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Saturday, July 14, 2018

PLEASE! A HYMEN DOES NOT VALIDATE ME!

What is ya own there?
Who died and made you judge over their mata  biko?
And who told you, theirs is not built on a solid foundation?
Were you there when they were building it?

These are the questions that always comes into my mind whenever I listen to certain preachings abi teachings on marriage. Can 2 walk together unless they agreed? As long, as they both agreed to marry wetin come be our own  inside ehen?

The Nigerian Christendom believes any marriage that is not based on love or virginity, has a high tendency to fail! How they arrived at this conclusion baffles me! And the brainwashing in Christendom is on another level! Virginity anointing??😲

July 28th will be our 17 years of marriage.19 years of known each other. There had been good, bad, sweet, sour, sad and happy moments. I don't have a fairy tale marriage and I had  never pretended or lied or exaggerated to anybody otherwise.  Am I content in my marriage, ABSOLUTELY YES! Am I happy in my marriage, OH CERTAINLY YES! Was I a virgin when I married, NO MA'AM! Will my marriage keep prospering? A RE-SOUNDING YES, AND A RE-ECHOING AMEN! We will celebrate our golden anniversary by HIS Grace.And 'Olo mi song by Tosin Martins will be playedπŸ˜€

KILODE? HABA! Why do we women continue to be our own worst enemies and throwing each other under the bus ke? When have we seen men, use virginity to validate their existence and success-fullness in their marriage?  My goodness! I laughed so hard when a commenter said, there are certain prayers GOD answers only when prayed by virgins! OREUKA! Are we practicing paganism? 

PLEASE, my fellow men and women STOP using a hymen to validate females! It is NOT a criteria for faithfulness, fertility, happiness and blessed marriage! It is ALL by the Grace and Mercy of the Creator of Heavens and Earth .... and patience. Leave me and my GOD to talk my mata jejely. Afterall, HE said; Come let us reason together and salvation is personal .... abeg carry ya own cross!

OK! Rant over! #drops mic#.....walking off stage to find what to cook for breakfast😁

Sunday, July 01, 2018

I HAVE BEEN KEEPING THIS FOR SO LONG!

I have been holding onto this post for a long time, and decided to talk about it now because of the recent happenings in our little 9ja community here. It is about Nigerian men who go back home to marry wives because they say that, Nigerian single women in diaspora, 'don-open-eye-finish!' 'Dem-don-spoil!' Dem-don-pass-dem-around! I get so angry when I hear such degrading words!  Nansense!

How much do you know about the girl back home either? Is it not what they want you to see and hear, that you will know? You see all these our 9ja single brothers so, they just want to eat their cake and still have it! But they eventually get 'served!' And they start lamenting and finding succor in the hands of the same single girls they did not want in the first place after marriage! Mschew!

The blunt truth is that, our single Nigerian men in diaspora, wants a woman that they can control financially! Hence, they say, the single ladies in yankee don open eyes finish, because they know how the dime rolls! How can a lady work 40-45hrs / week, and you want her to account for every dime she spends while you are unaccountable to her? Or you will be using your own money to do big-man in your family back home, while she will be paying the bills here? WHO-SAI! 

Dating here is mostly through hook-ups or dating sites. It is no crime to go out for dates with many men as you wish until you find the 'one'! But our egoistic Nigerian single men, cannot handle that because they only want to be the ones playing the field! Hence, they say the women have been passed around! And they are part of the dates oo! Rubbish!

When they bring their 9ja wives, and the women starts to understand how things are done here, they accuse her of 'growing wings!' Some of the wives show them 'shenge!' I don't know if you heard the story of a wife who called ICE on her brother-in-law and his family because she did not want them to come to her house? They were sent back to 9ja, from the airport before they put a foot on the America soil sef! Another came with 'ojukukoro' eyes, with the thought that the money will be flowing yanful yanful, but got a shocker and was making her husband miserable! Some men will marry these wives and abandon them in Nigeria for years, while they are flexing here and having children! WO! Story brete o jare! Make I stop here.

All what I am trying to say is that, don't believe all those lies many 9ja men have been spreading back home all these years! Just as they came here to 'hustle', to get away from poverty and help their families back home, so did many single ladies! So why call them a name just to hang them, when the 9ja men are not different?

Happy new month everyone! 

  


Sunday, June 24, 2018

NO ONE KNOWS!



YEP! Yours sincerely is now an AMERICAN!






No one knows, Like I know, what you have done for me, that's why I praise you the way I do! THANK YOU LORD!

Monday, June 11, 2018

WHAT HAPPENED TO MY BLOG?

...SO! I kinda of freaked out when blogger did not allow me to update because I was yet to customize my blog due to some new changes in blogspot...So you like the new layout qui? πŸ˜€

  The first thought that came into my head while opening my laptop was; Do I still get visitors to my blog? I decided to check my statistics....hmmm....not bad but not exhilarating either! I seldom visit other blogs too, not because I don't want to, but so much is happening in my life right now, that any spare hours I get ... I sleep! Ever since my blood pressure shot up and the doctor strongly advised me to always rest, I do! I am at home today, so I have plenty time to sleep later ... YAY ME!, So, I understand wella if I don't have much visitors. I can't believe I have not even visited my fav entertainment blog for several m-o-n-t-h-s!!!😲

  HEY! It will not discourage me from updating from now and then and paying for my blog-domain yearly, because it is one of my pleasures. My hubby introduced me to blogging .... my first post was October 4th 2009.  It had been a good, bad and exciting experience. I have made both friends and foes and learnt a lot.

   Facebook and blogger are the only 2 social platform I visit. Yes, they are old school, but sturdy and durable like antique furnitures. HMMM, talking about furnitures .... that is a story for another day ... this DIY stuff with screws and bolts, so pisses me off EHEN! WHY CAN'T THEY USE NAILS AND GLUES!!! I threw away the new computer table we bought because we did a bad job, and it got 'screwed'! Please forgive my french and rhyme.😁

Ook, guys! Daz all for today. Thank you for taking time out to visit. 

Thursday, May 17, 2018

NIGERIAN WOMEN ARE SUFFERING....

'Nigerian women are suffering in Nigeria'. This was the comment a Nigerian man made when we were talking yesterday based on his observation after relocating. He went further to say it is Nigerian men that are really enjoying in Nigeria. He said so, because, he asked his wife they should travel back to Nigeria to spend the summer holiday, she refused! He did not blame her, all their years of marriage in Nigeria, his mother was living with them! He now realized how unhappy his wife was in her own matrimonial home! Living abroad, he saw the happiness in his wife.


It is so good when someone admits to a truth rather than pretending. And I applauded him for his honesty. Nigerian women are restricted by culture, society and religious expectations unlike Nigerian men, who have so much freedom to do what they want! Many of you that have been reading my blog from 2010, we know the challenges I went through my marriage, but, ever since I relocated 6 years ago, I am truly happy in my marriage because I saw a new side of my husband I never realized he had; He does 80% of cooking, 100%  grocery shopping, put extended family members in their place, we don't quarrel so much over finances like before because our needs and wants comes first before anybody, he tells them, he had paid his dues in the past!  When we celebrated our 16 years of marriage last year July, I asked him, what brought about this pleasant changes? He simply said; America! No friends and extended families to interfere in our business! NO NONSENSICAL CULTURES suppressing me! When we quarrel, we settle, and overcome any challenges together.  THANK YOU LORD and GOD BLESS AMERICA!


If you doubt me, I will tell you stories of 3 MILs who refused to return back to their husbands after visiting their DILs! I know all the parties involved, before someone will say; story, story again! (sometimes, I wonder what that person was thinking when she made that comment!!! JEEZ! Things I had endured in blogsville in the name of telling the truth and keeping it real!)


The first MIL, came for omogwo. After 5 months, mama, did not want to go back,  because living here was less stressful to her. It was when her husband sent her a strong message, that was when she quickly packed her things and went back to her matrimonial home! The second MIL came visiting, 6 years later, she was still in her DIL's house! She is the 2nd wife , so her husband did not bother to ask for her! But the poor DIL was miserable! She decided to act smart and invited her own parents over. The MIL reluctantly went back home, because it will be a shame to be struggling for space with her in-laws in her DIL's house! The third MIL, came visiting, 5 years passed, her husband fell seriously sick, several messages were sent to her, she was giving one excuse or the other and refused to return back home! They even sent someone to her, to tell her the seriousness of the sickness, whosai, she still refused to go, using citizenship preparation as an excuse! Eventually, her son travelled last month to see his father! YEP! She is still here in yankee! So, I asked; 'What if her husband succumbs to the sickness? (GOD forbids! I don't wish her that, just saying) Won't she travel to do the needful? And when her in-laws show her shege out of annoyance, she would brand them witches and being wicked!


Living abroad has it's own flaws, just like everything made and controlled by humans.  Some women abuse the freedom and drive some African men to become miserable in their homes! Few months back, the African community was thrown into mourning when a husband killed his wife and himself leaving their 3 kids orphans! My colleagues were talking about the issue, that it was because she disobeyed him and went to Las Vegas with a group of friends, and remember the slogan?  Whatever happens in Vegas ..... stays in Vegas! African women should know where and when to draw the line. We should respect our husbands and know which battles to fight.


   

Sunday, May 13, 2018

HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!

How best to celebrate mother's day than with a hand made-card and candy? 

YEP! That is what my kids gave me for mother's day yesterday night! 😁

So symbolic ... candy ... meaning sweetness in my life always. AMIN OOO!

Hand-made , not store bought card, meaning so much loving had been put into it.

GOD bless ALL the children on the earth and thank you for the unconditional love.

LORD, please, bless every woman seeking Your face to be called mother. AMEN!



Friday, May 11, 2018

IT IS COMING FROM MY HEART...


It is coming from my heart!
Praise and Thanks unto you
Lord!
For ALL the THINGS you have done!

I GIVE YOU THE PRAISE!

Thursday, April 12, 2018

MY UNEDITED THOUGHTS.


It's 2.58 am, woke up early, and decided to say hello to you all.

How has it been going?

Nothing much on my side.

FB is my fav place of visit now when I want to relax. 

I don't know what to believe again in social media!

Sometimes I cry when I read about so much violence.

Sometimes I laugh so hard at some jokes and comments.

Such is life! SIGH!

I am waiting to watch the black panther on Netflix, just as I wait for any new movie, though my kids and hubby have already watched it at the cinema, I was sleeping that day because of my night shift. GOSH! I DON'T LIKE NIGHT SHIFTS! It messes one's sleep pattern and activities. I can't wait to start day shifts! 

GOD is so good to me....I don't know why ... because I have so many flaws.

Sometimes I want to gloat over a situation when I feel vindicated, but I restrain myself because of the fear of GOD'S words that says, we should not rejoice when HE visits HIS vengeance over those who persecuted you, so that HE will not turn HIS wrath back to you! Sometimes it is difficult, but I try and smirk a little ... LORD forgive me! I am only human.

What makes people to think that all marriages have to be out of love? if 2 people agreed to walk together for reasons best known to them, what is our own inside abeg? Many marriages made out of love have hit the rock and those ones are still standing. The key word is 'agreed'. 

Hmm...Nigerian men with polygamy! When their counterparts abroad are thinking of having quality life and saving for their old age, all they think about is marrying 2- 3 wives! When they cannot take care of 1 sef! And our fellow women nko? Who will enter another woman's matrimonial home with boldness to sleep with the man!

Married women are now upping the men in the cheating game! And no, I will not judge them, because I don't know  their story. So tell the man to fast and pray very well for GOD to change her, dress sexy, spice up his s*x  act and always please her! Afterall, that is the same advise we give married women with cheating husbands. 

The Jewish men are the prayer warriors in their homes. Then why in Africa Christendom, it is mostly the women that are always prying for their families?

Lemme leave that question for you all to contemplate and answer on. GOOD MORNING! I am now hungry ... lemme go and find something to eat o jare... I know, it is 3.29am! # Shrugs#. πŸ˜€

Sunday, April 01, 2018

A SOBER REFLECTION.

HAPPY EASTER and HAPPY NEW MONTH!

As we rejoice over the victory of CHRIST, let us have a deeper understanding  about the gifts and fruits of the spirit;  Remember, SAME spirit, but DIFFERENT ways of serving and manifestation in each of us: (1 Corinthians 12.)

1)The Spirit gives one person a message full of wisdom. 
2) To another, a message full of knowledge.
3) Same spirit gives faith.
4)While to another person he gives the power to heal.
5)Also, gives to one person the power to work miracles.
6)To another, the gift of speaking God's message.
7)He also gives, the gift of speaking in  strange tongues.
8)And the ability to interpret the tongues.
9)To another, the ability to tell the difference between gifts from the Spirit and those that do not.

I know we have read these particular chapter several times, but, today read it differently and think deep about it. 

You see that Faith is a gift! So Christians should STOP telling people that, they do not have enough faith when they are going through a challenging time. 

And not all believers must speak in strange tongues! So we should STOP encouraging and teaching people to speak in tongues by force by fire!

Healing and miracles are separate gifts. So, we should not be expecting pastors to be the only ones that can heal or perform miracles, it can be from your next down neighbor or friend or even you!

Above all, do we exhibit the FRUITS of Holy Spirit in us? (Galatians 5:22-23);
1)Love
2)Joy
3)Peace.
4)Patience.
5)Kindness.
6)Goodness.
7)Humility.
8)Self-control.
9)Faithfulness.

You know YOURSELF and people will SEE the fruits, so let us have a sober reflection today. SHALOM! πŸ˜ƒ

Friday, March 09, 2018

CATCHING UP!

WOW! I can't believe a month had passed before I updated again! A thousand apologizes to you all. Things are going on a fast pace than I anticipated! OKAY! Without wasting much of your time, let me gist you guys all the things I had written inside my head! Yes oo, I do update my blog in my head while driving! 

First, SPRING BREAK is starting today! YEHAWWW! You don't know how happy I am for the reprieve! My kids went; URRGHHH MUMMY! When I told them to get ready for spring cleaning! I was not house proud last week when I opened the door and walked in, and said; This can't be my house! Toys all over the place, dishes in the sink, beds unmade and piled up laundry! 
I told you guys before, that I have handwriting like chicken scrawl!


I leave home very early in the morning before they go to school and come back late in the afternoon after they come back from school, and I work 10pm-6am. I barely have 6 hours of sleep a day! I feel for my kids too, they leave home 6.30/7.30am and come back 4pm/5pm. My girls play tennis after school, they just flop on the bed and doze off without eating and wake up at midnight to do their homework and eat. My boys, eat, do their homework and sleep off! Me? I sleep off! Hubby? Gets his own dinner, and sleep. It is CRA-A-ZYY, I tell you! AHAHHAAAA! On weekends, we do basic cleaning,  laundry, bathroom, cook, homework and sleep! 

Second, What the heck is wrong with Nigerian girls with proposing marriage ehn? Is it everything we must copy sef? Is it because they saw a scene in a Hollywood movie or what? .... I think the movie with Sandra Bullock chei?  I asked a couple of men in my place of work, and they went NAYYY! They prefer the traditional way! Movies are MAKE-BELIEVES!!!! Until SOME Nigerians learn to understand many things portray in Hollywood movies are not exactly what is happening here, they will continue to embarrass and disgrace themselves in a bid to be like 'oyibo!' Someday, I will write on this.

I just finished reading comments in a facebook group page on a diaspora venting in a video about incessant demands from home and how hard it is abroad. I made comments there also, but when it looked a guy was about getting insulting, I just gently waka comot before I type what was really in my mind ... some people are so filled with self-entitlement! I don't want to bore you guys with talks on such topic again, it is over-flogged already, and this post is getting too long sef! Just know that, it is very hard earning and spending the dollars in yankee, remember, it is a capitalist country, every nickel is accounted for! The way we work and spend money in 9ja is so different here! No 'egunje'! No 'contract'! No- my- broda- dash- me! No-oga-landlord-I beg! No-oga-nepa-take! No well to fetch water! it is O-Y-O!

It's no news many household gadgets and furnitures and cars are bought on credit. No wonder, a guy got so pissed up with a friend of his in Nigeria who asked for financial help, and this guy tried to explain things were not easy here also, then the friend in 9ja said ; 'At least you have credit cards to spend'. So that is a good thing abi? He will be living in gbese, and be paying debt until old age, while the 9ja-friend will be debt-free? My pipo, is that one a friend? I rest my case jor.

Daz  all for now, until next time, which will be very soon by the Mercy and Grace of GOD ..... THANK YOU for stopping by. Peace out!

Sunday, February 04, 2018

SHOULD MARRIED WOMEN GET S*X DOLLS FOR THEIR HUSBANDS?

Good afternoon everyone! Thank you for visiting and commenting on my previous post.  No doubt, many took something important away from it because, my statistics told me so! πŸ˜ƒ I would have allowed anonymous comments, for many to air their views, but as my pipo say; experience is the best teacher!  So, I truly appreciate y'all.


OK! Lets talk about S-8-X! Remember that  old song by salt n pepa? 'Lets talk about s8x babe, lets talk about you n me, lets talk about all the good and bad things that may be it ... ' Yes 000, I am old school when it comes to music.πŸ˜€

No doubt, you and I, have read many posts and comments on several platforms about the publicized sex dolls; Notice,I didn't say newly-discovered or invented because it  had been in use for decades but in secrecy. Did you see the video of the man with 6 of 'em? All in different locations in his house? 

 Have any of you wondered why so sudden? Is it to create more market for it? Hhmmm, I think not, IMO, I believe it is because of the recent 'wahala' some women are creating with their false accusations here and there against men! So, manufacturers are telling men; 'Hey! We are here to help you actualize your fantasy and urges without getting into any trouble again! 

OH! The comments from some women were hilarious and bitter! One said; 'It is like sleeping with a corpse'.  A guy replied; 'But, you women use dildo right? He got her right there! Afterall  dildo is a not 'alive' abi?  Another lady said; 'Who will do the cooking,cleaning and laundry for you men?' I was surprised at this question because most ladies are always forming 'miss-independent-no-doing-wifey-chores-until-after-wedding!' So, why do you care how he eats, tidy his apartment and wash his clothes fa? My dear lady, there are caterers, housekeepers and washing machine/ drycleaners /  laundry women who are ready to do all that  for a fee. Also, a guy said; 'It is only a lazy man that will depend on a girl for his daily meals when there is you-tube videos to direct him cook whatever he likes, that no girl can do shakara for him again!' 

WELL! To me, these s8x dolls are a welcome idea! It is about time o jare! Women have pushed the men to the wall with all their drama and demands! WAIT!!! Before you start clapping your hands sarcastically and  saying EH-ENNN, to me! Put sentiments aside and let us see the positive effects it will have; First, it will reduce sexual molestation, baby mama ish, STDS , infidelity,  (technically he is not, it is like saying masturbation is a crime which is not!) Polygamy and divorce!

Which boils down to my question: Will you agree for your partner to have s8x dolls?  The most-honest-truth is that  s8x is the ONLY reason many married men have extra-marital affairs while money is the ONLY reason women date married men! All the rest nah jara!  Afterall money for hand, back for ground as the popular slogan go ... nay, it is not only in 'opio' work! Many married couples are in long distance relationships. If that will help both the man  and woman not to fall into temptation, why not?  I saw the men version of the s8x doll, I didn't know when I shouted SHIORR! Because that 'joystick' will shift the uterus o!😁

The post is getting too long and boring? Qui? Okay, please bear with me, I am about rounding it up; You see, the married man can order to his specifics and that will spice up bedroom matters. Then all those 'leeches' who wants to suck a married man dry all in the name of  extra-marital affair will take back seat. If you doubt me, when the man stops giving out money, that love they claim to have will vamoose with immediate alacrity! Why? Simply because he is getting enough 'kpekus'  and living his fantasy at home, so, she won't be needed anymore!

Will wives be jealous? I think not! Because, they KNOW who their 'rivals' are, who won't be bitchy, or doing 'jazz' or having a love-child or wanting to be wifey #2 by force by fire or taking 'food' from her children's mouth out of greed!  Some of you might be thinking I am supporting the men right? DAMN RIGHT! I AM! Infact, I am thinking of placing an order for my hubby sef for his next birthday, because I don dey slack for that department πŸ˜€ ...yep, I admit it ... I am so stressed out . He laughed so hard, (it was good teasing )....when I was asking him for his specifics this morning  ... and nope, #joking# I ain't gonna share that info with you! Winks. Okay, guys, daz all for today, peace out!

Monday, January 08, 2018

PLEASE, LEND ME YOUR EARS.

I have permission from a dear friend to share her story to create awareness, with the hope we will all learn from it; So guys, please lend me your ears ... it is worth it.

My friend is an intelligent and hard-working lady, who grew up in a strict christian environment: You know the type of humble,quiet ladies, that don't like to offend anybody or look for trouble chei? Unlike me. She met her husband through a friend, and he was her first lover on their wedding night after a lovely wedding. 

She observed one particular bad habit about her husband; He can complain for Africa about everything and anything!!! Even if cockroach crawled pass, he was suspicious of it's moves! She tried reasoning with him ... WHOSAI! To make matters worst, her husband could not hold down a job! If he did not get fired, he would resign! Just as he dropped out of his master's programme without any valid reason! SIGH! 

Money matter nko? Forget matter for matthias! Tori brekete! She was the breadwinner in the home! She did not mind because she earned higher, but he would still borrow from her! Wetin she for do? Since he could not keep a job for more than a month because of too much complain! Which employer get time for that nansense? His complaining was too much, that he would even accuse workers in the bank of conspiracy theory if the ATM machine refused to disperse cash. I kid you not! MSCHEW!!!


Trouble started when she was pregnant for their first child. He displayed a weird behaviour that scared the s*** out of her! No! No! He did not hit her as some of you might be thinking. She ran to her in-laws to report him; That was when she was told, his outburst was due to clinical depression he had been diagnosed with before she met and married him! She asked, why she was not told earlier? Afterall it was not a death sentence ke! Their answer was; 'they told us not to tell you!' LIKE SERIOUSLY?Who were the 'they' biko? Abi friends or other family members that won't pray for such for their own daughter? You see how some human beings are? TAAA!!!

Being a faithful and loving wife, she showered love upon him, was submissive, fasted, prayed, read about the topic to know how best to manage his depression. She even attended a spiritual counselling retreat for both of them, all in a aid to help him feel better and have a happy home ... did it work? FOR WHERE! The guy-man simply refused to accept he had a problem sef! Or agreed he was ever wrong! He was Mr perfect, while others were at fault! URRGH!!!

Baby arrived, and as usual, all expenses were on her, le hub did not contribute a farthing to the upkeep of their child. she juggled her career, baby, matrimonial home, finances and his ailment, so as to keep the 'ship' sailing smoothly. Hmm! I doff my gele for her oo, she is a strong woman. Indeed she is what I will call a virtuous  woman. unlike someone I know sha ... why are you all looking at me?  It was so stressful, but GOD gave her the strength to carry all these on her shoulders, and you will think the man would help in any little way he could chei? I  HEAR!

Few years into her marriage her husband  displayed a behaviour that drove her crazy! I meant literally o! That she started having a 2nd thought about their relationship. Meanwhile, he had, had one of those 'outburst' that her in-laws claimed it was due to depression, that it took several people to calm him down! Eventually, all her in-laws gave her the OYO (on-your-own, for my  few non-Nigerian readers who don't understand the slang) attitude. He started accusing her of all sorts ... including witch- craft! Complaining about her to anybody who cared to listen, until they heard her own side of the story, and were speechless, as I was when she opened up to me!

When he started pointing that same accusing finger towards their young child, she knew it was no longer 'funny' and fled for her life with her son! She stayed away from her matrimonial home for many months. Her family and friends intervened; He was taken to the psychiatric hospital and diagnosed to have paranoid schizophrenia!!! This, his family KNEW all along, but LIED to her it was clinical depression! 


She was in utter shock! Again, being a loving and dutiful wife, she tried to help, by taking him to his appointments and bought his medications which he bluntly REFUSED to take! The doctors said, he could not be forced as an adult. She couldn't mix it with his meals or drinks, because his mother had tried that method in the earlier days before he got married and he stopped eating her food. And on numerous occasions after he got married, he had thrown her own pot of soups and stews away because it looked 'somehow' to him. That was the FINAL straw!


She confided in her pastor and some elders of the church and they agreed with her to get separated from her husband and go for annulment of the marriage because it was based on DECEIT: Him and his family knew he had a mental illness and didn't let her know, to make an informed decision. And all that time he had episodes while married to her, the family were only giving him sedatives after several people have held him down. She had a break down! 6 years of marriage, nullified! After so much emotional sufferings! Her only joy is her child. GOD, her family and friends were her pillar of support. Now, she is living alone with her child, while her husband is with his parents, and she has peace of mind. We are happy for her.


Many Nigerians are yet to fully accept that mental illness is real and the subject is broad! Depression is not the only mental illness as many think. I am happy her pastors agreed to a separation and then annulment, not the usual pray and fast advise they give. Unlike her SIL who was quoting orishirishi scripture verses to her, that cannot be found in the bible sef! And her BIL telling her, marriage is like a wrapped box, you don't know what you will find inside ... REALLY? Won't he dump his own wife in a twinkle of eye and marry one okpeke  if she has mental illness? I call it double standard o jare! The most scary thing is that, persons with mental illness can be manipulative and will find some people believing them and doubting themselves, especially when they have the power of authority or pulls the financial strings.  Today, as I write, she is a FREE and happy woman ... according to the law, she was never married, so by the grace of GOD she will find love again. AMEN!


Let me summarize things I read about mental illness, for a better understanding:

Psychosis is a loss of touch with reality.
Hallucination is hearing and seeing things that do not exist in reality.
Delusion is a false fixed belief( always around religion).
Emotional disorder, an exaggerated expression of normal behaviour in an attempt to manage a difficult situation.
Anxiety disorders, includes: Panic, phobic, OCD, and PSTD.
Eating disorders, includes; Pica, bulimia and anorexia.
Somatoform disorders, includes; Psychosomatic and hypochondriasis.
Factitious disorder, also factitious disorder by proxy.
Impulsive control disorders, includes:Hair picking,self-injury, and kleptomania.
Intermittent explosive disorder, includes; Aggressive outbursts, blames his victims.
Personality disorders, includes; Borderline, narcissistic, and anti-social.
Affective disorders, includes; major depression, bipolar and postpartum.
Schizophrenia,includes: Disorganized, catatonic and paranoid: Paranoid schizophrenics are suspicious of everybody and everything! They are convincing and manipulative. Anti-psychotic medications are administered to them.

Thank you for reading. I know it was a long post, but believe me when I say, I summarized it as much as I could without losing the context of the story.