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Thursday, January 10, 2019

ALWAYS NEEDS A,MAN!

Often times, I have read and heard some women say, they don't need any man in their lives and try to force  encourage other women to support them with their arguments. As for me oo, I need and want a man in my life! Yesterday, my car developed problem on my way to work. I called my hubby, since he was working from home, he went to drop me at work and picked me up at night. He called mechanic and found out it was the terminal, paid and brought my car home! Now I am getting ready for work. If some of you like, call me lazy, docile, or whatever, no problemo! All I know, me, nitty, needs a man in my life, SHIKENAH!🤣

Sunday, January 06, 2019

COLD LOVE

I just witnessed something that truly opened my eyes to the true nature of some human beings! Gosh! I so wish I can discuss it here. What I concluded from what happened is that: NEVER let anyone take advantage of  you! And some people don't deserve kindness!
And living in a litigious society, one continuously has to watch their words and actions. It is scary I tell you! It makes one grow cold!GOD continue to protect us. SIGH!

Thursday, January 03, 2019

BIRTHDAY POST

When I told my co-workers that yesterday was my birthday, they were like; 'Why did I come to work?' If I can work on new year day, why not on my b-day kwa?' I replied. You see, this is one of the things, I was talking about in my December post, that somethings are no biggie to me again! I did not even cook anything special on new year day sef! We eat wetin dey for house, SHIKENAH! One of the weekends, we will go out for a movie and buffet to celebrate the new year and my birthday. 

Truly, this life can be simple, if we humans don't continue to make rules that makes things difficult! 

P.s hmmm...I am liking this phone-posts oo. It helps with my blog-laziness and keeps posts short, bx ain't nobody gat time reading 'em d**n long posts!🤣

Tuesday, January 01, 2019

2019!

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!
Thank You LORD!

Typing with my phone.
Then, I can post whenever my muse visits me.
Thank you all for always visiting.😁
Okay! Daz all for now!
Going to get ready for Work!
See you all later!

Sunday, December 02, 2018

ROUNDING UP MY RUNAWAY THOUGHTS !

I write my thoughts in my head during the week, and when it comes to weekend, I go BLANK! It is so annoying! Also, I overthink the right words to use to make it short and interesting to read. So, today I decided to round up all my runaway thoughts!  

Somethings are now irrelevant to me, that I just laugh whenever I remember my reaction to those things and my expectations. I ask myself 'really Nitty?' Indeed, age and experience changes views and decisions. No wonder a proverb says; 'What an elderly person sees while sitting on the floor, a child cannot, even if he climbs the tallest palm tree!' 

To every pro-this, and pro-that, activist out there, please live and lets live! Some women love being married! I for one, love the institution of marriage and having a family! If you are the type that likes being single and building your career, please, by all means, go for it! Don't drag other reluctant women with you. What people say outside and behind closed doors are 2 different things! 

Christianity is refreshing to me now,I don't worry about the dos and don'ts of the church expectations. The church I attend is so relaxing and welcoming, no drama, no special songs or recitations or testimonies, no first lady or mummy or daddy-in-Christ, no special chairs or deacons or deaconess, or prophets or prophetess. Just Praise and sermon! You will not know the pastor if not pointed out. 

Some wives encourage their husbands to go out  because he is a nag, or eats too much when at home, or demands for intimacy at the wrong time or has her own under-G moves or he irritates her. But these men do not know and will be bragging that they have understandable wives who allows them to hang with the boys and give them breathing space and laugh at their married friends whose wives discourage them going out often!

Alright that is all for now. Thank you all for stopping by. Happy new month!

Tuesday, November 20, 2018

ALL A HYPE!

It is 2 months I have been working in my new job, and I had to take 'one' for everybody that works in my unit. You see, there is this particular co-worker that nobody could work with, some will ask for transfer or just quit! I endured all her bully and condescending attitude until the last straw that broke's the camel's back! I made a complaint against her to the management and a meeting was held. The issue was resolved and she apologized. We were told to bury the hatchet and start on a clean slate. She has experience which the management wanted.

I enjoy my new career and place of work, but nursing is not a bed of roses! The first impression one gets from talks around is that nurses are making a lot of money! It is a hype! When one of our lecturers told us, there was no money as such, we did not believe her! Seeing the vacancy posts and what they are offering, I  now believe her!

It is just like any other jobs: When you work overtime or work in 2-3 places, you will make some money! BUT, many companies discourage overtime and there are 24 hours in a day, so I don't know how some people cope with 3 jobs! Meaning, they don't sleep! A guy who worked 2 jobs said, he would sneak into the toilet and sleep for few minutes. Another guy said, he did not sleep on his own bed for 2 years! He caught naps in his car between jobs. 

Thursday is thanksgiving day. Preparation is in top gear here! But I will be at work. It is past midnight now, got back from work an hour ago and had my bath. So hungry now. Lemme go and make hot tea and drink and sleep. Ok everyone, goodnight...or  is it good morning? :D

Sunday, October 14, 2018

THE 'WOLF' CRY!

Women in the yore days were seen and never heard until they were eventually given the power to be heard. Thus, many abuse that power and cry wolf when there is none! Hence, making genuine cry for help to be scrutinized first to know if it is another wolf cry or not. I do not go running towards the sound; WOLF! WOLF! Because some are out of spite and bitterness! Remember, hell hath no fury as a woman when scorned!


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It is a scary time for men now. They are mindful of what they say and do! This is because a simple compliment like 'you are beautiful or you look sexy, is taken out of context! An innocent gesture of waving or touching, is misconstrued! Yet, women wants to be wooed, loved and be married! How feasible can that be in the future when a woman can cry wolf in years to come when her expectations are not met? A Nigerian man who recently relocated said; He was in the break room with his other co-workers, gisting and to stress a point, he touched the hand of a female co-worker (Nigerians will understand what I mean. It is an innocent casual gesture to let the person know they agreed with them or to get their full attention). Only for the HR to call him the next day that the lady filed a complaint against him! He was shocked! He was told to always keep his hands to himself! He did not harbor any ulterior motive. Since then, he stays on his own. Nor does he chat with anybody.

Love is growing cold because people are afraid to be called 'wolf'! We, women should tread carefully with this intoxication of power because, we might leave a trail of turmoil that will affect the genuine cries and innocent people. And before we jump into the bandwagon, take a look inside it. Also, remember, every male out there is a brother and son to a woman! So mothers and sisters,start praying and educating your sons and brothers to learn to keep their hands and words to themselves.

Shalom!
Have a fulfilled week ahead.
Thank you for visiting.

Friday, September 14, 2018

ONISE IYANU!.....I AM NOW OFFICIALLY A NURSE!

The race is not for the fastest nor for the strongest but to whom GOD gives HIS Grace upon. This much I said in my Salutatorian speech after graduating from Nursing school.I wrote my NCLEX exam on September 12th and passed!I am now a Licensed Nurse! ONISE IYANU! (Miracle Worker!) GOD of  Awesome wonder! 


Nursing school is H-A-R-D! I cried many nights. Burnt the midnight oil for hours long. I developed hypertension and was placed on medication. The doctor told me to relax. WHOSAI! We were 40 in class, only 21 graduated! The way I read in 9ja, was different from the way I studied here. The questions were not theory but multi-choices. The day I scored 76 in an exam, I sat on the floor still in my scrubs and balled my eyes out! Because 77 was the lowest pass mark one could get. GOD showed HIS miraculous hands and I made 96 in the next exam.
My textbooks!




During my period of studying, hubby was in charge of the kitchen. I worked 3 nights and schooled 4 days. On clinical days, I would leave home 4am to resume morning shift by 5.45am. Sometimes it is afternoon shift and I finished 10pm. 



My neighbours were a big help to me with my son. I had 3 neighbours who were SAHM. My son stayed with each of them on separate days, while my husband took permission from office to work at home once in a week, and on Fridays, I did not go to school, so I could do all my homework and study. Yet, SOME people don't respect SAHMs! Taking care of kids 24/7 is no joke!


Today! I have a new career! Not by my power or might. But by the Grace of GOD! ONISE IYANU! I have tasted of Your power! You have shown me so much Mercy! ALL Glory and Praises be unto YAWEH! The creator of the universe. Ese oo BABA!




Saturday, August 18, 2018

SHAN GEORGE FRANK TALK.

I just watched actress Shan George talking about living abroad, and in her own words; 'The hustle na die!' I loved her frankness, and was not surprised by some of the comments telling her to stop discouraging others from coming over and she should return home then. I grinned because someone had one time commented like that on a post I wrote on another social platform.

You see, people like the commenter discourages others from telling it the way it is! Yes! I am living abroad and it is by HIS grace and a privilege. It was not a spontaneous thing, it took years of planning. My hubby had been registering for the visa lottery from 2001 when we got married until 2011, when we won. We had in-laws here already who sorted out our apartment, bought basic furnitures, assisted us to buy a car, and showed us how to apply for jobs and registered our kids at different schools. Then our hustle truly began! So imagine, someone coming here without any support? 

There are some things I wish to discuss in my blog about living in yankee, but I keep quiet because there is so much insult one can take. It also relates to relationships; Some people come seeking for advise and when you tell them the blunt truth, they get angry with you. When you keep quiet, they ask why? When you agree with them for sake of peace, they ask if you are trying to make them happy or patronizing? SHIOR! Wetin pesin go do? I decided that, as long as that person is not my own blood, I will tell them what they want to hear! Please it saves me a lot of trouble.

Well done! Shan George for having the courage to speak the truth. In addition, I want to say, in seeking for greener pastures, many Nigerian marriages and Christianity is a huge joke! They mock themselves NOT GOD! And who will come to give you the details on social platform huh? So you can use them as a yard stick to measure your own life? MBANU! So my people, you will continue to see the beautiful pictures , and read pleasant stories from diasporas, by the time you come over to join the hustle, then you will know how far!😀

Have a relax-ful  (hmmm...is there a word like that? #shrugs#😁)  weekend!

Sunday, July 22, 2018

LOSING TOUCH WITH REALITY!

Living abroad has made SOME ADULT Nigerians lose touch with reality back home. Many times, I disagree with the comments made by Nigerians in diaspora. There was one particular comment that pissed me off, and I was tempted to ask the person if it included her own family? But I bit my tongue hard, not to cause quarrel. Some diasporans forget they still have families in Nigeria! I understand for those who did not grow up to adulthood or were NOT  born in Nigeria, so they don't know the dynamics of the society. But not excusable for people like us, I relocated at age 38 ... now I am 44 ... 6 years in yankee and an American.

A diasporan once said Nigerian children in yankee  are more intelligent than children in Nigeria. This time, I did not keep quiet! Because intelligence is both in-born and learned! And there are different types of intelligence, being book-smart is NOT the only one. Nigerian children in yankee have more exposure to technology and resources in school compared to children in Nigeria, which I agreed on.

Let us talk about housekeeping; What is in food? Nigerian women looking for maids are lazy! These are common sayings by diasporans! LISTEN! It is much easier to run a home in yankee because of constant electricity, gadgets, affordable food stuff, good roads and flexible working shifts. So I UNDERSTAND very well when women in Nigeria complain .

Which brings me to the Pastor, his girlfriend and 4 eggs story; He took away 1 egg, she threw away the remaining 3 eggs and he slapped her! A BIG RED flag for the girl .... he is quick tempered. Also a red flag for the pastor ... she is greedy! Both of them overreacted! Why? Because of the harsh Nigeria economy! So I am on the fence on this matter. 2 wrongs cannot make a right.

What is in 4 eggs? Too much cholesterol! 2 eggs is okay for an adult. Before I left Nigeria, an egg cost #25.00 for small ones, and #30.00 for big ones. Now, I am told it is #40.00 for small ones and #50.00 for big ones. 4 eggs is #200.00. So she threw away #150.00 down the drain. That was insensitive! How many Nigerians can afford a crate of eggs in their homes that cost about  #2k? Which can be used to prepare a small pot of soup or stew? 

Please my fellow Nigerian diasporas let us be truthful to ourselves when discussing on issues back home. It is a privilege to be living abroad. GOD bless America.
Have a blessed week ahead.

Saturday, July 14, 2018

PLEASE! A HYMEN DOES NOT VALIDATE ME!

What is ya own there?
Who died and made you judge over their mata  biko?
And who told you, theirs is not built on a solid foundation?
Were you there when they were building it?

These are the questions that always comes into my mind whenever I listen to certain preachings abi teachings on marriage. Can 2 walk together unless they agreed? As long, as they both agreed to marry wetin come be our own  inside ehen?

The Nigerian Christendom believes any marriage that is not based on love or virginity, has a high tendency to fail! How they arrived at this conclusion baffles me! And the brainwashing in Christendom is on another level! Virginity anointing??😲

July 28th will be our 17 years of marriage.19 years of known each other. There had been good, bad, sweet, sour, sad and happy moments. I don't have a fairy tale marriage and I had  never pretended or lied or exaggerated to anybody otherwise.  Am I content in my marriage, ABSOLUTELY YES! Am I happy in my marriage, OH CERTAINLY YES! Was I a virgin when I married, NO MA'AM! Will my marriage keep prospering? A RE-SOUNDING YES, AND A RE-ECHOING AMEN! We will celebrate our golden anniversary by HIS Grace.And 'Olo mi song by Tosin Martins will be played😀

KILODE? HABA! Why do we women continue to be our own worst enemies and throwing each other under the bus ke? When have we seen men, use virginity to validate their existence and success-fullness in their marriage?  My goodness! I laughed so hard when a commenter said, there are certain prayers GOD answers only when prayed by virgins! OREUKA! Are we practicing paganism? 

PLEASE, my fellow men and women STOP using a hymen to validate females! It is NOT a criteria for faithfulness, fertility, happiness and blessed marriage! It is ALL by the Grace and Mercy of the Creator of Heavens and Earth .... and patience. Leave me and my GOD to talk my mata jejely. Afterall, HE said; Come let us reason together and salvation is personal .... abeg carry ya own cross!

OK! Rant over! #drops mic#.....walking off stage to find what to cook for breakfast😁

Sunday, July 01, 2018

I HAVE BEEN KEEPING THIS FOR SO LONG!

I have been holding onto this post for a long time, and decided to talk about it now because of the recent happenings in our little 9ja community here. It is about Nigerian men who go back home to marry wives because they say that, Nigerian single women in diaspora, 'don-open-eye-finish!' 'Dem-don-spoil!' Dem-don-pass-dem-around! I get so angry when I hear such degrading words!  Nansense!

How much do you know about the girl back home either? Is it not what they want you to see and hear, that you will know? You see all these our 9ja single brothers so, they just want to eat their cake and still have it! But they eventually get 'served!' And they start lamenting and finding succor in the hands of the same single girls they did not want in the first place after marriage! Mschew!

The blunt truth is that, our single Nigerian men in diaspora, wants a woman that they can control financially! Hence, they say, the single ladies in yankee don open eyes finish, because they know how the dime rolls! How can a lady work 40-45hrs / week, and you want her to account for every dime she spends while you are unaccountable to her? Or you will be using your own money to do big-man in your family back home, while she will be paying the bills here? WHO-SAI! 

Dating here is mostly through hook-ups or dating sites. It is no crime to go out for dates with many men as you wish until you find the 'one'! But our egoistic Nigerian single men, cannot handle that because they only want to be the ones playing the field! Hence, they say the women have been passed around! And they are part of the dates oo! Rubbish!

When they bring their 9ja wives, and the women starts to understand how things are done here, they accuse her of 'growing wings!' Some of the wives show them 'shenge!' I don't know if you heard the story of a wife who called ICE on her brother-in-law and his family because she did not want them to come to her house? They were sent back to 9ja, from the airport before they put a foot on the America soil sef! Another came with 'ojukukoro' eyes, with the thought that the money will be flowing yanful yanful, but got a shocker and was making her husband miserable! Some men will marry these wives and abandon them in Nigeria for years, while they are flexing here and having children! WO! Story brete o jare! Make I stop here.

All what I am trying to say is that, don't believe all those lies many 9ja men have been spreading back home all these years! Just as they came here to 'hustle', to get away from poverty and help their families back home, so did many single ladies! So why call them a name just to hang them, when the 9ja men are not different?

Happy new month everyone!