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Sunday, October 14, 2018

THE 'WOLF' CRY!

Women in the yore days were seen and never heard until they were eventually given the power to be heard. Thus, many abuse that power and cry wolf when there is none! Hence, making genuine cry for help to be scrutinized first to know if it is another wolf cry or not. I do not go running towards the sound; WOLF! WOLF! Because some are out of spite and bitterness! Remember, hell hath no fury as a woman when scorned!


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It is a scary time for men now. They are mindful of what they say and do! This is because a simple compliment like 'you are beautiful or you look sexy, is taken out of context! An innocent gesture of waving or touching, is misconstrued! Yet, women wants to be wooed, loved and be married! How feasible can that be in the future when a woman can cry wolf in years to come when her expectations are not met? A Nigerian man who recently relocated said; He was in the break room with his other co-workers, gisting and to stress a point, he touched the hand of a female co-worker (Nigerians will understand what I mean. It is an innocent casual gesture to let the person know they agreed with them or to get their full attention). Only for the HR to call him the next day that the lady filed a complaint against him! He was shocked! He was told to always keep his hands to himself! He did not harbor any ulterior motive. Since then, he stays on his own. Nor does he chat with anybody.

Love is growing cold because people are afraid to be called 'wolf'! We, women should tread carefully with this intoxication of power because, we might leave a trail of turmoil that will affect the genuine cries and innocent people. And before we jump into the bandwagon, take a look inside it. Also, remember, every male out there is a brother and son to a woman! So mothers and sisters,start praying and educating your sons and brothers to learn to keep their hands and words to themselves.

Shalom!
Have a fulfilled week ahead.
Thank you for visiting.

Friday, September 14, 2018

ONISE IYANU!.....I AM NOW OFFICIALLY A NURSE!

The race is not for the fastest nor for the strongest but to whom GOD gives HIS Grace upon. This much I said in my Salutatorian speech after graduating from Nursing school.I wrote my NCLEX exam on September 12th and passed!I am now a Licensed Nurse! ONISE IYANU! (Miracle Worker!) GOD of  Awesome wonder! 


Nursing school is H-A-R-D! I cried many nights. Burnt the midnight oil for hours long. I developed hypertension and was placed on medication. The doctor told me to relax. WHOSAI! We were 40 in class, only 21 graduated! The way I read in 9ja, was different from the way I studied here. The questions were not theory but multi-choices. The day I scored 76 in an exam, I sat on the floor still in my scrubs and balled my eyes out! Because 77 was the lowest pass mark one could get. GOD showed HIS miraculous hands and I made 96 in the next exam.
My textbooks!




During my period of studying, hubby was in charge of the kitchen. I worked 3 nights and schooled 4 days. On clinical days, I would leave home 4am to resume morning shift by 5.45am. Sometimes it is afternoon shift and I finished 10pm. 



My neighbours were a big help to me with my son. I had 3 neighbours who were SAHM. My son stayed with each of them on separate days, while my husband took permission from office to work at home once in a week, and on Fridays, I did not go to school, so I could do all my homework and study. Yet, SOME people don't respect SAHMs! Taking care of kids 24/7 is no joke!


Today! I have a new career! Not by my power or might. But by the Grace of GOD! ONISE IYANU! I have tasted of Your power! You have shown me so much Mercy! ALL Glory and Praises be unto YAWEH! The creator of the universe. Ese oo BABA!




Saturday, August 18, 2018

SHAN GEORGE FRANK TALK.

I just watched actress Shan George talking about living abroad, and in her own words; 'The hustle na die!' I loved her frankness, and was not surprised by some of the comments telling her to stop discouraging others from coming over and she should return home then. I grinned because someone had one time commented like that on a post I wrote on another social platform.

You see, people like the commenter discourages others from telling it the way it is! Yes! I am living abroad and it is by HIS grace and a privilege. It was not a spontaneous thing, it took years of planning. My hubby had been registering for the visa lottery from 2001 when we got married until 2011, when we won. We had in-laws here already who sorted out our apartment, bought basic furnitures, assisted us to buy a car, and showed us how to apply for jobs and registered our kids at different schools. Then our hustle truly began! So imagine, someone coming here without any support? 

There are some things I wish to discuss in my blog about living in yankee, but I keep quiet because there is so much insult one can take. It also relates to relationships; Some people come seeking for advise and when you tell them the blunt truth, they get angry with you. When you keep quiet, they ask why? When you agree with them for sake of peace, they ask if you are trying to make them happy or patronizing? SHIOR! Wetin pesin go do? I decided that, as long as that person is not my own blood, I will tell them what they want to hear! Please it saves me a lot of trouble.

Well done! Shan George for having the courage to speak the truth. In addition, I want to say, in seeking for greener pastures, many Nigerian marriages and Christianity is a huge joke! They mock themselves NOT GOD! And who will come to give you the details on social platform huh? So you can use them as a yard stick to measure your own life? MBANU! So my people, you will continue to see the beautiful pictures , and read pleasant stories from diasporas, by the time you come over to join the hustle, then you will know how far!πŸ˜€

Have a relax-ful  (hmmm...is there a word like that? #shrugs#😁)  weekend!

Sunday, July 22, 2018

LOSING TOUCH WITH REALITY!

Living abroad has made SOME ADULT Nigerians lose touch with reality back home. Many times, I disagree with the comments made by Nigerians in diaspora. There was one particular comment that pissed me off, and I was tempted to ask the person if it included her own family? But I bit my tongue hard, not to cause quarrel. Some diasporans forget they still have families in Nigeria! I understand for those who did not grow up to adulthood or were NOT  born in Nigeria, so they don't know the dynamics of the society. But not excusable for people like us, I relocated at age 38 ... now I am 44 ... 6 years in yankee and an American.

A diasporan once said Nigerian children in yankee  are more intelligent than children in Nigeria. This time, I did not keep quiet! Because intelligence is both in-born and learned! And there are different types of intelligence, being book-smart is NOT the only one. Nigerian children in yankee have more exposure to technology and resources in school compared to children in Nigeria, which I agreed on.

Let us talk about housekeeping; What is in food? Nigerian women looking for maids are lazy! These are common sayings by diasporans! LISTEN! It is much easier to run a home in yankee because of constant electricity, gadgets, affordable food stuff, good roads and flexible working shifts. So I UNDERSTAND very well when women in Nigeria complain .

Which brings me to the Pastor, his girlfriend and 4 eggs story; He took away 1 egg, she threw away the remaining 3 eggs and he slapped her! A BIG RED flag for the girl .... he is quick tempered. Also a red flag for the pastor ... she is greedy! Both of them overreacted! Why? Because of the harsh Nigeria economy! So I am on the fence on this matter. 2 wrongs cannot make a right.

What is in 4 eggs? Too much cholesterol! 2 eggs is okay for an adult. Before I left Nigeria, an egg cost #25.00 for small ones, and #30.00 for big ones. Now, I am told it is #40.00 for small ones and #50.00 for big ones. 4 eggs is #200.00. So she threw away #150.00 down the drain. That was insensitive! How many Nigerians can afford a crate of eggs in their homes that cost about  #2k? Which can be used to prepare a small pot of soup or stew? 

Please my fellow Nigerian diasporas let us be truthful to ourselves when discussing on issues back home. It is a privilege to be living abroad. GOD bless America.
Have a blessed week ahead.

Saturday, July 14, 2018

PLEASE! A HYMEN DOES NOT VALIDATE ME!

What is ya own there?
Who died and made you judge over their mata  biko?
And who told you, theirs is not built on a solid foundation?
Were you there when they were building it?

These are the questions that always comes into my mind whenever I listen to certain preachings abi teachings on marriage. Can 2 walk together unless they agreed? As long, as they both agreed to marry wetin come be our own  inside ehen?

The Nigerian Christendom believes any marriage that is not based on love or virginity, has a high tendency to fail! How they arrived at this conclusion baffles me! And the brainwashing in Christendom is on another level! Virginity anointing??😲

July 28th will be our 17 years of marriage.19 years of known each other. There had been good, bad, sweet, sour, sad and happy moments. I don't have a fairy tale marriage and I had  never pretended or lied or exaggerated to anybody otherwise.  Am I content in my marriage, ABSOLUTELY YES! Am I happy in my marriage, OH CERTAINLY YES! Was I a virgin when I married, NO MA'AM! Will my marriage keep prospering? A RE-SOUNDING YES, AND A RE-ECHOING AMEN! We will celebrate our golden anniversary by HIS Grace.And 'Olo mi song by Tosin Martins will be playedπŸ˜€

KILODE? HABA! Why do we women continue to be our own worst enemies and throwing each other under the bus ke? When have we seen men, use virginity to validate their existence and success-fullness in their marriage?  My goodness! I laughed so hard when a commenter said, there are certain prayers GOD answers only when prayed by virgins! OREUKA! Are we practicing paganism? 

PLEASE, my fellow men and women STOP using a hymen to validate females! It is NOT a criteria for faithfulness, fertility, happiness and blessed marriage! It is ALL by the Grace and Mercy of the Creator of Heavens and Earth .... and patience. Leave me and my GOD to talk my mata jejely. Afterall, HE said; Come let us reason together and salvation is personal .... abeg carry ya own cross!

OK! Rant over! #drops mic#.....walking off stage to find what to cook for breakfast😁

Sunday, July 01, 2018

I HAVE BEEN KEEPING THIS FOR SO LONG!

I have been holding onto this post for a long time, and decided to talk about it now because of the recent happenings in our little 9ja community here. It is about Nigerian men who go back home to marry wives because they say that, Nigerian single women in diaspora, 'don-open-eye-finish!' 'Dem-don-spoil!' Dem-don-pass-dem-around! I get so angry when I hear such degrading words!  Nansense!

How much do you know about the girl back home either? Is it not what they want you to see and hear, that you will know? You see all these our 9ja single brothers so, they just want to eat their cake and still have it! But they eventually get 'served!' And they start lamenting and finding succor in the hands of the same single girls they did not want in the first place after marriage! Mschew!

The blunt truth is that, our single Nigerian men in diaspora, wants a woman that they can control financially! Hence, they say, the single ladies in yankee don open eyes finish, because they know how the dime rolls! How can a lady work 40-45hrs / week, and you want her to account for every dime she spends while you are unaccountable to her? Or you will be using your own money to do big-man in your family back home, while she will be paying the bills here? WHO-SAI! 

Dating here is mostly through hook-ups or dating sites. It is no crime to go out for dates with many men as you wish until you find the 'one'! But our egoistic Nigerian single men, cannot handle that because they only want to be the ones playing the field! Hence, they say the women have been passed around! And they are part of the dates oo! Rubbish!

When they bring their 9ja wives, and the women starts to understand how things are done here, they accuse her of 'growing wings!' Some of the wives show them 'shenge!' I don't know if you heard the story of a wife who called ICE on her brother-in-law and his family because she did not want them to come to her house? They were sent back to 9ja, from the airport before they put a foot on the America soil sef! Another came with 'ojukukoro' eyes, with the thought that the money will be flowing yanful yanful, but got a shocker and was making her husband miserable! Some men will marry these wives and abandon them in Nigeria for years, while they are flexing here and having children! WO! Story brete o jare! Make I stop here.

All what I am trying to say is that, don't believe all those lies many 9ja men have been spreading back home all these years! Just as they came here to 'hustle', to get away from poverty and help their families back home, so did many single ladies! So why call them a name just to hang them, when the 9ja men are not different?

Happy new month everyone! 

  


Sunday, June 24, 2018

NO ONE KNOWS!



YEP! Yours sincerely is now an AMERICAN!






No one knows, Like I know, what you have done for me, that's why I praise you the way I do! THANK YOU LORD!

Monday, June 11, 2018

WHAT HAPPENED TO MY BLOG?

...SO! I kinda of freaked out when blogger did not allow me to update because I was yet to customize my blog due to some new changes in blogspot...So you like the new layout qui? πŸ˜€

  The first thought that came into my head while opening my laptop was; Do I still get visitors to my blog? I decided to check my statistics....hmmm....not bad but not exhilarating either! I seldom visit other blogs too, not because I don't want to, but so much is happening in my life right now, that any spare hours I get ... I sleep! Ever since my blood pressure shot up and the doctor strongly advised me to always rest, I do! I am at home today, so I have plenty time to sleep later ... YAY ME!, So, I understand wella if I don't have much visitors. I can't believe I have not even visited my fav entertainment blog for several m-o-n-t-h-s!!!😲

  HEY! It will not discourage me from updating from now and then and paying for my blog-domain yearly, because it is one of my pleasures. My hubby introduced me to blogging .... my first post was October 4th 2009.  It had been a good, bad and exciting experience. I have made both friends and foes and learnt a lot.

   Facebook and blogger are the only 2 social platform I visit. Yes, they are old school, but sturdy and durable like antique furnitures. HMMM, talking about furnitures .... that is a story for another day ... this DIY stuff with screws and bolts, so pisses me off EHEN! WHY CAN'T THEY USE NAILS AND GLUES!!! I threw away the new computer table we bought because we did a bad job, and it got 'screwed'! Please forgive my french and rhyme.😁

Ook, guys! Daz all for today. Thank you for taking time out to visit. 

Thursday, May 17, 2018

NIGERIAN WOMEN ARE SUFFERING....

'Nigerian women are suffering in Nigeria'. This was the comment a Nigerian man made when we were talking yesterday based on his observation after relocating. He went further to say it is Nigerian men that are really enjoying in Nigeria. He said so, because, he asked his wife they should travel back to Nigeria to spend the summer holiday, she refused! He did not blame her, all their years of marriage in Nigeria, his mother was living with them! He now realized how unhappy his wife was in her own matrimonial home! Living abroad, he saw the happiness in his wife.


It is so good when someone admits to a truth rather than pretending. And I applauded him for his honesty. Nigerian women are restricted by culture, society and religious expectations unlike Nigerian men, who have so much freedom to do what they want! Many of you that have been reading my blog from 2010, we know the challenges I went through my marriage, but, ever since I relocated 6 years ago, I am truly happy in my marriage because I saw a new side of my husband I never realized he had; He does 80% of cooking, 100%  grocery shopping, put extended family members in their place, we don't quarrel so much over finances like before because our needs and wants comes first before anybody, he tells them, he had paid his dues in the past!  When we celebrated our 16 years of marriage last year July, I asked him, what brought about this pleasant changes? He simply said; America! No friends and extended families to interfere in our business! NO NONSENSICAL CULTURES suppressing me! When we quarrel, we settle, and overcome any challenges together.  THANK YOU LORD and GOD BLESS AMERICA!


If you doubt me, I will tell you stories of 3 MILs who refused to return back to their husbands after visiting their DILs! I know all the parties involved, before someone will say; story, story again! (sometimes, I wonder what that person was thinking when she made that comment!!! JEEZ! Things I had endured in blogsville in the name of telling the truth and keeping it real!)


The first MIL, came for omogwo. After 5 months, mama, did not want to go back,  because living here was less stressful to her. It was when her husband sent her a strong message, that was when she quickly packed her things and went back to her matrimonial home! The second MIL came visiting, 6 years later, she was still in her DIL's house! She is the 2nd wife , so her husband did not bother to ask for her! But the poor DIL was miserable! She decided to act smart and invited her own parents over. The MIL reluctantly went back home, because it will be a shame to be struggling for space with her in-laws in her DIL's house! The third MIL, came visiting, 5 years passed, her husband fell seriously sick, several messages were sent to her, she was giving one excuse or the other and refused to return back home! They even sent someone to her, to tell her the seriousness of the sickness, whosai, she still refused to go, using citizenship preparation as an excuse! Eventually, her son travelled last month to see his father! YEP! She is still here in yankee! So, I asked; 'What if her husband succumbs to the sickness? (GOD forbids! I don't wish her that, just saying) Won't she travel to do the needful? And when her in-laws show her shege out of annoyance, she would brand them witches and being wicked!


Living abroad has it's own flaws, just like everything made and controlled by humans.  Some women abuse the freedom and drive some African men to become miserable in their homes! Few months back, the African community was thrown into mourning when a husband killed his wife and himself leaving their 3 kids orphans! My colleagues were talking about the issue, that it was because she disobeyed him and went to Las Vegas with a group of friends, and remember the slogan?  Whatever happens in Vegas ..... stays in Vegas! African women should know where and when to draw the line. We should respect our husbands and know which battles to fight.


   

Sunday, May 13, 2018

HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!

How best to celebrate mother's day than with a hand made-card and candy? 

YEP! That is what my kids gave me for mother's day yesterday night! 😁

So symbolic ... candy ... meaning sweetness in my life always. AMIN OOO!

Hand-made , not store bought card, meaning so much loving had been put into it.

GOD bless ALL the children on the earth and thank you for the unconditional love.

LORD, please, bless every woman seeking Your face to be called mother. AMEN!



Friday, May 11, 2018

IT IS COMING FROM MY HEART...


It is coming from my heart!
Praise and Thanks unto you
Lord!
For ALL the THINGS you have done!

I GIVE YOU THE PRAISE!

Thursday, April 12, 2018

MY UNEDITED THOUGHTS.


It's 2.58 am, woke up early, and decided to say hello to you all.

How has it been going?

Nothing much on my side.

FB is my fav place of visit now when I want to relax. 

I don't know what to believe again in social media!

Sometimes I cry when I read about so much violence.

Sometimes I laugh so hard at some jokes and comments.

Such is life! SIGH!

I am waiting to watch the black panther on Netflix, just as I wait for any new movie, though my kids and hubby have already watched it at the cinema, I was sleeping that day because of my night shift. GOSH! I DON'T LIKE NIGHT SHIFTS! It messes one's sleep pattern and activities. I can't wait to start day shifts! 

GOD is so good to me....I don't know why ... because I have so many flaws.

Sometimes I want to gloat over a situation when I feel vindicated, but I restrain myself because of the fear of GOD'S words that says, we should not rejoice when HE visits HIS vengeance over those who persecuted you, so that HE will not turn HIS wrath back to you! Sometimes it is difficult, but I try and smirk a little ... LORD forgive me! I am only human.

What makes people to think that all marriages have to be out of love? if 2 people agreed to walk together for reasons best known to them, what is our own inside abeg? Many marriages made out of love have hit the rock and those ones are still standing. The key word is 'agreed'. 

Hmm...Nigerian men with polygamy! When their counterparts abroad are thinking of having quality life and saving for their old age, all they think about is marrying 2- 3 wives! When they cannot take care of 1 sef! And our fellow women nko? Who will enter another woman's matrimonial home with boldness to sleep with the man!

Married women are now upping the men in the cheating game! And no, I will not judge them, because I don't know  their story. So tell the man to fast and pray very well for GOD to change her, dress sexy, spice up his s*x  act and always please her! Afterall, that is the same advise we give married women with cheating husbands. 

The Jewish men are the prayer warriors in their homes. Then why in Africa Christendom, it is mostly the women that are always prying for their families?

Lemme leave that question for you all to contemplate and answer on. GOOD MORNING! I am now hungry ... lemme go and find something to eat o jare... I know, it is 3.29am! # Shrugs#. πŸ˜€