After examination he was discharged, he said he spent about an hour there. When the bill arrived, the guy could not believe his eyes! He called them immediately, and complained he didn't have the money. He was referred to a charity organization which paid most of it after assessing his income and he paid the balance installmentally. He said, if he had known, he would have declined the offer of the ambulance.

The ambulances are privately owned. I know 2 Nigerians doing the business. So, you have to pay for it out of your pocket for calling them! Nevertheless, there are some cases you MUST call an ambulance, regardless of the bill or not! Like my neighbour above who suffered a heart attack! 

HAPPY NEW MONTH every one.

Thursday, May 26, 2016

PLEASE, I DON'T HAVE A HEADING, O JARE!

I have been off for 2 days, going to work this night and while resting after taking my Tylenol as usual and preparing my clothes for tonight, I realized I have not regaled your guys with gist from my place of work. You know, where 2 or 3 humans are gathered, there will always be politics, controversy and drama.Some might wonder, why I am always talking about my work, since I managed to get a job? Well, for the simple reason that I don't want the over-sabi working women that used to cuss me out,  not to forget, and to let them know being a SAHM is not laziness or docility! My male cousin was asking me 3 days ago in our group chat why women are their worst enemy? This was because, his wife is always yabbed by women since, he told her not to work. I told him how a fellow woman called housewives maggots waiting for their husbands to buy pad for them. He was so shocked! Hey, to the anonymous that wrote that, my hubby still buys my pad and panties! You can go anonymous to cuss SAHM again...you go tire! If your hubby is not buying it for you, he is doing it for his side chics, be forming miss independent, while he is spending his money on his mistress while you foot most bills at home. The 'unexpected' you guys always talk about, I wonder if it cannot happen to you also....abi people don't lose their jobs and businesses collapses everyday? Are you GOD huh? Or do you know the wife's family background ehen? Always drinking panadol for other people's headache! And to you housewives that will not live within your means and be beggy, beggy everywhere, stop disgracing yourself! You know what your husband can afford, manage with it and siddon in your house! If it is garri or aje tutu {iced fish} you can afford to eat, do so quietly in your house! If you cannot afford diaper, use cloth nappy! If you cannot afford designer wears, abeg, made proudly  in Aba is there! You know you did not marry a 'Dangote or Danjuma', yet you want to frustrate the poor man with your demands! Respect yaselves! OK! Ranting over! Jeez! It has taken half of the post already, and this was not my original post,  and I did not paragraph it sef! I just wanted to get it off my sleeve....

NOW! Back to the original gist at hand.  My first week at work, I greeted everyone I saw immediately I came in. On the second day, a male co-worker who welcomed me warmly on the first day, suddenly grew cold, I thought it was bipolar thing. I noticed a particular lady always shy to reply, and avoiding my greetings by forming busy immediately she sees me come in, or avoid eyes contact. When I was gisting a fellow Nigerian what was up, she told me, I should stop, because they think I am 'interested' in them! EX-SQUEEZEEE ME? {In mindy's voice} She laughed and said, welcome to the working environment. Then I must be interested in the others that reply my greetings warmly and even call out to me if I don't see them. Well, I stopped greeting those 2,and few others that gave me the blank stares, like; 'I beg you to greet me?' WAHALA DEY! Everything in this world now have sexual undertone! There is a lesbian couple in my place of work. Initially, I thought, they were sisters because they ate and went home together. I watched them with curiosity, until I saw the 'man' in the relationship looking at her with soft eyes and always protective. Her dressing and walk gave her away too.

Lemme stop here for today, I will continue to yarn you guys small small. I have to sleep now, I have 6 hours to go. Thanks for reading always. 

Thursday, May 19, 2016

EMOTIONAL CHEATING.

Why do people think, until you sleep with someone that is when you have cheated? The flirting, sexting, spendings and hanging out, is what? As long as your thoughts are about someone else than your spouse, it is cheating!

I was chatting with a relative back home on the phone and of course we talked about Lekan, and she told me about a neighbour (I know him well!) who was suspected of having an affair with a divorcee with 6 children! His wife raised alarm about 2 weeks ago when she traced him down, after not sleeping at home one night. The man of course denied it! She munched their chats as proof, {snooping is good abeg!} His defensive was that, he was yet to sleep with her, so, technically, he has not cheated! My relative said, the sweet words from the munched chats showed people that are in love! Her ex husband was a divorced man before she married him, (so, e don dey for her body be that!) and nope, DV is not the crime here, rather the man got fed up with her and left the house and later remarried. 

SERIOUSLY?  Emotional cheating is even the worst in my own opinion. It has to do with the heart! It is from the abundance of a man's heart that he speaketh! The cheating men sometimes claim having sex outside marriage is just a physical thing without any shred of emotion attached! I always disagree with that school of tort because, unless that is her 'job' you don't need to woo her , since her motto is 'money for hand, back for ground', shikenah! But if it is not her 'line of profession' you have to 'toast' her to accept,so sharing endearments is cheating! The heart is more fragile than the body. It hurts more than the body. If a wife dare tries what some men do and is discovered, the husband will call the whole village on her head and won't mind if she is stoned to death in the town square! 

Cheating is cheating abeg! Be it with your heart (emotional) or body(physical)! Many times, it starts with the heart and ends with the body!
Happy weekend to y'all!
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